Good morning ladies...You ever notice how when the sun is shining it seems like nothing can go wrong. Well that is how it is today. It is beautiful day here. I think the high is supposed to 69 F (sorry Kim I need to learn the formula for F to C
) So nice with a warm breeze.
Today's workout was bootcamp 4DS followed by shoulders from LIS and then I went back and did the bi's and tri's from the bootcamp. I had to do the shoulders first because they are really hard for me and I did not think I could get through them if I did heavy bi's and tri's first and then did shoulders...I pretty much know I couldn't
. I really have not ever worked out like I did this week. Cardio and then weights. It was kind of hard after you get done with a hard cardio like bootcamp and then going straight into a hard weight workout but it was a nice change and I felt my body feeling the change and I liked that.
Tonights the big halloween party and I am having some costume malfunctions but I will get the kinks worked out and be off. I made dh promise to help me with the pics tomorrow and since we will be taking it easy all day tomorrow we should be able to get it. The more I look at my costume the more I am thinking I really have run out of halloween costume ideas
I will try to post the previous years too so you can kind or see what I mean!
OK now to the not so great...There are several reasons why I hate sharing this sort of stuff...For one it is not uplifting or motivating and I know yall are always so great and upbeat and never dwell on anything too long. Not only all that but it is also embarrassing for me too. You will probably understand why in a minute. It is such a long story but I will try to shorten it up quite a bit. So if it is too vague and you have any questions don't hesitate to ask because I would rather clarify something than you wonder about!
OK...Here it goes
Two years ago this Dec. my little sister had a baby. She was 21 and married so that is the norm but my sister is not 'normal' and neither is her husband. They both have mental incapabilities. They are also very immature. This goes along with their mental capacity. They really should not have ever been allowed to marry probably but my parents are kind of blind to the limitations of my sister because she is the youngest and was born 10 yrs after me. (2 yrs after my little sister was born my mother suffered from a nervous breakdown and has since never been the same. it was before they were diagnosing post partom depression but since then this is what I figure it was but never got treated as such) In saying all that I think my little sister never got what she needed from my mother nore did they raise her to cope with her disabilities the way she needed. Due to the circumstances with my mom, I withdrew from my that part of my family at an early age and the realationship has been strained ever since.
OK sorry...Anyhow when my sister had her baby the hospital notified social services because they could tell that there might be issues. I just happened to be there when they showed up and they were asking where she was going to stay after she was released. My parents house was not suitable and theirs really was not either. I was scared and caught off guard so I told them she was staying at my house. I was freaking out when I left there. For one I had to call dh and tell him and he was great about this whole situation, and I was going to have my sis and a baby staying at my house indefinitely. I had never even been around a baby that age and I knew she was not prepared so in one day I got a lot dropped on my plate. I really did not know to what extent she was not prepared though. They had not even bought diapers for the baby or formula or anything. I mean nothing. THis is how immature they were. They get checks for their disabilty and they had spent this money on stupid things like video games. They had nine months to prepare for this baby and they had nothing. A lot of that is attributed to them not listening to any one. It is such a horrible situation...I can not even convey how horrible it is! The baby and my sister stayed at my house for a month (we would not allow the husband to stay but he could come visit) (Oh yea and they can not drive!) In that month it became painfully obvious that my sister would not ever be able to take care of this baby.If she was not selfish and immature their would have been a better chance because I have seen where disabled people have babies and take care of them but she just does not have the right mind set to love something above her self and put their needs first.
Ok this is alot longer than I wanted it to be
When we just could not see eye to eye anymore and it was putting a real strain on everyone including dh and I (I think I lost 15 #'s that month) They had to move in with her husbands parents. I don' t know what my family thought at this point but I think his family just thought they had a learning curve to get over and they would get better with time. In the end they saw the severity of the situation and in the end CPS had to step in again and my sister ended up moving back to her house and the baby stayed at his parents house and it has been a fight ever since. In the beginning Dh and I were keeping him on the weekends to try to give them a break because they are old and their health is not great but that ended up with rumors going around that we were trying to adopt him and steal him from my sis. So we have tried to distance ourselves from it but it is very complicated and my parents know how I feel. They know I think that my sister can not raise him and I am all for the grandparents getting custody. The final hearing is next week. I just found that out yesterday. I have told my family and theirs that I am staying out of because after 2 yrs of our name being drug through the mud for things that aren't true we are just tired.
So to why yesterday was terrible...Well I got a call from the grandmother and she informed me that my sis was pregnant again and due anyday. I was floored of course because I had hoped since they had gone 2 yrs or I thought 2 yrs without getting pregnant that all this controversy over the last one had made them realize that it was not as easy as they thought. But I was wrong obviously. I told her I had no idea and that I needed to call my brother and other sister because I was sure they did not know either. All of these 2 yrs they had been siding with me and telling me that they did not think I was the enemy because I sided with the grandparents even though they do not necessarily like them they said they understood. So I called my brother and he is a fireman so he was at work so I called my sis. Well to finish this up...They knew. They have known for a while. My brother said he thought I knew because my mom said I did and my sis just said she thought I knew which makes me feel like even though I told her I do not talk to the grandparents (until yesterday when she called I had not talked to them for months) that she thought I was lying and that I had been talking to them therefore being informed a long time ago about the pregnancy and not saying anything. I told her that when I found out...I called her...immediately!
So my sister is due in November and I am sure there will be trouble but I am staying away and it breaks my heart that this baby will probably taken away and this time put into foster care because there will be no one there to help them out of that situation.
I am sorry for one for the longest post ever and for the drama of my life. I am really not that kind of person. I try to avoid that stuff at all cost but when your family is so screwed up you just can't ignore it sometimes.
Thanks Cendrine, You incouraged me to spill probably more than I should but I think that we all are beginning to have a pretty close knit group so I feel a little more comfortable with it. I guess life is not all sunshine and rainbows...
Any how I am going to let it go for today and party tonight like it is 1999 (Prince
)
Have a great meeting with Jo....!!!!Tell us what yall decided to do for lunch!
Rachel
