Hi Bethany,
I'm so sorry to hear about what you've been going through. I don't know you're whole story and I'm not sure exactly what you've been through, but I thought I'd share a bit of my story with you. I don't know if I can say anything that would help or not.
My DH and I started trying to conceive 3 1/2 years ago. It took 1 1/2 years to get pregnant. I was at the point where I was charting my cycles and checking my LH surges every month. I don't even know how I got pregnant when I did because I hadn't detected a surge around the time we found a positive pregnancy test. Everything seemed okay at my first OB appointment at 6 weeks, but I miscarried at 8 weeks and no one knows why. The doctors told us not to try to conceive for at least 3 months to let my body heal. Then they said to try for a year, and if no luck, then we may look in to some testing. After 15 months of still not conceiving, my gynecologist started a basic work-up. Some of it was covered by insurance, but not all of it. It consisted of blood work to re-check my blood type, rubella titer, progesterone & FSH levels, thyroid level, and a few other things that I can't recall. She also ordered a pelvic ultrasound. The ultrasound showed one small abnormality, so she wanted to do an additional test - a saline-infused pelvic ultrasound to better see the uterus. We also talked about having my husband tested - which he was willing to do, but really not looking forward to. Then depending on the results, my doctor wanted us to look in to Clomid or another medication who's name I don't remember.
We ended up never doing the second ultrasound or having my husband tested. We also never used any medications. I found out I was pregnant before the tests were scheduled. That was about 7 months ago. Thankfully, I'm still pregnant and due in 10 more weeks. I still panic anytime something seems wrong because I'm terrified of another miscarriage. We had a little scare early on, so I was put on progesterone for the first trimester. That may have helped this time - I'm not sure.
I'm still praying every day that this pregnancy goes well. I hope our baby turns out to be healthy and strong. I'm full of worry, but I'm finding ways to live with it.
I guess what I'm saying is that I know what it's like to try for months or years and have nothing happen. I don't know what it's like to have 3 m/c's, but I know that even having 1 is horrible.
I had a lot of people tell me that it'll happen when we stop trying so hard. I always kinda thought that was weird - it was hard not to "try". But we did stop trying when we decided to start going through the tests. And wouldn't you know it? That's when we got pregnant.
Maybe the rest and taking pressure off of yourselves is a good thing. It sound like you've been through so much over the last few months. I don't know where to tell you to go from here - does your doctor have any other recommendations or referrals? I was lucky that mine were so supportive and helpful. I just wish insurance companies were more supportive too.
I guess I just wanted to say that I'm sorry for everything you're doing through and I hope things get better soon. I tend to think that since it happened for me, it can happen for others too. I'll be thinking about you and I hope that everything works out in the end.
Sincerely,
Carrie
