Would You Rat the Kid Out? :)

[sparrow]

Here's a question for the moms...

If your neighbor (me) knew that your 13/14 year old daughter was having boys over while you (a single dad actually, in this case) were at work, would you want to know, or would you want the neighbor to mind her business? This is someone I know, and that my husband has known for a while (as of recently he and my DH even work for the same company). We're not best friends but he'll come over for a beer on the deck every now and then, that type of friendly aquaintance relationship. I think he's a pretty good dad if a bit clueless as to the fact that his pretty daughter isn't 8 any more. I know for a fact he has told her no boys in the house.

What do you think? Mind my own beeswax or let him know under the umbrella of "it takes a village to raise a child?"

Sparrow


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[DianneGallagher]

Hi Sparrow.

If it were me, I would mention it to the father. He's probably unaware that children will do what they're not supposed to do until they are caught.

Hopefully he'll appreciate the information.

Good Luck
Dianne

 

[kristi]

Personally, I hope my neighbor would! Some parents have no clue how their kids act when they are away.

 

[DianneGallagher]

Kristi -

You said a mouthful there! I've come across LOTS of parents who think their children do no wrong! They are so totally clueless it's frightening!

Dianne

 

[Pedmom]

I would tell as soon as possible. Whether you think it's tattling or not, it's for the kid's own good. God only knows what trouble she might get into unsupervised like that.

 

[andtckrtoo]

Oh yeah, absolutely tell your neighbor. The things 13 and 14 years do nowadays are amazing. Better he find out from you, then because his DD is pregnant or has caught something. It's hard especially for dad's to understand that their daughter's grow up. My DH was in denial until the truth slapped him in the face.

If you know the daughter well, you might want to let her know that you are aware of what is going on as well. Sometimes it help kids to know that there are other adults around keeping an eye on things.

 

[DianneGallagher]

And another thing - if she is being so blatently (sp?) disrespectful to the rules of the house - you can only imagine what else is going on. I have a 19 year old and I'm speaking from experience.....

Dianne

 

[blkane]

No question about it. Tell the father. He needs to know for her sake as well as his.

 

[Fit_mommy]

For the girl's own good I agree that you should tell....

 

[dss62467]

If you are friendly, then I would want you to tell me. If you were a jerk neighbor, such as is the case with our neighbors, I would want you to mind our own beeswax. Maybe he knows, but if he doesn't...he should.

 

[Conni]

Tell him.

Wouldn't you want to know if the situation were reversed??

 

[exercise forever]

yes I would want to know if my child was up to no good!


kim

 

[sparrow]

Thanks ladies! I just mentioned it to my husband and he said he would take care of it by mentioning it to her dad, letting him know what's up. I do feel like a busybody but the way things are these days...I 'd hate for her to get into a situation she can't handle, or end up pregnant at 13!

sparrow


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[andtckrtoo]

Busybody? Concerned is a better word. I'd want you for a neighbor! I like when my neighbors let me know if my kids are up to no good. Best of luck, and I really think you did the right thing.

 

[finsgirl]

I think you did the right thing, also. I have 13 and 16 year old girls and I would completely appreciate it if my neighbors told me they were having boys over when I wasn't home.


Angie

 

[candi]

We did rat out our neighbor's teenager once. I did it because I remember how it was when my daughter was a teen. I would want someone to tell me

 

[Kathy02]

You are doing the right thing. Being a single dad can't be easy, and I'm sure he would love to get any information that he didn't know about. And if he does know, then at least he knows that the people live next door care.

Kathy

 

[Nadine]

I haven't read anyone elses responses yet, but my gut instinct is a resounding,

HELL YES tell him!

Now I'll go read the other reply's and see if I'm wrong.

EDITED TO SAY:
Everyone had the same idea! That is so nice to know we're all on the same wave length . Whoever said your not being a busybody you're being concerned is right! The girl might be mad at you now, but when she has her own daughter (or son for that matter) she WILL understand your actions.

Good for you!

Nadine

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[Jennifit]

I would tell. If I was a mother, I would want to know.

 

[Kit_]

Personally I'd want to know as well. Though some parents get very upset if you let them know little joey or betty is doing something behind their backs. I had a neighbor once who, got very upset my parents told her, that the kid was having much older friends in the house, and they were going around and tearing up stuff in the neighbor her. Her little boy just couldn't do that, and we just didn't like them. This was after having her over countless tims for BBQs, and her inviting us over quite a bit. Granted after we said something she no longer would speak to us, and wouldn't say a word to us until we moved. Her son got picked up by the cops a few weeks later.

Kit