I'll try to keep this short.....
Ten years ago my husband and I paid a fair amount to buy 8 acres of land to build a house on from his mom and dad. Didn't think much about it at the time. His older brother got divorced when we built a house on this property and we tried to help him as best as we could to get past the divorce.
Fast forward a few years and the brother remarries, my father-in-law has since passed away and the new SIL decides she wants to build a new house also...no big deal but they get (meaning didn't cost them a red cent) free land to build a house on. Okay seems a little unfair but hey things happen.
Now the brother has a son who had to get married....baby on the way and he moves into my mother-in-laws rent house. His daughter moves in with a guy and they put a trailer in on some property of hers. We wonder if both are living rent free but my husband is afraid to ask his mom because if they are I think he might explode. The SIL's son had a job but decided to quit because he can work for my MIL and make more money doing things that the brother was doing to earn his weekly paycheck from his mom. These are things like mow pastures, fix fences, really small tasks. The brother can often be found babysitting for his new grandson while the SIL's son is out working doing the things the brother is still getting paid for. So now the brother and the SIL's son are both getting paid to do what the boy is doing by himself. The brother used to farm for my MIL (his mom) but they have since leased out all the property so that my BIL doesn't have to farm, all he does is take care of about 50 head of cattle....and sponges off of his mom.
This has been going on for 4-5 years and its really starting to take a toll on my husband. He has always worked 8-10 hour days and we've always made it on our own. I guess what's so irritating is that the brother is just going through the moms cash like crazy. What prompted me to write this today is that after lunch today he was talking about buying a new truck (of which his mom will buy and he will have soul access to) because he didn't want to take about 4 hours to put a hitch on the truck he has, hey easier to just have his mom buy a new truck. Hey this guy is in his mid 40's! My husband wants to say something to his mom because the brother just doesn't hardly work at all and gets paid by his mom weekly to basically just take care of a small head of cattle.
Obviously his mom pays him well because the SIL decided she didn't like working so much so she typically works 4 days a week every other week as a bookkeeper.
Heck, my 72 year old dad jokes about it all the time because he farms a pretty large farm and has lots of spare time and can't figure out what the heck my BIL does with all his time yet how he's able to have a new house, tractors, four-wheelers, trips, trucks,...you name it. We KNOW for a fact that he's able to have most of this because of his mom. I really love the MIL she's a really sweet person, but she lets this son just do with her money anything he wants to and I'm not exaggerating one bit. I'm trying to stay out of it because its my husbands side of the family and not mine, but it is just starting to really drive him crazy.
Anyone relate? It helps a little just typing it out but I really do see why my husband gets frustrated all the time.
Ten years ago my husband and I paid a fair amount to buy 8 acres of land to build a house on from his mom and dad. Didn't think much about it at the time. His older brother got divorced when we built a house on this property and we tried to help him as best as we could to get past the divorce.
Fast forward a few years and the brother remarries, my father-in-law has since passed away and the new SIL decides she wants to build a new house also...no big deal but they get (meaning didn't cost them a red cent) free land to build a house on. Okay seems a little unfair but hey things happen.
Now the brother has a son who had to get married....baby on the way and he moves into my mother-in-laws rent house. His daughter moves in with a guy and they put a trailer in on some property of hers. We wonder if both are living rent free but my husband is afraid to ask his mom because if they are I think he might explode. The SIL's son had a job but decided to quit because he can work for my MIL and make more money doing things that the brother was doing to earn his weekly paycheck from his mom. These are things like mow pastures, fix fences, really small tasks. The brother can often be found babysitting for his new grandson while the SIL's son is out working doing the things the brother is still getting paid for. So now the brother and the SIL's son are both getting paid to do what the boy is doing by himself. The brother used to farm for my MIL (his mom) but they have since leased out all the property so that my BIL doesn't have to farm, all he does is take care of about 50 head of cattle....and sponges off of his mom.
This has been going on for 4-5 years and its really starting to take a toll on my husband. He has always worked 8-10 hour days and we've always made it on our own. I guess what's so irritating is that the brother is just going through the moms cash like crazy. What prompted me to write this today is that after lunch today he was talking about buying a new truck (of which his mom will buy and he will have soul access to) because he didn't want to take about 4 hours to put a hitch on the truck he has, hey easier to just have his mom buy a new truck. Hey this guy is in his mid 40's! My husband wants to say something to his mom because the brother just doesn't hardly work at all and gets paid by his mom weekly to basically just take care of a small head of cattle.
Obviously his mom pays him well because the SIL decided she didn't like working so much so she typically works 4 days a week every other week as a bookkeeper.
Heck, my 72 year old dad jokes about it all the time because he farms a pretty large farm and has lots of spare time and can't figure out what the heck my BIL does with all his time yet how he's able to have a new house, tractors, four-wheelers, trips, trucks,...you name it. We KNOW for a fact that he's able to have most of this because of his mom. I really love the MIL she's a really sweet person, but she lets this son just do with her money anything he wants to and I'm not exaggerating one bit. I'm trying to stay out of it because its my husbands side of the family and not mine, but it is just starting to really drive him crazy.
Anyone relate? It helps a little just typing it out but I really do see why my husband gets frustrated all the time.