Why not be polite to your family?

C

cakebaker

Cathlete
Ya know, so much is said about the manners of young people today, but I note that bad manners are wide-spread amongst their elders, too. This is especially true when dealing with family members - too often we think we don't have to be polite if someone is in the family.

By this I mean just saying "please" and "thank you." Not ordering people around - that kind of thing. So please, folks, think before you speak in a manner that you would not like.

We all learn from example - and the youth of America has to follow many bad examples of how NOT to treat people.

That my story, and I'm stickin' to it! ;) THANK YOU!!!!!
 
I agree with you 100%. It's just a matter of respect and so many people just don't have it. And your right, it must be passed on to the youth by all adults.

Wendy
 
Isn't it sad how we allow those we love the most see the worst in us? I guess it's because we know they love us and assume that they will take it. I do, however, always say please and thank-you to my family. I'm very big on making sure my daughter is polite and you have to lead by example.
 
I think it's b/c no matter what, your family's supposed to always be there for you. So we tend to take them for granted & when we need to vent they're 1) closest & most convenient, & 2) there to take it & still love you after.
 
Cakemaker you have hit a chord here with me. My New Year's Resolution for 2004 was to treat my family better than I treat strangers, and that will be my resolution for 2005, too.

It is very odd that we treat people we don't even know (store folk, people you bump into on the street) with more respect and patience than we treat those we supposedly love.

Cheers!
Sandra
 
I agree cakebaker. I get angry with my dh when his grandmother is talking to him and he isn't paying attention. Also it peeves me to no end when an elder family member is leaving the house for some function we got together for and my dh doesn't stand up and walk them out and say goodbye. Usually we are at my inlaws house for get-togethers, dinners, etc. I still think he should get up and have a proper goodbye instead of sitting on the recliner and saying "bye".

I could go on and on.

Lori
 
I wouldn't pick on your DH about that behavior, he probably learned it from the very same people you think he's dissing. Doesn't make it right but habits you learn from childhood are very different to shake as an adult.

Dave
 
Yessssssssssss but - like you said Dave, it doesnt make it right, or something that should be shrugged of because it MAY be learnt behaviour and therefore accepted.

And what about Loris children/future children learning that SAME behaviour from her DH? Then there will be a THIRD generation of rude behaviour to family members.

I say, have a talk with hubby about his behaviour because Im sure he would be very unhappy if his FRIENDS greeted and fairwelled him in such a offhanded way, so why treat his own family that way?

Marion


:)
 
This was exactly my point - kids get their behavior from their parents AND grandparents. This is nothing new with the current crop of kids. It all boils down to treating people as you would want to be treated, otherwise know as the Golden Rule.
 
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