Why can't I meet people like all of you in my daily lif...

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Cathlete
I guess I'm having a "moment" here and am wondering why I can't find people that are on these boards in my day to day life. I am very grateful that all of you are here because you give me comfort whether I'm posting or not. I know there are many others who enjoy reading without posting and feel connected to all of you. It's a very nice feeling. My guess is that the warmth, love, and support you show here, is also a constant in your daily lives. I've been out there trying to meet others and I do meet some very nice people but haven't yet made the connections that I'm looking for. I won't stop trying but I'm beginning to think that it really could be the area I'm in. I'm on the east coast and perhaps in general, people are more into themselves. I'm a very friendly person and I open myself up to others but I'm thinking that lots of people don't know how to handle friendly people. :p So now, when are you all going to come and visit me? :) :) :7

I'm glad all of you are here and can help bridge the gap that is currently in my life. Big ((((( )))))'s and :* :* :* :*'s to every single one of you!!!! :)

Bam
 
awww Bam! Big huge cyber ((((hug))))! I know what you mean about the people on this forum...they are the bestest ;) Really though, I've only met one so far in real life though I hope to meet a few more someday. It's just not realistic to get to a lot of stuff now w/ a toddler and a husband who works full time & is in law school. I have no doubt that you are friendly ;) When I moved to NY I knew no one although would see a lot of moms/kids walking around a lot. People were certainly nice but of course were in their own little worlds. I am very friendly, too, but had no idea how to meet people. I joined a local mom's club and have a lot of nice friends now. Plus I have met people at my gym. I guess my point is, see if maybe you can branch out into different activities/clubs in your area? That is really the best way to put yourself out there and still have fun :) HTH a bit!


Age only matters if you're cheese.
 
OMG BAM,
I feel the same way EVERYDAY I come to the forum. I was also ganna make a topic of this. I guess you beat me;-). I absolutley LOVE everyone here. They treat me so well, really help me when I have questions, and help me let things out about my day or what workouts I did, ect. Its like my own online diary:D I love you and everyone else here!!!!!:*:*:* (((((((HUGS))))))) to EVERYONE and BAM!!!

Take Care!


Laugh and the world laughs with you. Cry and you cry with your girlfriends.
-Laurie Kuslansky-

~Adri~
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Bam,

I have to tell you that I feel the same way out here in Utah. Most of the people I meet are very standoffish and the friends I had in the Navy have all moved away and have become rather distant. My mother once told me that you will only have a few best friends in life and that family fills in the gaps. I don't think she ever dreamed that the internet would have existed back then. But as for the "few best friends" part it has become true for me. I live in a very small town where many of the families have serious money and family issues. I have tried several times (almost over tried) to make friends. Usually it ends up being my DH's friend's wife and I just cannot make a connection. I am always polite and ready but it doesn't happen. I think when I was younger I was probably more social. Now I have responsibilities to my husband, my pets, family...you know the usual. I really don't hang out at bars or with the single crowd in general. I work with older men now and has become increasingly difficult.
This blog is wonderful for feeding a hungry mind and lonely heart. I like it because everyone here shares a common interest.

Hugs coming your way!
 
Boybert, I really am putting myself out there. I know I will someday meet the like-minded people I hope to but it is sometimes a bit disconcerting because you wonder if all the goodies are hybernating or something. Wait, I just figured it out! They're all probably at home working out to Cathe. Ahhh, now it makes sense, lol. :p

Adri, didn't you know you were dealing with quick draw macgraw here? That's why I beat you! :+ It is just wonderful that we have this amazing place to come to. I'm glad you found this forum.

Big hugs again to both of you!!!!

Bam
 
Thanks Melissa! I don't know what is up with people. I know people are caught up in "their" own lives. I know we all have different issues we're dealing with but life is meant to be friendly to others and help others and be friendly to others - oops, am I repeating myself? Am I trying to make a point? lol. I know everyone can't be there all the time but I look at the people on this board and there are so many that have a lot to deal with at home but yet they take the time to help out others. I guess Cathe just attracts people with CHARACTER!!!! :)

With hugs,
Bam
 
You hit on the head! I think most people are very self-absorbed. As a matter of fact, today I reminded someone dear to me that your life is all about how you touch other people's life. What makes you a great person is how good you were to others. Pretty deep, eh?!

Have a great weekend!
 
Bam,
Wow! I couldn't agree with you more. My friends at work (besides one) are not married/don't have kids, so they shop all the time, go for happy hour and stay all night on weekends, plan all these girlie trips, but I am just not where they are right now (not to sound snotty or anything). I have met one friend who is starting to become closer. The people here are great! They offer great discussion topics, advice and motivation. I'm glad I found this site!
-Jen
 
Oh Bam, I'm sorry, I missed where you said you have been out there a bit. Mommy brain! I know it is frustrating, but it will happen. I know that doesn't help how it feels now, but you will eventually meet those that are similar to you :) Big hugs again!


Age only matters if you're cheese.
 
You can't meet people like us because we don't actually exist. We're products of your cyber-imagination. Have you ever seen The Matrix? Yeah, like that. True story;)
 
All my life I've never "clicked" with anyone as far as friends go. I know exactly how you feel. This group is phenomenal!! I totally relate to you ladies and gents ( for the few fellows out there)!! Of course I am a reserved person. I wouldn't say not friendly, but just cautious. But I have found some very true friends ( I can count on one hand) over the years. I'd rather have 1 true friend than 50 friends that would turn their back on ya when the times get tough. So I guess I am saying keep looking and sometimes you find true friendships when and where you don't expect it.


Catherine

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Hmmmm, Shelley. Well maybe then if all of you don't actually exist, I guess I don't really exist and then this supposed problem isn't really a problem at all but a delusional supposition of an imagined desire. WHAT???????? }( :p

Bam
 
Bam,

It could be because we all have a couple of things in common. Cathe and being fit. Who wouldn't just love people who were interrested in the same things? I feel the connection too.

Janie

"If you can't say anything nice about someone, then don't say anything at all."
-My mother, Mary Cooper-
 
>You can't meet people like us because we don't actually
>exist. We're products of your cyber-imagination. Have you
>ever seen The Matrix? Yeah, like that. True story;)

Actually, with the exception of you, Bam, we are all the same person, posting under different names. }(
 
RE: Why can't I meet people like all of you in my daily...

>Actually, with the exception of you, Bam, we are all the same
>person, posting under different names. }(

Which would then mean you're all talking to and answering yourselves ----------- Dr. Phillllllll!!!!! :p

Bam
 
Ya Kathryn...Thanks for RUINING the whole deal}( }( :+
LOL Shelly. We are all robots;-)
Laugh and the world laughs with you. Cry and you cry with your girlfriends.
-Laurie Kuslansky-

~Adri~
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Hi Bam,

I know exactly what you mean :) I grew up on the west coast and then came east for college ... and have been out east ever since. I thought that NY and Boston were not that friendly, too - at first. It just took a lot of time to meet the right people. Then, of course, I moved - I married dh, who lived/es in Chapel Hill, NC. Southern Hospitality and all that, right? Yeah, if you like saccharine - no better than New England, just different. This is Harvard Sq. in the middle of the hippy-redneck woods and it's very unfriendly. You either have to be incredibly hip, or really ummm ... well, a good ol' boy. For example, the international families I've met all say that the "educated" univeristy crowd here ignores them and pretends their English is unintelligble ... but I digress ...

It's taken me 5 years here and I am slowly building up a group of real friends. Hang in there - and know that there are others here at cathe who understand and support you.

;-)

Arancini
 
I'm generally a shy person and people mistake that as being a snob or a "B". I don't post on here often but read the threads every day(sometimes several times a day:7 ). I have cried when I read where someone has lost a loved one(family member, pet or friend), and laughed at alot of the joking and sarcasm that goes on between everyone here. Not to mention, forever grateful with the great advice I have gotten from everyone. This IS a wonderful place with wonderful people!!!

Good luck, you'll make that connection when you least expect it!

Sally
 
Actually BAM we are all of the voices in your head, we are you....

Dave
(one of your crossgendered sides)
 
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