Where's Manmohini and FitNurseRN?

naughtoj

naughtoj

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I know Manmohini was way overdue earlier this month but I didn't see the updated post on the delivery. ??? And Melissa, FitNurseRN, she never updated either! Maybe they are just busy busy busy??? I was kinda worried when I noticed that today. If anyone has the scoop, please spill!:)
 
Hi,

I'm not sure about Melissa but Manmohini had a long labor & then a c-section. She gave birth to a big boy named Tamal. I think the details are on the Nico Joseph or Sienna thread...not sure...typing w/one left hand (nursing), sorry.

I can't wait to hear from Melissa, I hope things went smoothly for her and her little one.

How are you feeling??

Happy Holidays to you & your little bun. :)

Steph
 
Here I am. Thanks for asking. Sorry, I haven't posted, but I've been absolutely overwhelmed by motherhood--no time even to take a shower. Right now, hubby has Tamal peacefully sleeping in a sling, so for almost the first time in a month, I'm able to catch up on computer correspondence.

Yes, Steph, is right, the details are on the Nico Jospeh and Sienna thread.

Tamal is healthy, albeit a bit colicky. Steph, I have heard that C-section babies may experience more colic. Does Sienna have colicky bouts? These bouts can be extremely tiring. Tamal weighed 8.1 at birth, and at his 2-week check-up, he was already at 9 pounds. The milk has come in fine and he's gobbling it up. As you might remember, I practiced the Bradley Method which terrified me into thinking that proper bonding couldn't take place after a C-Section. I have not found this to be true. Tamal latched on immediately in the recovery room 20 minutes later and now enjoys Mom's Diner 24/7. I haven't scheduled feedings at all; I just let him eat when he wants.

By the way, I did manage to practice the Bradley Method for three days until I was dilated to a 7. I had my two massage therapists in tow at the hospital, soothing music, dim lighting, essential oils, everything. The anesthatologist remarked that the room looked like a massage den. My doctor, though, after the third day and the water being broken, introduced the pitocin. That stuff, in my experience at least, is evil. But in the end, Tamal is here, and he's healthy, and I have no regrets. It's ironic that we (my birth team of hubby, doula, and massage therapist) started out in a massage den, walking rounds on the hospital floor only to end up splayed out on a surgery table surrounded by ten medical people and my husband in scrubs. Oh well.

Now, I have a question for all of the breastfeeding veterans. Better yet, I'll post it on a separate thread. Naughtoj, I pray this pregnancy is going well for you. I feel good about it. As you might remember, I miscarried my first pregnancy as well. Gosh, if you do experience the kinds of losses we did, when a child finally does come, you welcome him or her most heartily. Tamal has been such a gift to my husband and me in late age. When is your baby due? Steph, it sounds as if you and Sienna are doing well. I want to respond to you on the C-section thread about exercise, because my mind is gravitating in that direction as well. Looks like I gained about 8-10 pounds from the pregnancy, although I think I might have dropped even more with all of this breastfeeding. Still, I want to tighten up those muscles again as soon as possible.

I don't know where FitNurse is, but if she had her baby in the last week or two, chances are she's preoccupied. I personally have been amazed at how difficult it is to write even an e-mail.

Thanks ladies, for asking about me, and I'm sorry to have fallen out of touch. Maybe I can get back to some kind of a routine soon. Ha!
Manmohini
 
Thank you for the update!

Congrats Manmohini! Your post concerning how busy you are now scares me!}( But, I spend a lot of my days scared now...tee hee....if it's not sad, it's scared, lol....


I am doing OK. This pregnancy has been tougher than the last. We are trying to hear a heartbeat today, so cross your fingers. If they don't hear it I don't know if they will let me come in later for an ultrasound or just come back and try with doppler again. I don't think the US tech even works today so that will suck if we don't heart it. It'll feel just like last time. But I have hope!:eek: :p

Other than that positive news, just a lot of annoying pregnancy symptoms that probably aren't even worth going into, lol.:+


Enjoy your new baby!:)
 
If you don't hear a heartbeat on the doppler at 10 or 11 weeks, don't panic. It can be like trying to find a needle in a haystack. When Tamal was in utero, the doc couldn't pick up a heartbeat on the doppler at 11 weeks. Of course, I freaked out, feeling as if I were relieving the whole miscarriage thing since that's exactly how it started---no heartbeat on the doppler. They sent me down the hall to the U/S for my piece of mind. So try not to worry if the Doppler doesn't find anything yet. I just feel everything will be fine.
Manmohini
 
Manmohini,

Well, they DID NOT hear the heartbeat and yes, I am freaking out reliving the whole miscarriage thing again since that's exactly how it started, lol. Unfortunately for me, my doctor's ultrasound tech isn't in until Monday so I have to wait until then. Can you believe that? This is totally what I was afraid of and it is MUCH harder to stay calm and anxiety free than I thought! Hubby and I even had a huge blow up fight lastnight. You can just feel the tension in the air! Then you think....hmmm....my boobs have been less sore, less nausea...but MORE tired, so hmmmm..... It is just crazy.

I won't lie though. I am very, very scared but very, very powerless. What can you do?x( :( TRYING TRYING TRYING to stay positive though!:p
 
Hi Naughtoj,

I'm so sorry you're going through this, hang in there though good things do happen. I totally understand what you're feeling and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I went through the same thing at around 10 weeks and they weren't able to hear the heartbeat. I felt awful and spent the next 2 weeks trying to keep the negative thoughts at bay. I was seeing an acupuncturist at the time and she insisted that I still had a "slippery pulse", that's how they know a woman is expecting. I think her reassurance is what helped me stay optimistic. I was seeing her for a number of ailments but she specialized in fertility so we added in treatments to support the baby -- basically miscarriage avoidance. I don't know if this is an option for you (acupuncture treatments) as the pregnancy continues but I looked forward to it each week because it made me feel empowered, like I was doing all that I could to support and foster the life inside of me.

At around 6 months along there's a "beautiful baby" treatment where the Chinese believe that this will filter out the negative traits of the parents and give the child the beautiful positive traits. That was fun to think about. Anyway, I ended my treatments after the 6th month but considered going back for help with turning the baby at 34 weeks -- I didn't need her help though. They can also help with induction and any swelling you may have.

Here's a link to a site with a brief overview of how acupuncture can support pregnancy/fertility

http://www.acupunctureofsantamonica.com/conditionsdetail.html

I hope this helps as a way to take some control...a little anyway. Try to take care of yourself in the meantime, that will help both you and your baby. I'll be thinking of you and sending healthy vibes your way. :) Please keep us posted.

Best,
Steph
 
Steph,

Thank you so much for addressing me. Interesting about the acupuncture. It does sound like a great way to try to control something you can't control.}( Positive vibes sure can't hurt. I think I will feel much better on Monday, however. I had been doing OK with the stress/anxiety until my last appt. Once I get over this hump, I really thing I'll have some peace! (don't call me on that though, lol)

I WILL keep you posted!:D
 
You are so welcome, I feel for you. I think many of us who've had miscarriages have a tough time in the 3rd month. It's easy to miss a heartbeat and it's common to have your hormones stabilize, so suddenly you begin to feel less pregnant and more "normal". A couple of midwives told me that while I went through my panic time...I just remembered. So if it's any consolation it may just be par for the course, unfortunately. :(

I hope the weekend is relatively peaceful for you.

Steph
 
Dear Naughtoj,
I'm saying this to myself as well, but you've got to work with your mind and try to control it. In other words, take one day at a time and be peaceful with with each. Try to keep your mind from worst case scenarios. Childbearing, birth, and raising children is beset with dangers at every step. You can drive yourself absolutely crazy, and it's not good for the child to experience that level of stress hormone.

Once you get over the 16 week hump, then it's pre-term labor; after the 37 week hump, then it's stillbirth; after birth, then it's SIDs or some nasty virus/disease. And on and on and on. The more we worry, the less we enjoy the pregnancy, the birth, and the child when he or she comes. Children can teach us to live in the moment as they do and not in the past--lamenting and regretting--and not in the future--worrying about what can go wrong. They just deal with life as it comes. We can learn a lot from them. The more we worry, the more we rob ourselves of the joy of the moment....and the moment is all we ever have. The past is finished and the future is not guaranteed.

So please try to relax. Steph has a good idea about acupuncture. Like many of us stressed-out, overworked Americans, you may need help learning how to relax in a natural and organic way. I have been trying to learn this art over the years through the practice of yoga and meditation. There are other ways to do this as well. This would be a great gift to yourself and your baby.

My husband who works with Christians at a hospice directs them to traditions of contemplative prayer that harken back to the conception of Christianity. He tells me that the worry beads of the Greeks is the same principle, but in all traditions, humans have found ways to become centered and attentively relaxed.

I wonder, Naughtoj, if given your circumstances--past loss and inclination to anxiety--if you might find a more peaceful image for your posts--maybe a calm, centered pregnant women. This might better help you meditate on and visualize your desired outcome. The current image might not be helpful. What we visualize is important.

About the doppler: at 10, 12, 14 weeks, it is very hard to find the heartbeat this way. The baby is often in a position that makes it impossible. As I said, the doctor couldn't find Tamal's at this age, and here is now a vigorous, healthy baby boy. I know it sounds hard but Try to be peaceful today. Spend time in activities that calm you--hiking, listening to music, cooking, etc. Then go in for the U/S tommorow, and I'm sure everything will be okay.
Manmohini
 
I can't believe I forgot to update here yesterday!

The DR Appt went more wonderfully than we ever imagined! There is a real baby kicking and squirming and all in there! Heart beating away at 158 bpm. All looks good! We have an US pic and a streaming video but I have to figure out how to post all that, make it smaller, etc....any ideas?? I have a pic on photobucket but I can't figure out how to make it smaller. When I post it it gets huge and then cuts off part of bubs!x(

Anyway, you guys, I can't tell you the feeling of relief that overcame my husband and I. All day yesterday, both him and I were both absolutely sick with worry. Once we saw that picture on the screen...it is like a huge black cloud lifted! We went out and ate 1.5 pounds of snow and king crab legs. Mmmmm. What a celebration!!

Whoot! Whoot!

Now I am trying not to throw up my morning coffee and am wondering when I will (ever again) get more than two consecutive hours of sleep a night. Between getting up to pee and this new symptom of my arms falling asleep (???what's up with that?), seems like quality sleep is a thing of the past. Oh well, I'll take it!!!!!}( :D

Thank you all!:9
 
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