When someone owes you money ?

gidget1978

gidget1978

Cathlete
Im not going to get into full detail b/c it will take to long. But DD was suppose to go visit her father ( I use the word "father" losely) in Aug month, it didn't pan out and he ended up owening me money.
I text him and told him the amount that he owed me with no response but I knew he was vaca with his family. A week after that I text him again, asking him if he received my first text and he said yes and wanted to know if we excepted email money transfers. About 3-4 weeks ago I text him the email address and for some reason he thought that his wife had already emailed the money. Im not sure why he would think that b/c I never sent them an email address. He said that he would get to it and I haven't heard anything since.
Last week DH asked me if we ever received the money and I said "no". Now what do I do? Do I contact him and ask him if he sent it to the wrong email address? I don't want nag him just incase he doesn't have the money AND I don't want him to think that I need the money either. But I know that if I don't do anything for a little while, I will probably forget all about it.

Lori:)
 
I hate dealing with people owing me money. Depending on the amount though, I would be relentless about it and if it annoys them, who cares?! It's your money!

Instead of texting, I would call him directly and tell him that you haven't received it yet, give your email again, and see what happens. I think you'll get a speedier reaction by talking directly to him instead of via text message or email. You don't need to give reasons why you are asking for it; it's your money and you're entitled to it.
 
gidget1978 said:
I know that if I don't do anything for a little while, I will probably forget all about it.
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You know your brother better than I do, but it sounds to me like he's stringing you along (sounds like a bad Ebay buyer I had a while ago), and he's hoping that is exactly what will happen.

I'd call and talk to him directly.
 
Lori nag him about it. He owes you the money, . . period! Send him e-mails from your emails from your email account to make sure he has the right account. Honestly he probably didn't send the money. If you want to be dipolmatic just keep texting him and emailing him saying that you didn't get it and you just want to be sure that he didn't just send it out to the wrong address and pay someone else who shouldn't have gotten it. Or you can say that you're trying to balance your account and that you have it noted that you should have that amount of money and that it didn't go through. Who cares if he thinks that you need the money, he HAS to pay you back it just isn't right of him to wait for you to forget about it, . . . which he may be trying to do. Sorry you are going through this. Hope you get your money.
 
kathryn said:
You know your brother better than I do, but it sounds to me like he's stringing you along (sounds like a bad Ebay buyer I had a while ago), and he's hoping that is exactly what will happen.

I'd call and talk to him directly.
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Kathryn, its not my brother, its my daughters father. I had to reread my post to see if I said "my brother" anywhere...LOL
 
So I text him again. Funny thing is, the last time I spoke to his wife she wasn't going back to work b/c it was pointless for her to work and pay out most of it to a sitter. Now she is gone back to work and he said that they would send the money on pay day. In the meantime, she emailed me and wanted to know what was a good email to use. So no, they have never tried sending the money. Im wondering if he will send the whole amount...time will tell!

Lori:)
 
gidget1978 said:
So I text him again. Funny thing is, the last time I spoke to his wife she wasn't going back to work b/c it was pointless for her to work and pay out most of it to a sitter. Now she is gone back to work and he said that they would send the money on pay day. In the meantime, she emailed me and wanted to know what was a good email to use. So no, they have never tried sending the money. Im wondering if he will send the whole amount...time will tell!

Lori:)
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Keep track of all those texts Lori, . . who knows I might see you on Judge Judy!! IMO sounds like they're trying to pull a fast one on you.
 
Left hand/right hand

I would make sure that she's not holding out on paying you when he thinks she did pay you and here she hasn't. The left hand may not know what the right hand is doing.
 
gidget1978 said:
Kathryn, its not my brother, its my daughters father. I had to reread my post to see if I said "my brother" anywhere...LOL
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Duh!

Nope, you didn't. And I DID read your post and saw you were talking about your daughter's father (and I have NO idea how "brother" came out when I typed my response!).
 
This sounds really silly to me. Why don't you just call him and tell him to please send a check/whatever for whatever he owes you? Who really cares if he thinks you might need the money? You are obviously concerned about it. It sounds like he hasn't done anything for your daughter. You seem to have some compassion that he might not be able to afford it. Why not just ask him on the phone? From my experience, texts are not a good communication device.

Good luck getting your money back.
 
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