What does everyone have planned for Fathers Day?
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nancy324
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Sunday, Kathryn.
I was just thinking that this is my first father's day without a dad. Fortunately, we never made a big deal out of father's day, probably because it was so close to his birthday and he liked to be fussed over on his birthday, and we were all fussed out by father's day. So father's day isn't too sad for me. Besides, we all just got over being sad on his birthday.
I'm sure with each year it will get easier for my family. But it's SOOOOO strange to have a father for 48 years and then suddenly not have one! But somehow, I really don't quite feel fatherless. He was such a major presence for so long, in a way I'll always be his kid.
I was just thinking that this is my first father's day without a dad. Fortunately, we never made a big deal out of father's day, probably because it was so close to his birthday and he liked to be fussed over on his birthday, and we were all fussed out by father's day. So father's day isn't too sad for me. Besides, we all just got over being sad on his birthday.
I'm sure with each year it will get easier for my family. But it's SOOOOO strange to have a father for 48 years and then suddenly not have one! But somehow, I really don't quite feel fatherless. He was such a major presence for so long, in a way I'll always be his kid.
kathryn
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Nancy, I'm sorry to hear about your loss. It's tough. I lost my dad to cancer when I was in my thirties. For several months, I tried to keep him around still, by taking some of his old sweaters and wearing them, by buying some of his favorite gum (and I'm not a gum chewer!).
Losing a parent is hard, no matter what age you are when you do, but I would think it would be even tougher on younger kids, who are still living with their parents when one passes. That's why it really ticks me off when I see somebody like Tony Randall having a kid when he's 80, or Jerry Lewis (who doesn't look long for this world) having young children. And most recently, that women who is 70? having a child by artificial insemination. They're all setting up their kids to be 1/2 orphaned young.
Sorry about the sad topic.
When I did do father's day, it wasn't a big deal. Socks (maybe a few ties, but he rarely wore any, so they were mostly from when I was a kid), after shave, some bogus gift. A nice card. A nice meal. No biggie.
Losing a parent is hard, no matter what age you are when you do, but I would think it would be even tougher on younger kids, who are still living with their parents when one passes. That's why it really ticks me off when I see somebody like Tony Randall having a kid when he's 80, or Jerry Lewis (who doesn't look long for this world) having young children. And most recently, that women who is 70? having a child by artificial insemination. They're all setting up their kids to be 1/2 orphaned young.
Sorry about the sad topic.
When I did do father's day, it wasn't a big deal. Socks (maybe a few ties, but he rarely wore any, so they were mostly from when I was a kid), after shave, some bogus gift. A nice card. A nice meal. No biggie.
nancy324
Cathlete
Sorry that you have to go through this Dallas. I think that Kathryn is right that the younger you are, the harder it is. I was lucky enough to have my Dad until I was age 48. I know I have an awful lot to be grateful for. They say the first year is by far the hardest, and that time softens the edges.
kathryn
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They say the first
>year is by far the hardest, and that time softens the edges.
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That's a good way of putting it. The pain becomes more of a nostalgia, a "I wish s/he were here to share this moment." Same thing with any loved one (I feel the same about the cat love of my life who passed away 4 years ago). But every once in a while, something will just "get you" and it comes back a little stronger.
>year is by far the hardest, and that time softens the edges.
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That's a good way of putting it. The pain becomes more of a nostalgia, a "I wish s/he were here to share this moment." Same thing with any loved one (I feel the same about the cat love of my life who passed away 4 years ago). But every once in a while, something will just "get you" and it comes back a little stronger.