What do you think?

cwsoxfan

cwsoxfan

Cathlete
My DH has been going to the gym for over a year now. Was a long time home exerciser. He's gotten to know a good group of guys. This morning one of the regular girls asked him to go outside for a run. When he told me I said while laughing, "Looks like you have a little admirer." I then asked if he went. He didn't because he can't run right now because of an injury. Knowing him I KNOW that he wouldn't have gone anyway. I know that it's innocent, but after I hung up the phone with him I got to thinking about it.

What's your take on this? Just curious.

Dallas
 
I think that would bother me, but sounds like problem solved since he wouldn't go anyhow.

"you miss 100% of the shots you never take"

Debbie
 
Was it LauraMax????

Just kidding!

:p :p

Marie

PS: I wouldn't like it, either, but since he didn't go, no problem...
 
I would not worry he didnt go and big thing here he told you right away .. Sounds like Hes got nothing to hide ... "people who have nothing to hide hide nothing " Dr phil s saying.... Its not your hubbys fault she asked him !!!!
 
NO! It wasn't me!!!!!!!!

I wouldn't worry about it either.......he didn't go, plus you gotta trust your husband, right?
 
I am liking the fact that he told you about it. It's very likely an innocent incident. Do you go to the gym with him? If not, go with him. Trust me.
 
Good quote Mary, I use that one all the time. I think he told you for a reason and that's a good thing. Now, if it were me, I'd ask him to introduce her to me just so she gets the point}( }(
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Plus it might just be an innocent mistake on her part. Does he wear his wedding band to the gym? If not, perhaps you might ask him to do that for a bit... she probably doesn't realize he is married (and if she does, she is just a skank and not worth worrying about). ;-)

Marie
 
As someone who has more male friends with similar interests than female friends with similar interests, I don't see anything wrong with it.

I've done (and still do) similar things with lots of guys that weren't DH (golf games, skiing, rock climbing) with no ulterior motives on either end.
 
I think the fact that he told you is very positive. Unless he gives you a reason to think otherwise...I'd trust him.

~Marietta
 
I wouldn't worry about it since he told you about it. It is when they don't tell you that you should worry!

Missy

ETA However, I would have no problem going to the gym so that I could mark my territory.....}(
 
>ETA However, I would have no problem going to the gym so that
>I could mark my territory.....}(

My point exactly! Even if you only go a couple of times or once in awhile, a message is sent. I like to give most people the benefit of the doubt. However, sometimes it is best to be proactive in these matters.
 
>Was it LauraMax????
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>Just kidding!
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>:p :p
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Ha Ha! Marie :7

Yeah, I trust my DH. He would never do anything. However, what if this girl doesn't leave him alone?! Hey, maybe it's a good thing I've gotten really good at KPC and KM! LOL!!! You're right I'd love to go work out with him, but he leaves at 4:45A. I work out in the basement while the kids are sleeping upstairs.

No, he doesn't wear his ring. He's actually only worn it a handful of times in our almost ten years together. It used to bother me, but not as much anymore.

I had and still do have a lot of guys friends, but I've known them for over 20 years now. Maybe she's just trying to strike up a friendship.

Oh well, I won't lose sleep over it.

Thanks everyone!

Dallas
 
I'm with Gayle. Nothing to worry about. Men should have female friends, and vice versa. Plus sometimes its nice to have a guy to talk to about something minor that has been bugging me about my DH. He can tell me if it's a normal guy thing and something I should learn to live with or not. My DH knows all of my guy friends, and I know all of his gal friends. And I trust him totally - otherwise why be married?
 
Hey, I was just talking to my husband about this. He says that the group of guys he works out with call the group of girls there Desperate Housewives. Now that would make me worry a little more. Did you ever see that show! Ha ha! :7

Dallas
 
lol, Dallas I wouldn't worry, the hardest and best thing is to trust completely. If you show interest in what happened, then it'll make him feel uncomfortable and may not tell you about a future incident if one ever happens. As she won't want to upset you, or some other weird ideas that guys think up, for not telling. He let you know, which tells you, that he trusts you not to be upset or worry about the incident. Since he doesn't wear a ring, and if he's in good shape there will be a few women who hit on him. But as long as you trust and know he won't do anything, then there isn't a problem, and he’ll drive them away himself. Put yourself in his place, if you were him, what would you like your wife to do/say/react?

HTH,

Kit
 
Sorry if this has been said but:

There really is no need to get upset. He didn't do anything wrong. I don't think it would have been so bad if he went on the run either. It's a run, not dinner. Besides, maybe she was just uncomfortable running by herself. Our town does have some "missing female joggers".

Let's say she was flirting with your DH...what is so wrong with that? I know my DH gets hit on but I expect that. I think he is hot, It would be nieve to expect that other women do not find him attractive as well.
 
Thanks Kit and Sarah.

I'm not upset. We were actually joking around about it when he got home. My dd brought up my Dominick's admirer. I can't believe she remembered that. I do think my dh is hot and he's in the best shape ever. It's natural, like you said, that he'll draw attention to himself. He's very modest though and gets embarassed. I guess she asked a couple of other guys to go jogging too. No takers though.

Don't worry. Be happy.:)

Thanks, Dallas
 
Hi Ladies

Doesn't seem like there is anything to worry about since he didn't go. That said, maybe I am old fashioned, but I wouldn't be comfortable with this scenario, unless it was a woman my DH had known for years and years. I know too many women - including some of my own single friends! - who have zero qualms about going after a married man. So why even be in that situation to begin with? I trust my DH completely...just wouldn't want someone to have the chance to play those games with him.

But, as I said, I can be old fashioned about these things.

Sparrow
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