Upset and not sure what to do....(long)

[bjbowers]

Dad gets dibs...I have a small family, BUT I have friends who I call "family" and we mean it with all sincerity. We are extremely close, the kids call my parents grandma/grandpa etc...I feel wholeheartedly (that's not supposed to be one word, is it?) though that if I were in your shoes, Dad does not go anywhere but with me...especially when he shows me how with me is where he wants to be....DONE. You got it Dad. And if my SO's "family friend" needed a place too...I'd probably be sleeping on the couch to accomodate everyone, because that's the way I am, so I'm probably no help here. Dad's first though. Unless we're talking about my mama!
Brandi

 

[gidget1978]

I guess I should give you guys an update.

Not a whole lot as changed actually.Im kind of thinking,"lets see what happens next week".
The whole reason we asked my dad if he would be staying with us this yr (before we told the family friend she could move in) is b/c my dad use to always talk about staying at my sisters house when it was comfortable enough. Comfortable for him, isn't comfortable for me.
I spoke to my sister about this and she never really as any advice, she just kind of listens. But she did tell me that mom told her that dad thinks sometimes that he is in the way and just another thing added to my plate. I think, he thinks, that I cook every evening b/c of him and so on but thats not the case and I have told him that a million times. My parents could have toast and jam for supper some evenings but we aren't like that. DH always wants something for supper so I have told my dad plenty of times that I have to cook anyway. He always says I cook to much.
Like the other night he said that he had to go to the store to get some stuff for his lunch the next day. I told him I had sandwich meat in the fridge, he then says "but thats not mine", I said "big deal" I don't think he ever went to the store...which is fine by me.

In the meantime, our friend that is moving in tomorrow (I guess) is 43 yrs old and found out on Wed that she has skin cancer. She as a spot on her nose that needs to get removed and she may have to have treatment.She then debated moving in b/c she may be off of work and travelling for treatments. She then said that she didn't consider her home home anymore and was much more comfortable staying her so we convinced her that she should move in anyway. She as been so many yrs trying to get the nerve up to leave her unhappy marriage, now that she as it, she shouldn't back down. Life is to short to be unhappy. She also told her husband that very night that she was leaving him, she had a hard day. I haven't been talking to her since Wed but I assume she is o.k.

As for DH I don't think he really cares if my dad stays here, he just doesn't want him sleeping on the couch where he watches t.v! haha

I will let everyone know what happens next week. I wouldn't be surprised if my dad ends up sleeping in the living room! LOL

Lori