ttc - hope not too personal....

R

ruppie

Cathlete
Hey there everyone!
OK, this is the month that my husband and I are finally offically ttc - holy cow and I thought I was nuts just leading up to this month!! Is anyone else out there actively ttc?
Anyway, my period is still not that predicable (I've been off bcps for about 2-3 mo), but we're giving it a shot anyway.
Now of course I'm going nuts over every little thing, analyzing, oh maybe this can be the day (of the big O), or this, or this! I'm TRYING not to think about it - but there's so much information out there that I can't help but read it and think about it!
So here's my somewhat embarressing to ask question: Our most frequent time to ttc happens to be in the early morning - after a run - but.. in the shower. A friend of mine told me that this doesn't even count - it's after a run, and we're standing up, and there's water.... etc. etc.
REALLY sorry if this is too much detail. But I keep going back and forth on this. Does that environment really prevent the little swimmers from surviving? Is gravity that formidable of an opponent??
I was just wondering if anyone else knew some information about this..

Sorry if I'm over-analyzing too!
 
OK, with more thought on my question I realize it's a really stupid question. I'm just looking too deeply into everything these days!!
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Don't worry about the detail:)we share all kinds of stuff here.

I don't think that standing up in the shower would prevent conception, but then again I'm not a fertility expert.

I have not read this book for myself, but a lot of women on this forum swear by a book called Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Maybe someone can post who the author is.

Best of luck

Maggie
 
Hi,
When I was TTC with my children, they said the best positions are missionary and men's MOST fav. position in the world....Behind you. They said standing up is not as effective as the other two because sperms doesn't go up far enough. With my first, I got pregnant less than a month. With my second, it was a month. Another good trick is if you do missionary, put a pillow under your hips. After you two finish, just lie there with your hips up for a couple of minutes. Same with the other position. The BEST thing to do is RELAX and not think too much about it. If you're too stressed and anxious, it'll make it more difficult to conceive. Your body does strange things when you're very stressed. I wish you a lot of luck and a lot of fun! ;)

Lisa
 
I have read conflicting evidence (or opinions) on position and TTC. I do know that standing up WILL NOT PREVENT pregnancy, and it certainly does count as a risk for pregnancy. If only it were as easy as standing up to avoid pregnancy. ;) This would make news. :)

When I was going through artificial inseminations, my hips were placed on a pillow and I was instructed to stay there for 20 minutes. Here is an article written the author of "Taking Charge of Your Fertility", Toni Weschler http://parenting.ivillage.com/ttc/ttcsex/0,,46dw,00.html

BTW, the article refers to a "tipped uterus" which means the uterus tilts backward. At one time it was believed that a "tipped uterus" caused infertility, but I have palpated countless tipped uteri of mothers. :)

Good luck!
Autumn
 
Hey guys - thanks so much for your responses!!! I know there are a lot of pregnancy forums out there with their own ttc groups - but the Cathe forum is really the only one I know and trust!

It's just amazing to me how this giant change in your life and body can happen without you even knowing it - that there's no immediate feeling afterwards that lets you know you were successful! (obviously this, if it happens, would be my first! :+ )
 
I will just second the idea of getting the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility". I was told by everyone that it would take a while to get pregnant since I had been on the Pill for 17 years but was pregnant in the second cycle after stopping the Pill. And the book has you doing so much charting and stuff that you feel more actively involved in what you are doing and it takes some of the fear out of it.

My doctor did say the missionary position was best and also to stay there with a pillow under my hips for 15 minutes or more. But you can certainly get pregnant in any position.

I miss our big shower!;-)
 
I had to read your post since you posted it was "personal". Catchy title!!!
Anyway, GOOD FOR YOU!!! Yahoo!!! I envy your sex-life as mine is next to null at the moment. DH basically won't touch me when pg. :(

**Melanie**
baby to be 11/28/05
Justin born 1/17/04
Jory born 4/9/94

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I just wanted to chime in here. First of all, there is no such thing as a stupid question! Now concerning your question: For my last child, I got pregnant while I was on top, so my body was verticle. After that, he had to get ready for work and I got up and had some errands to run so we showered and went on with our day. I did not lay down one time (at least that morning) and 9 months later, Logan was here! Oh, and all this with a tipped uterus.

I know that there is a world of information out there and it can be confusing and at times contradictory. Sperm will find its way, and you aren't showering the inside of your uterus so I doubt the shower has much affect on anything. I don't know much about ttc, only that when I tried it didn't happen. When we just enjoyed each other it seems I just got pregnant immediately.

Good luck!!!

Missy:7 :7 :7
 
Ok ladies, stop braggin' about your intimate lives. :) I am jealous! My DH has to stop traveling, and DD needs her own bed. :)
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Missy, I love the name Logan. One of my dear friends named her DD Logan. I just love the name. ;) About tipped uteri, I have even read Nursing books (for nurses) state that it can be a cause of infertility. Another DF has produced 4 children with her tipped uterus... 3 stair step... and may have had more if not for the tubal. My uterus is retroflexed (all the way back), but I am not the best example with my difficulties TTC. :)

Ruppie, I think for most healthy couples postion has little if any impact, and I am sure we all know enough examples to support this. Now, if you have difficulty TTC, optimizing is a goal of every window of opportunity (especially if a low sperm count is an issue). ;)
 
Missy, definitely get the book taking control of your fertility. It states that position doesn't really matter. My guess is you are young and still have time to have sex so you will get pregnant soon. I am 35 and the mother of a 2 year and ttc and it is taking a while. I do confess though when I got pregnantwith my daughter I was temp. charting, this time I haven't done that yet and am planning on starting next month. I tried for 6 months with no luck, did temp. charting and the second month I got pregnant, according to my charting at day 28 of my cycle. The benefit of charting is to pinpoint day of ovulation.
 
See -- you guys are the BEST!!!

Thanks for making me feel so much better! Sometimes ignorance is bliss, I guess! I'll try not to take all the information out there too seriously unless a few months go by and we are still trying...
Missy, I love your conception story! :) and the comment that I'm not showering inside my uterus! haha!
Boy oh boy do I want to join you guys!

I have to try and stop thinking about it so much! ( but I'll still try and squeeze some different positions in! Poor hubby!
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( but I'll
>still try and squeeze some different positions in! Poor
>hubby!
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He will just have to suffer during this stage of experimentation even though he will hate it! We all know how much men hate sex! :p


Autumn, I was in the same boat! When I was preggars, DH was so afraid that he would poke our little bundle in the head. I kept reminding him that he wasn't that big. }(

Missy
 
Ok, this is why we get so confused on what we should and shouldn't do. In her book, Toni Weschler "states that position doesn't really matter", but in the article I linked she discusses best positions and positions to avoid. I bet they easily could recruit people to be part of a research study to investigate the best positions for conceiving. }(
 
Missy,

DH isn't afraid of hurting the baby...I just think I'm not sexually appealing to him pg. How in the world could that be?!?!? ;)

However; in our marriage it seems like I"M the one who would like to have more 'intimacy'. Except while pg. I've had little desire this time around.

**Melanie**
baby to be 11/28/05
Justin born 1/17/04
Jory born 4/9/94

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