This drives me crazy!

[purple_magada]

I've had a few people ask me if I knew what the baby's gender is. And when I say I'm having another boy I've had people say, "Oh that's too bad, wouldn't it be nice if you had a little girl?". (Mark's Aunt just said that to me yesterday). Oh the burns me up. I really don't have a preference either way - as long as God blesses us with a healthy baby I don't care if it is a boy or a girl. It's like these people act like having a boy is a bad thing. (of course his aunt has 5 girls). I just want to smack them upside the head!

 

[[email protected]]

what? I would be p*ssed too...who the heck cares as long as the baby is healthy...well..I can say this..people have said the most idiotic things to me since i've been pregnant..just ignore the stupid comments...just try to let it go..its hard but its not worth space in your head..thats what I keep telling myself.

 

[Fitmommyof2]

Sorry, people are being so rude. I agree as long as the baby is healthy and you are healthy then boys girls who cares? They are all precious gifts. Next time I'd say no I feel really blessed to be having a healthy brother for my son!

On a side note, I had a boy and then a girl and when people would find out I was having a girl they'd say oh how perfect.. one of each.. that drove me nuts.. I kept thinking well another boy would have been perfect too.. or they'd say oh so now you can be done having kids.. as if 1 boy and 1 girl means we don't have to have any more children?? You just gotta ingore those crazy comments.

I am glad you are having a healhty little boy! Congrats to you!

 

[FiddleFit]

I hear you, Dana! I have a brother (childless) who has continually nagged me since the birth of my first daughter to hurry up and have a boy. I think he thinks he's being funny (tongue-in-cheek kind of way), but I find it rude and insulting to my first DD. I haven't even phoned him to tell him that this baby is likely going to be a girl, too. I just don't need his "input."

Sandra

 

[EricaH]

I always hated this also. People used to do this right in front of my sons and I thought it was so rude. My boys would be standing there and someone would say, "I hope you get a girl this time".

I did end up having a girl with my last pregnancy and now people always say to me, "Oh - you finally got your girl". It really bugs me. I would have loved to have had another boy just as much.

Erica

 

[sunnydelite]

ugh...this is a sore spot with me also. since i am expecting another son i hear the same type of comments. I am delighted i am having another son. i love, love, love my ds and am more than happy he's getting a brother. although truthfully i wouldn't been disappointed either way as long as my baby is healthy. when people say these things to me, i just look them in the eye and say actually i was hoping for a boy...that usually shuts them up...LOL

 

[Peachy]

How horribly rude!

I observed the flip side of this when I ran into a former co-worker who is pregnant with her third. Her first is a girl, and her second is a boy. I asked if she was going to find out the sex of the new baby, and she said "No. I found out with him because I really wanted another girl. I was really disappointed when I found out I was having a boy, and it took me a long time to get over it."

Can you even imagine feeling that way about the child you were carrying? I can't!

 

[shellnc]

My neighbor did this to me the other day.....she went on and on with disappointment that I was having another boy.

I've always wanted to have three children. I can't wait to hear the comments when I'm pregnant with my third. I can hear it now, "oh your trying for a girl...." Oh well!

 

[Monica11]

>On a side note, I had a boy and then a girl and when people
>would find out I was having a girl they'd say oh how perfect..
>one of each.. that drove me nuts.. I kept thinking well
>another boy would have been perfect too.. or they'd say oh so
>now you can be done having kids.. as if 1 boy and 1 girl means
>we don't have to have any more children?? You just gotta
>ingore those crazy comments.

I gotta play devil's advocate on this one. I agree it's horribly rude when people express disappointment when you tell them the gender, but I don't think it's crazy to say "how perfect" when you're going to have one of each. I think you just say something nice no matter what the expectant woman says she's having. If they're having one of each, I say "How nice! One of each!" If they're having two of each, I say "Oh two little girls/boys, how wonderful!" When they say "It's a boy" I say "How great!" It doesn't mean if they they had say "It's a girl!" I would've said, "What a bummer!" It doesn't mean I think any of the alternatives is bad. But if you analyze it too much, you'd certainly think that's what I meant! You just say something positive about whatever they say because really, what else can you say? It's kind of like when you tell someone they look nice today, and they respond "WHAT?!?!? So I look bad every OTHER day!" No, of course not, you just focus on something nice and say it, it doesn't mean you've thought through all the alternatives and selected this one as THE best.

 

[leighanntx1]

People are saying horrible things to me when I tell them we are not finding out the sex.

A neighbor actually said "why in the world would you want to put everyone through such difficult shopping exursions?". Like I am even asking people to buy things??? And like it is any of her business anyway.

I tell people we are excited about the surprise and hear "that doesn't make sense" or "that seems selfish". Oh well, I am just going to start telling people that the baby did not show himself/herself at the ultrasound but they will probably then just think of other comments.

 

[autumn]

My youngest is 10 1/2 months old, but I remember the comments regarding the gender. When I was pregnant with our first, people thought we were disappointed that we were expecting a girl. One person actually said better luck next time. I will admit that I always saw myself with girls, because I was more familiar with girls. After difficulty TTC, we were humbled and just wanted a healthy, happy baby. We were thrilled with Miss Sydney! Then comes # 2, and the comments were "oh, you must really be hoping for a boy". Well, no. We were sincerely grateful to be expecting after difficulty TTC (again). There are people who really don't understand that a healthy baby is what is wanted. I know men and women who have broken down crying because they were disappointed that a girl (or another girl) came into the world. I am in love with each of my children!!!!

Why on earth would someone call you selfish or tell you it doesn't make sense because you are not finding out the gender? We considered waiting for the surprise with Jordan, but ummm... it was very obvious. Tease them, tell them you know but are making everyone else wait.


Hope you ladies are doing well! Take care!