Question of Age

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Cathlete
All you moms out there with teenage daughters or older...listen up!

When people ask you your DD age and then directly ask you yours, is it because they are trying to find out if you had your daughter when you were 12 or something? DH thinks this. He thinks some are really not being nice and complimentary, but just nosey.


How would each of you respond and what do you think?

Charlotte~~
 
Hi Charlotte,

I don't have children (except for the four legged kind) but if someone asked me that question I would just smile and say that I'm 58 years old;)

Michele
 
It's kind of nosy, but see, I would just be tempted to smile sweetly and tell them you're 13 years older than your DD}( That's just me though.
 
But if you tell them you're 58 they'll think you're amazingly fit and young looking for you age, although, I can see where it would be comical to let them think you conceived at 8.:D

Michele
 
To be totally honest with you, I get looks all the time about my age, and my daughters...I had her when I was 19...She's now 9...

It's always, "WOW! You were young!", or "the eyebrows (everyone knows what those are!!)...

I's have to say your hubby is right!

MJ in MN
 
I was 11 years old when my youngest sister was born. I used to have her with me all the time and some mean-spirited people would say that she was really my daughter but I was trying to pass her off as my sister. I eventually stopped caring what they would say & just let them be.

Marla
 
Angie,

Well that is what some of them were thinking when I was at my sister's shower. Kept asking me my "sister's" name and that is when the questions started. LOL! My DD looked confused and was thinking they were assuming she was 13 or something and did not like that! She has small frame like me. The whole thing was funny and amusing to me, but alittle rude at the same time.

Charlotte~~
 
Back when I was in college, people used to think my mother and I were sisters. That was fine then - everyone thought she looked very young, and she loved it.

If that issue comes up now, I get a little grumpy... are they saying she still looks remarkably young, or that I look older than I am?
 
I couldn't be bothered with devising strategies for this or wise cracks as self defence. I am proud of when I had my daughters. I will gladly volunteer the information that I married with a 6 month pregnant belly. So what? I 'aint got nuthin to hide, nuthin to be ashamed of.

Clare
 
I take it as a compliment when someone assumes I'm much younger than I really am. I smile and say "I'm 47", and they are usually quite surprised.

Carol
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That is mean! I have a sister who's 18 years older than I am and no one has ever said anything like that to me. Maybe they thought it. . .

I'm from a family of 12 kids and she's the oldest and I'm 2nd youngest.

Sue
 
Charlotte, you reminded me of something!

A few weeks ago, as soon as I finished working out (I am in a sports bra and my shorts) someone knocked on the door. I was expecting a delivary so I answered. The girl that knocked asked me, "Is your mom or dad home?" I felt like responding "no, they are out getting me diapers" but instead said I owned this house. She looked completely shocked. I smiled the rest of the day!

I once had a woman ask me how old my kids are, I told her. She looked me up and down and then asked me if I had ever heard of protection. :eek: I have never been so stunned in my life.

Sometimes it makes me mad because people will assume I am only as mature as I look, but mostly it makes me feel good! :D

Whenever people ask me how old I am, I say, "A lady never tells her age" and wink with a smile. ;-)

Missy
 
>Perfect! 9 is a good age to start a family.


But in the Guiness book of world records, I think there is a 5 year old, so make your age 6 years older than your daughter's.

Man, people can be mighty nosey!
 
I always tell them "I was 21 when DD was born, yep, that means I'm over 40 today."

But what's even more fun to me is when people see DD with me & think she looks just like me, then later see her with me & DH. 9 times out of 10, these same people will say "oh, she looks so much more like her dad than you." I very politely lean in & whisper "he's not her real dad." He plays along! You want to talk about someone back peddling! Cracks me up everytime.
 
Interesting thread. I have SUCH an issue with my age. I'm in software, where youth is highly valued. I feel I NEED to stay young, i do believe there is a lot of discrimination and lie A LOT about my age, re when I started working, so people see me as young. BAD i know.

I'm so age phobic. I was good friends with a woman at work, knew she was younger. I went to dinner with her and her husband. I found out I'm OLDER than her mother (her mom had her at 17). Anyhow since then I have NOT felt comfortable being friends. Also found out she is 24 years younger than me. OUCH How stupid on my part huh! We had been friends for over a year.
 
I think when people ask your age they are being totally rude. I wouldn't tell them how old you are. It's none of their business!

My stepdaughter and I get the same sort of comments. I am 22 years older than her and people often think we're sisters. On one hand it irritates me that people are so freakin' nosy! But deep inside in makes me feel pretty good. Granted, she does look a little older than she is, but I think I must look a little younger than my age too in order for people to wonder...

Anyhow, sometimes we joke than next time someone asks if I'm her mom, we say that I'm her grandma. If I were you, I'd just come up with some smart comment that makes them wonder.

Melissa
 
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