OMG,Terrible Twos ????

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punka274

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Hi

Ive got a question about my two year's old tantrums! They are just awful and often overwhelming! Im just concerned because ive never had to experience anything like this with my six year old! She is so calm and sweet and she minds well! But my son,who will be three in may,is just a handful! Don't get me wrong,hes so sweet and loving and just adorable as well but dang,where did these sudden tantrums come from? I mean ive heard of terrible twos but is it normal to have tantrums like this:

If I tell him no he starts arguing first,telling me 'yes I can' and if I argued back OMG,he would start screaming 'yes I can' and yelling,throwing things(not at me,but just in general) running around the house and slamming doors! :eek: and the worst thing about it is he shows his but insides stores and its just so embarrassing! I don't want to go anywhere with him anymore! I don't even think My DM and MIL want to watch him while hes going throw this phase,its just to much for them as well! and I hope it is just a phase?

Ive heard the best thing to do is to ingore them! Any other advice?
Over the past month or so Ive been putting him in 'time out' in his bedroom,in his bed and telling him to stay in hear until he can be a good boy agian. it works sometimes,but he is kicking and screaming the whole way there and sometimes it take multiple attempts,LOL! because he'll come running back out !

tell me about your experiences please! I just wan't to make sure what hes going through is considered normal?


He just wears me out! :-( hes such a sweetie pie when he wants to be too!
 
No real advice except that you should stick to your guns and not cave.

An observation of mine: I think 3 is harder than 2. I always joke that a 3 year old is like your college roommate who cannot hold her liquor- fun and delightful most of the time, but the next minute irrational and crying for no apparent reason and on the floor screaming.
 
Kristan,OMG...you just described my two year old! So three will be an interesting year as well? lots of fun to look forward too(sigh)
 
I know they are tough ladies. My two year old just started holding her breath where her lips turn blue. It's scary for both of us.
The word "No" infuriates her no matter how calm the tone is.
She will also throw any object in site when we say please stop, etc.
I spoke with her doctor in particular because of the holding
her breath incidents. The doctor told me this goes along with
being two. My daughter also takes all her clothes off at night
yup along with her diaper. The doctor recommended she sleep like that
as long as she is warm w/blankets. I just don't have the heart to
have my child sleep in the nude in the winter. I also have a 5 month
old so protecting her from our big girl is a job too. My Mom heard
me complaining what a draining day it can be. She said do you want
to be old like me and have them all grown up in their 30's?
I said no way!!! I will keep them little thank you but part of me
looks foward to getting them both safely through the toddler years
because of the trouble my 2 year old gets in even with everything
baby proofed she is always one step ahead.

Good Luck Ladies

Jennifer Claire 12/24/05
Taylor Elizabeth 08/22/07
 
Amelia, I could have written your post. My toddler boy turns 3 in early March, and his behavior is worse than ever.

As someone said, stick to your guns! We also have a time out chair, and he spends quite a bit of time there. One minute for each year he is old.

When he does something wrong, say he says a bad word, he gets a warning. If he does it again, he goes to time out for 3 minutes. Other infractions, like hitting, bitting, etc. that he KNOWS he is not allowed to do, get him straight to the time out chair -- NO warning.

I put him in the chair, set the timer, and walk away. Do not talk to the child, look at him, interact in any way, for the time out. When the timer dings, Collin knows that he must apologize, then give hugs. We also discuss WHY he is in time out.

Just keep at it, and you will have your precious baby back....one of these days!!
 
I just re-read your post, and I wanted to add re: leaving the time out area...

If he leaves/gets up/etc. just put him right back there. This will wear you out, but eventually he will stay.

My child is as bad as the baddest many days, but EVERY TIME I put him in time out, he stays put for his full 3 minutes. He gets that part now!
 
Amelia- I didn't mean that 3 will be worse for you; when I read your post I read that your son was almost 3- therefore my reference to 3 year olds.

My 2yo boy has taken to running for the street when we are coming back from the car. We live in an urban neighborhood and he's going to get hit by a bus if I don't stop him. So, I feel your pain. He just laughs at me when I get mad when he dashes into the street.

good luck.
 
Hey ladies,sorry its taken me some time to get back...its been hectic around here!

Thanks for replying!

Kristin-my fingers are crossed that three won't be worse,LOL;-) Good luck with your two year old-and I hope he stops all that running for the streets,my ds does that in parking lots so from the car to the store and vice versa i have to either pick him up or hold his hand(which he sometimes dosen't like) he took off one time and my heart skipped a beat...very scary!

Katie-well,so far this week there has been no 'time outs' yet(probably just jinxed it,lol) your right,i remember a really bad tantrum when i told him NO (gasp ;-)) so he picked up something and threw it kinda towards me,so straight to timeout(his bed) and he got out three or four times before finely giving up! I was wornout also :+. Time out works! I need to get me a timer;-) Im just glad my dd isn't difficult!

Suzanne-OMG,I too have a problem with my ds taking all his close off at night! I don't like it either becasue its winter for one thing and I have to wash all his bedsheets the next morning x( which is just more things that i have to do! And he also went through a biting stage as well,he bite his sister VERY hard on the side of her stomach last summer,she still has a scar :-(! he hasn't done it since though! Good luck with your little girl! I still think(any may has said)that a mother is the hardest job on earth!

Thanks agian ladies :)
 
Hey Amelia, My three year old, Henry, is experiencing the terrible 3s. Twos were very hard with him too. He just starts SCREAMING, not yelling, but blood-curdling SCREAMS when he doesn't get his way. I found that if I ignore him for a little while and don't cave and just let him scream it out, then when he gets to the height of his screaming tantrum, I'll pick him up and sing our song to him. (I've been singing a song I made up just for him since he was a baby. Both sons have their own songs) When I start singing it, he lays his head on my shoulder and just relaxes and lets it go. Then I tell him how disappointed I am in his behavior, and he usually says, "I love you mommy." And I'll say "Is that your way of saying "I'm sorry?" and he says "yes." and all is better. If he's really done something defiant, he has to go to his room. It's gotten to the point now that when he gets really frustrated sometimes he'll just run to his room and cry it out, which I think is really big-boy of him. As for being in public, that's tough. I simply let him scream it out and ignore him. Other adults give me the "control your child" look, but I ignore them too. :)
 
Hey Stephanie,when i read your post i thought it was so sweet that you made up songs for your boys. Made me think of the the 'good morning' songs that i have for my kids! i also get the 'control your child' looks in public!
 
I tell DH that it's just karma because I used to hand out those looks left and right to people with screaming kids before I actually had them. God has a sense of humor. Now I just chuckle at the young couples who are shopping and flash me those looks, and I think, yeah, your day is coming. That's neat that you have good morning songs for your boys! My aunt used to sing "GOOD MORNING TO YOU" when we'd go to her house. She'd belt it out to the tune of Happy Birthday to You, but terribly loud and out of pitch. LOL I do that to my boys now when I need to wake them both up at the same time. Needless to say, they aren't too amused.
 
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