no more Cathe for me?

[caricampbellcool]

Hi everyone:

Here is my dilemma:

I love Cathe's tapes (don't we all), and am eager to
try her new ones, but my boyfriend and I have recently
moved to Dallas together, where we know no one. He wants to
work out together at the gym, and he won't work out without a
partner, so that means I have to go. Not that I am against
training in the gym, but how can I use Cathe's strength tapes
if I am doing strength in the gym? We generally work
two parts at a time, once a week when we work out at a gym,
so I don't know if I would be rested enough to do her tapes.
Anyone else have this problem?
Thanks,
Cari

 

[suzannaerin]

wait a minute

Cari---You HAVE to go w/your boyfriend because he doesn't have a training partner? Who says? Goodness, I don't mean to interfere, but.... Maybe you can compromise. Go and be his spotter, but do your own thing at home (Cathe tapes, in other words). Or you can do one workout with him at the gym and you both can do a Cathe tape---alternate venues. It won't be long before he meets someone at the gym who will become his workout partner. I admit that I'm pretty independent, so take what I suggest w/a grain of salt. My father raised me to be that way, and it has served me well in my 38 years on earth. Yes, I'm married---almost 13 years to the same wonderful man who loves me despite my many flaws! Like I said, it's not my business, but I don't like seeing a woman give up something she enjoys in order to appease a man! Suzanne

 

[caricampbellcool]

RE: wait a minute

Suzanne,

No, I totally agree with you. I am independent as
well, my boyfriend says I'm too independent at times.
But I want him to work out, too. I don't know any other way
for him to meet someone. He absolutely refuses to work out alone. (He isn't motivated otherwise.) But we don't know anyone
here, so when I say I have to go, it is because I would want him
to do the same for me (and he would).
Anyhoo, I guess I will just do my Cathe cardio
and hope he finds a partner ASAP!

 

[Jul]

I think you got some great advice about alternating Cathe with a gym day. You could also possibly walk on a treadmill or stepper while at the gym and lift at home. Keep thinking - you'll figure out a way to make it work!

 

[kristina]

Seek and ye shall find...

Cari,

I had your problem in reverse. My fiance was my strength training partner (he is actually a PT on the side)and he moved away. We are doing the long-distance thing. I really HATE doing strength work in the gym without a partner/spotter, especially MY spotter.

Just an idea, I posted a few flyers in the locker room: something like "Female seeking lifting partner. M/F OK.. EVES 7-12. Intermediate level. NO PTs, please. Just for fun and motivation. " I ended up getting many responses and now we have a whole group and some new friends. Maybe your guy could try that.

You may want to gently point out to him that he will not make friends at the gym if you ALWAYS go with him. Does your gym offer Body Pump? That's a FANTASTIC way to meet people and find a lifting partner as well. Good luck in bringing him out of his shell. You sound like a very caring partner.

 

[caricampbellcool]

RE: Seek and ye shall find...

I have been wanting to try body pump,
but will that be hard enough for my boyfriend?
He's one of those manly man types, ex-marine,
ya know? If I say it is hard, he won't believe me.
Since I have never been, do a lot of guys take
that class?
Thanks for all the advice!

 

[Loriv]

RE: Seek and ye shall find...

I USED to be in the same boat, but I refuse to train like my husband! He was way too hard on me and made me feel very self-concious, so now when he needs a spotter I do it, but I am basically there for entertainment purposes only. I do my "own thing" at a later time. I find it is much easier on me, because I am not a very patient person - I don't like changing weights a million times or waiting, and I prefer to be bymyself so I work harder. Now if I need a spotter, I ask him to help out, and the same goes for him. If we worked out at the gym together, which we don't we have home equipment, I would spot him, go do my thing, then come back to spot him again. He waits for me and I wait for him or he can find someone else to do it. Not to mention, I have been to the gym and most guys don't have any problems getting a spotter.
I would maybe go long enough for him to get "used" to the gym and people, then I would do what I want to do. If he doesn't like it, tough - would he rather have a lazy, overweight wife because she uses all her time tending to him?? (That comment always works for me!). Good luck!

 

[jenniferholmes]

RE: Seek and ye shall find...

WOW... I would love it if my husband would even work out with me...He does not work out at all...I am jealous. I love to workout in the gym and love cathe too. I just rotate the two.

 

[trevor]

Cari,
Rotate Cathe in and out with the gym and other activities like I do. It will serve to shake things up for ya.
Also, finding a partner at the gym is so easy. Your husband should be able to find someone without even trying. Hell, I find myself alternating on equipment with people all the time and it's easy to get to know some of them.
Trevor