Need to vent!!

[gidget1978]

I know I haven't been around much but I need to off load! hahaha

I have a wedding in a couple of weeks time and its costing me a fortune! My dress was $170(pretty much b/c she picked out the most impossible color to find!)....don't have shoes yet probably another $40, my dress is to small in the boob area so I need alterations done...probably another $40,hair $30, I have two nights in a hotel...$200...a weekend of food (have a no clue what that will cost!)and the drive is a 3 hour drive over and back and we all know how crazy gas is these days.
And then I have to give them a wedding gift. The more I think about it the more i wish I had said I couldn't do it! hahaha

I think what pissed me off is that I was talking to my mom yesterday and she said that the brides mother only spent $40 on her dress (lucky her) and the bride was ordering shoes from Sears,wearing them for the day and then sending them back after the wedding. (she obviously doesn't know that they will diffently look like they were wore!) It just seems like everyone is cutting corners and Im the only one is isn't but expected to do so much!) She never offered to pay anything on our dresses or accessories, nor did she offer a place for me to stay. When I got married she stood for me and i picked out the cheapest dress (on her account) and gave her a place to stay for the weekend.

O.k..there...got it off of my chest! Maybe its the pregnancy hormones? Wh do some people expect so much out of us? She was a little selfish growing up and obviously she hasn't changed much

Lori

 

[Winter]

As far as cheaping out and returning stuff.........you have your integrity which says more.

These things do kind of suck but I guess you said yes and are kind of stuck with it so enjoy that you will look absolutely beautiful for the day and have pictures to show the baby of a wedding you were in while pregnant (It sounds as if you are).

She maybe doesn't expect too much if you had said yes to begin with. She probably hasn't given how much it is costing you much thought at all.

I hope at least the accessories is something you can wear after the wedding.

I hope it doesn't get to you too much longer!!

winter

 

[dpiglet]

It is not the hormomes, Lori. You have a right to feel a little put out.....we all work hard for out money.(Congrats on that hormone thing, by the way!!!) You sound like me, always saying yes, when we really should say no.....but because we are the way we are we just can't. If you're feet can take it, try buying the cheapest shoes you can find....or at least buy a pair you can at least wear again. Maybe that will make you feel a little better. She should have at least paid for your hotel, or the gas, or both!! Perhaps she is just not thinking clearly with all that wedding planning gone to her head......

Donna

 

[ldy_solana]

when my cousin got married in VA, she rented a van for all our family in NJ so they all didn't have to spend a fortune on gas,and made enough room in her house so some of the folks had a place to stay if they really couldn't afford the hotel room. and she had a informal wedding so to speak. she just asked we all dressed nice b/c we are not into all that over the top formal stuff. i think they should have done something along the same lines, especially since now you have a new responsibilty, and hate to say it, but kids are not cheap. i hope it works out for you.

kassia

http://www.picturetrail.com/ldy_solana

"And do what thee wilt as long as ye harm none"

 

[gidget1978]

Thats the thing on top of it all. I was going to take the next 6 monthes of my pregnancy to buckle down and pay off some bills but this month is a Bit^h anyway. I have had 5 b-days, fathers day, a baby shower and a wedding So its a crazy month anyway.

I also find it funny when people think you have money just b/c you are further ahead in life. I know my friend well enough to know that she thinks we are well off or something. And 1/2 of the reason she probably thinks this is b/c they live with his parents, and are only substiute teachers.While DH owns his own business, people have the misconception that this means you have money! hahahaha

Anyway..I don't mean to such a "you know what"! And Im not really angry about it but I can't beleive that they are cutting corners the way they are but aren't taking into consideration how much it may be costing others.
BUt with this being said, DH's family as good friends who only live 30 mins from the city where the wedding is taking place so I think we are going to see if we can stay there. I would rather pay $200 on some bills then spend it on a hotel room.

Lori

 

[ldy_solana]

> BUt with this being said, DH's family as good friends who
>only live 30 mins from the city where the wedding is taking
>place so I think we are going to see if we can stay there. I
>would rather pay $200 on some bills then spend it on a hotel
>room.
>
> Lori

oh wow that would be great, and you can catch up with friends with a quick visit.


kassia

http://www.picturetrail.com/ldy_solana

"And do what thee wilt as long as ye harm none"