Need Advice! Bridesmaid problem

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AMYP26

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Hi All!!!

I know this is not a wedding forum (haha), but I have a problem and would love advice. I am engaged and planning my wedding for next fall. We are doing a destination wedding to Las Vegas with about 50 of our friends and family. I chose 5 bridemaids, 3 of which have also gotten engaged recently. One of my friends in particular has been back & forth on her wedding plans and dates. She is also planning to have a destination wedding on one of the islands. OK here is where the problem lies. My fiancee' and I originally chose October 21st as our date. Due to the reception facility policies, we may need to change it to end of September (the 23rd). I told all of my bridesmaids about this including this friend. Now 2 weeks later, she announced she is having her wedding on a cruise during the end of September!!!The same weekend we may be having ours (to be exact their wedding would be the day before ours in Bermuda!). This would mean she would in NOT be able to make it to our Vegas wedding. The reason I am upset is I told her we may be doing Sept 23rd and she isn't even taking that into consideration. Also, to add fuel to the fire, I asked her to be in our wedding before she was even engaged. Would anyone else be upset here or it just me? I feel like she is being very selfish! :-(

Amy
 
I sympathize with your dilemma. However, at this point there doesn't seem to be much you can do about the situation. I would make alternate bridesmaid arrangements and enjoy YOUR wedding. Her wedding is equally important to her now, so you are not going to get anywhere with your frustration. Yes, you do have a right to be aggrevated, but there is nothing you can do to change things now. Cut your losses with this problem and go on with your plans.

JMTC.
 
Yes, I think that is all I can do at this point is focus on my own wedding plans. I guess I am just hurt by her lack of consideration. I feel like, there are 12 months in a year, so why would you pick the same weekend as a good friend? But everyone is different and some people do not think of others sometimes. Thanks for the advice!
 
Hi Shelley,

Well, from what I know, her fiancee' is actually suggesting other dates and months to her, but for an unknown reason, she is set on September. Also, she also picked the same color scheme I am having. I know that might sound petty, but I can't help but feel something is not right there. Oh well. :-(
 
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