Moms of tension building toddlers

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shopaholic

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Hi to all my fellow moms of toddlers. Decided it was time to get back all us mommies of toddlers. So how are all of Alexis' internet friends? For the most part she is still an easy toddler. Our battles are over dressing as she now only wants to wear certain things. She also still fights us over eating and her favorite phrase is "no, no,no". She is now on a barney kick. She has had a growth spurt and is in her 18 month outfits. She still weighs around 21 pounds.

Mom to Alexis born 9/12/03 and baby due 5/30/06
 
Hi there, I almost missed this thread!

Bardric just goes, goes, goes and still does not say much, but what he does say cracks us up. He likes to touch things and say, grinning, "It's a cat! and then likes us to say, "That's not a cat" and then label what it is. He thinks this is great fun and so do we, because he is sooo cute. He also imitates words and does a lot of jargoning. He speaks, we just don't know what he is saying.

He loves cars, trucks, and trains, but also gets involved in activities that involve fine motor skills, like putting the little lego helmets on the little lego guys (supervised, of course:p)

He's our biggest dare devil, but also the cuddliest and clingiest child we've had thus far. I have not dealt with jealousy between siblings yet when a new baby arrives, but this time may be a first.

Alexis and your new baby are a nice age apart. Close enough to be close, but far enough apart that it won't be quite so much work for you. Alexis will be getting more and more independent the older she gets and helpful too.

take care
Maggie
 
Hello fellow moms!

Shopaholic, That is funny that Alexis cares already about what she wears. Max doesn't notice stuff like that. Except that he frequently likes to just plain take his clothes off, but what toddler doesn't! Maggie, That cat thing Bardric does is too cute! Wish I could see him in action. How are both of your pregnancies going?

Max is a real fire ball, but that's been the norm. He has recently learned how to jump. I think he learned in his crib that his mattress is bouncy and started honing his skills there. Now he jumps all the time like a pogo stick, whether in his crib or not.

We recently bought a Geo Trax set for Max, and my husband and I love it as much as he does. So, we are getting him an add on set for Christmas and we are so excited.

Max loves all thing with wheels: cars, trucks, trains, even strollers. He will push our strollers all around the drive way and our cul de sac. And neighbors always laugh when they see Max pushing his empty stroller around.

The toys he plays with the most, however, are his little matchbox and hot wheels cars. He is rarely without one of his little cars clutched in his hand. We've even peeked in on him late at night and found that he is gripping one while he sleeps!

He is starting to be nicer to his sister, but it is a very gradual process. He is definitely jealous, when it comes to her.
 
It is so funny to hear the differences in the boys and girls. Alexis' mouth is always going but she actually loves her chairs and sits. She loves her doll and actually sits him up on a chair, and actually asks me to put on his Pj's.Yesterday she pushed him in her tree swing. She also has a little dollhouse she likes. I agree that almost 3 years will be a good spacing. I give you ladies with close ages credit. Alexis seems to love babies and isn't clingy(sadly not cuddly either), so I am hoping she handles the new baby well.

I am feeling better now, after feeling exhausted and nauseau for part of the first trimester. I am at week 14. I have gained much more than first time around and up 8 pounds, compared to 2 the first time around. I am hoping my 6 pound weight loss after I weaned Alexis accounts for the difference.
 
Emy--my pregnancy seems to be going well. My lower back hurts more than last time and I think that I pushed it too hard this summer as my belly was getting big, my rationale being that I started out this pregnancy in so much better shape, that I would not need to modify so soon. I am so darn bull headed! My body simply cannot handle what my mind can, if that makes sense.

I am glad that the last stretch is through the holidays because that will make the time go faster with all the hustle and bustle.

Bardric sleeps with cars and trucks and trains--just like other kids sleep with stuffed animals or dolls:)--sounds like he and Max have quite a bit in common.

take care
 
Hi everyone! It's so fun to hear how all our kids are growing. Justin isn't talking at all. He says ball, bubbles, boat, bug...but they all sound alike. He grunts & whines much of the day. His hearing seems good, he just is a late talker. Jory talked around 3. It is quite frustrating & I actually began to give hime time out for all his whining today. I felt just awful, but it was driving me nuts!!!

Justin is all boy. He loves his cars, trucks, anything with wheels. Just like Max & MrB! He loves his crib & his brothers. He's really taking the addition of Jadon really well. He even gave him a kiss goodnight today. He doesn't even kiss me! He's not a kisser, but he's a hugger & cuddler. He loves to watch tv :( which doesn't please me. I'm not a tv watcher. I like to see kids color, do puzzles, and play outside. It drives me nuts to see kids watch more than two 30 min PBS shows a day.

Maggie & Shopaholic, I ended up gaining as much this time as last time. However, my baby is smaller & I didn't lose any weight in hospital. I have now lost about 10 lbs, and hope to continue to lose weight so I can fit into all those clothes I took out of storage yesterday. I didn't workout as hard this time due to lower back pain. I didn't retain as much water either which I think accounted for much of my weight loss last time. I feel a little sad that Jadon was so teeny & wonder if I shouldn't have tried to eat healthier while I was pregnant? I'm very busy even now after my CSection. With nursing I'm sure I'm just burning the calories. My abdomen is extremely bruised & sore and I know it'll be at least a couple of weeks before I"ll be able to workout again. I want my body back!!! Or at least my jeans!!!!!!!!!

Emy, I"m so glad we aren't seeing any jealously issues as of yet. I hadn't realized that you had. I'm glad it's getting better though. ;)



**Melanie**
Jadon born 11/23/05
Justin born 1/17/04
Jory born 4/9/94

" Take care of your body like it will last a lifetime. Take care of your soul like it will last for eternity"
 
Melanie, You reminded me that I didn't mention Max doesn't talk either. Other than "no" and "caw" (car) and maybe 5 other mangled words, he whines too. It IS frustrating! & I didn't realize that you had to have c-sections. Were the other 2 c's as well?
 
We have a bunch of non verbal "boybarians":7 :7 :7 , busy doing other stuff, I guess.

Melani--give yourself a few weeks. You probably have a lot of fluid left in your system even if it's not obvious. Don't get near the scale right now. You are going to drop that weight in no time. Me, on the other, hand, well, lets just not talk about it:p. I will not weigh myself again until I begin to exercise post partum. My lower back has pretty much reduced me to weights and the stationary bike this timex(. When I step, I feel fine after I warm up, but I have a lot of pain and stiffness later. I don't want any weird permanent or semi permanent lower back problems, so I'm really forcing myself to slow down (but I hate slowing down.

take care all
Maggie
 
Melanie, I was still in maternity clothes for 6 weeks after having Alexis but did end up thinner than I started. I am sure you will get back in shape once you have recovered from the csection. I have told myself that it is ok to stay in my maternity clothes all summer since there is no way I will back in my regular clothes before August.

We had playgroup here yesterday. It was like taking animals from the zoo and setting them free. Toddlers everywhere, goldfish crackers everywhere, toys everywhere! Alexis was too funny though, telling peolle to"om in"(come in") and then saying by when they left. Is it a shock that girls talk more than toddler boys? It kinda of explains why we talk more the rest of our lives.
 
Oh, I forgot. Justin has begun to jump. It is way too cute. He's so serious and excited. I do feel the terrible 2's upon me. Jadon is way easier than Justin right now. It might help once Justin begins to talk. ;)

Where's Briee, Autumn & Runathon?

**Melanie**
Jadon born 11/23/05
Justin born 1/17/04
Jory born 4/9/94

" Take care of your body like it will last a lifetime. Take care of your soul like it will last for eternity"
 
Yes! Having a toddler and new baby at the same time confirms to me that babies are really not so hard to take care of when you compare the amount of work toddlers require. (I suppose there could be the rare baby that is ultra fussy...)
 
Maggie, I just want to send you some words of encouragement (if you need them!). I'm sorry you have to restrict your workouts to the little you can do! In my third trimester this last time, I was doing alright with my workouts, but was experiencing pain in my pelvis/inner thigh area that made it difficult to walk - but this was not during workouts, but for the rest of the day after workouts. So, I quit working out! I'm glad you are at least able to do something. I hope you are not discouraged (at least not too much).

Melanie, I was chunky this summer after having Lily and I cringe when I look at the pictures. I still have a ways to go but I'm sure you will get it off faster than I have been! Don't worry too much. Look at your precious little guy - he's worth your extra (temporary) weight!
 
RE: Moms of PATIENCE building toddlers !!!

I almost missed this thread!!! Boys vs. Girls....oh my what a difference. Although, I'm having such a challenge with my 3 (soon to be 4) year old daughter. She is into absolutely everything and what's tough is...I'm beginning to think she is just extremely bright and I need to give her "more to do". She has done more incredibly naughty things than all the other 5 put together...but really I think she is bored and needs more "crafty" or tactile enrichment - shall we say. Noah is entering into the "attitude" thing now. When I "discipline" him...he will chuck whatever he is holding across the room or at you (even worse) and stomp off. OOOOoooooo now this has to change and quick!! For the most part he is a pretty good guy!!

Emy...I was reading in the vaccination thread a while back that you don't do vac's. Very interesting...I just didn't feel like getting into the debate at that point, but I appreciated your comments. We have chosen not to do them, except recently. We have whooping cough going around and this is just something I don't want to deal with so I have vaccinated the 3 youngest for that, but we haven't done other things. I believe our children are better able to handle them at their age now. Interesting enough....our only child that has had problems is the only one we vaccinated at the typical young age. He is quite ADD, although we do not treat it as such, and our only vaccinated baby (until these recent whooping cough vacs). It's almost impossible to prove any link since they get them at such a young age typically. We have friends that have chosen to vaccinate, but they wait until the children are older, like 2 years to begin. It's good to be informed and it's VERY hard to get unbiased info from either side. You pray hard and try to make good choices!!:) :)

Glad you are all doing well!!! :) :) :) :)

Briee
 
RE: Moms of PATIENCE building toddlers !!!

Emy--thanks for the encouragement. I remember now that you just quit working out at a certain point. I am greatful for the stationary bike, which is my primary form of cardio right now.

Briee--Our 2nd child (daughter) was really tactile and made so many messes and got into so much naughtiness. It was really hard for a while. The plus side is that she is the one who is "not afraid to get her hands dirty"--not squeamish about stuff, which I guess is good since she'd like to be a missionary nurse when she grows up (and then a mommy after she's done with that). I imagine the field of medical missions is not for neat and clean freaks.

take care all
Maggie:)
 
RE: Moms of PATIENCE building toddlers !!!

Briee, I'm curious - do you do time outs for Noah or some other discipline?
 
RE: Moms of PATIENCE building toddlers !!!

Hi ladies! I am around, but so busy. My kids are sprouting up like weeds. Jordan is 16 months old. I can't get over that. I am ready for #3, but this is not the time. I would prefer to finish this NFP program, BUT that is not completely in my hands. Sydney is my big girl and not gung-ho on the idea of another baby. She loves her baby brother BUT is adament (?sp) he is enough. :)

I am really enjoying my NFP teaching and finally am settling in the new position. It only takes about 6 hours a week, so plenty of time with the kids.

BTW, I just have to shout out for the moms who have vaccinated... my kids are okie-dokie. The forum debate wasn't too bad, but a few people were a bit condescending... but that is my humble opinion. I read some of the posts and had that same feeling I get when I tell someone I use NFP and they begin to "educate" me.

I am waiting to read Briee's answer about time outs or other discipline. My lil' Jordy Bug is a challenge. :)
 
RE: Moms of PATIENCE building toddlers !!!

some other discipline. The Pearls have EXCELLENT books on child training. "To train up a child is the first". You can check their website under "No Greater Joy". We have far from the perfect family, but our children are not at all wildly out of control, they respect others, and love to be together with their family. We have a LOT of fun together. Our oldest son is 15 and would just as soon have his parents along at ALL of his "fun weekend events" because he doesn't have as much fun without us. When I was 15, I cared very little to EVER be with my family or parents and cared more about my friends opinions than my parents. They are really good kids....not perfect....but they are extremely self confident and care very little about peer pressure which is much more than I ever was at their age. This is NOT to be taken as a "we've done everything right speech"....we've made a gazillion mistakes. Noah still has a bottle (I know you were thinking of that Mel!!!!:p :p :p :p ) But we love them enough to discipline them, although lately we've been soooo incredibly busy that we have slipped a bit ;) ;) ;) . You can always email me Emy!!!! AND if you leave your address...I'll be happy to send you the book!!!

Briee
 
RE: Moms of PATIENCE building toddlers !!!

Autumn must have just slipped in before me!! Hi Autumn!! Regarding vacs.....I didn't want to get into the debate because we have so many friends who go both ways and I'm confident that God leads them to their decisions and there is NO ONE decision that covers everyone. You have to do what you feel is best. We've been through far too many left wing ideas and realized that balance is key and just when we think we have all the answers....we realize we don't :7 :7 :7 . So I won't knock anyone for the decision they make. We like to receive our wisdom from the Bible and somehow vacinnations were never covered in that book ;-) ;-) ;-) ;-) ....although certain items contained in SOME vaccinations have been addressed. Oh my....how did I get into that...I'll end it there K????

I think your doing wonderful things Autumn for the Natural Family Planning position and glad to hear that it's going well!! So no more babies yet eh????? I watched the Jeanette Oakes movies last Sunday on Hallmark "Loves Enduring Promise" etc....they were so good and I almost felt like having another baby....oh my..that feelings creeping in...but I'm still pushing back. Although not quite as strongly as a year ago. hmmmmmmm:)
 
RE: Moms of PATIENCE building toddlers !!!

Thanks for the website. I am reading some of their articles. I may even order the book.

I also read the article on autism and found it very interesting. Have you seen it? It's interesting what she says about leavened bread. Something to think about. It's funny that I saw this because she talks about colon cleanses, and my husband works with a guy who does fasts and cleanses every so often. He feels it renews his health. I really have a wandering mind don't I? I was trying to figure out how I want to discipline my child...
 
Autumn--regarding NFP

Hi Autumn--my husband and I want to use NFP because I'm not sure when we will be ready for another child (if at all, quite honestly--right now I feel worn out:p :eek: :p ). My conscience is just not clear when it comes to other forms of birth control.

My question: Is it possible to practice NFP if you are not having periods? While I am nursing, I do not have periods (which means I'm not ovulating), but there is always that exception that I could ovulate unexpectedly and end up pregnant.

Any good books or websites you recommend?

thanks,
Maggie:)

ps. if you don't see this, I'll start a new thread with the question.
 
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