Mean Co-Workers
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Cathlete
<Hopefully, your influence will help her make even more positive changes in her life.>
I know Kelli meant well with this statement (she's good like that ;-) ) but think twice if anyone is tempted to become a "social worker" in such a situation. One would likely end up emotionally drained and frustrated for naught. Frankly, the person in question sounds like a mean spirited person who coincidentally has been down on her luck (possibly as a result of poor decision making). I think its fairly normal to be envious at times. I don't think it is normal to be mean, deceitful and petty.
I know Kelli meant well with this statement (she's good like that ;-) ) but think twice if anyone is tempted to become a "social worker" in such a situation. One would likely end up emotionally drained and frustrated for naught. Frankly, the person in question sounds like a mean spirited person who coincidentally has been down on her luck (possibly as a result of poor decision making). I think its fairly normal to be envious at times. I don't think it is normal to be mean, deceitful and petty.
janiejoey
Cathlete
She's such an unhappy person. I think her social skills are not up to par, and is a lost soul. Some people just can't live among society without putting their foot in their mouths. Do what you have been doing and compliment her when she deserves it. You are most likely the only person that does. I feel sorry for her, and it is so sad. Hopefully she'll learn a few things from you.
Janie
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dogs2birds
Cathlete
Thanks you guys. I know you're right. I've gone through stages where I try so hard not to talk to her much unless I have to. But it's so hard b/c we work in an office of only a few. And her and I are the only 2 managers so we end up having to work together (you actually need a bachelor's degree to get hired as a manager and she's worked her way up through the ranks - which I say good for her - and she has her associate's degree and I have my master's degree and she's made comments before about how that makes her feel too - another strike against me! 
). And then knowing that she will stab me in the back at any given opportunity - I'm afraid to make her angry. My DH says I'm just to nice anyway and that I don't know how to be a you-know-what. He says some people just don't have it in them. Some days I really wish I did. Today she's wearing an outfit that I gave her. I've given her a bunch of my nice clothes that are either too big now that I've lost 20 pounds (hehehe) or just things that I've had for a long time and don't wear anymore. I should have just given them to the Salvation Army or Goodwill!
I'll remember what you all have said. I know it's her, not me. And I honestly do feel sorry for her. And I'll TRY to pray for her. That's a real hard one!
Thanks again!
Suz
). And then knowing that she will stab me in the back at any given opportunity - I'm afraid to make her angry. My DH says I'm just to nice anyway and that I don't know how to be a you-know-what. He says some people just don't have it in them. Some days I really wish I did. Today she's wearing an outfit that I gave her. I've given her a bunch of my nice clothes that are either too big now that I've lost 20 pounds (hehehe) or just things that I've had for a long time and don't wear anymore. I should have just given them to the Salvation Army or Goodwill! I'll remember what you all have said. I know it's her, not me. And I honestly do feel sorry for her. And I'll TRY to pray for her. That's a real hard one!
Thanks again!
Suz