I want my mommy :-(
- Thread starter Miss Lee
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I have been having a crappy couple of years 
, and it's very sad because I have nobody to talk to. I do cherish my parents, but I can't talk to my mother about anything. She is extraordinarily judgemental and emotional, and always manages to make me come out of a conversation angry.
I am sorry you're having a bad couple of weeks. Anything we can help you with??
Sara
, and it's very sad because I have nobody to talk to. I do cherish my parents, but I can't talk to my mother about anything. She is extraordinarily judgemental and emotional, and always manages to make me come out of a conversation angry. I am sorry you're having a bad couple of weeks
. Anything we can help you with??Sara
Fit_mommy
Cathlete
Aw Michele...I feel for you. I'm sorry you had a rough couple of weeks. :-(
I lost my dad 10 years ago this December to cancer. He was only in his 50's. UGH!:-(
I have my mom though and I see her every week! She is one of my best friends!
My grandma (my mom's mother) died in the 80's from cancer...she was only 66. Her and my mom were best of friends and me and my sister were ALWAYS at grandma's house and LOVED to be there!
Why is it that the ones we love the most seem to be the ones that get taken from us the quickest???
Sorry, I'm off on a very depressing tangent here...I'll shut up now!
I hope this coming week is better for you!
I lost my dad 10 years ago this December to cancer. He was only in his 50's. UGH!:-(
I have my mom though and I see her every week! She is one of my best friends!
My grandma (my mom's mother) died in the 80's from cancer...she was only 66. Her and my mom were best of friends and me and my sister were ALWAYS at grandma's house and LOVED to be there!
Why is it that the ones we love the most seem to be the ones that get taken from us the quickest???
Sorry, I'm off on a very depressing tangent here...I'll shut up now!
I hope this coming week is better for you!
aproudfit
Cathlete
I know I can certainly feel like that... If I am having a particualy bad day-week - whatever - I know that if I can talk to my mom for even 5 minutes that she can ground me and make me feel so much better. She is amazing that way - she can be pretty impartial too and is very good with making me think clearly about situations. I do have the added benefit that she has done counciling type activities for many years. She spent several years as a crisis line volunteer when I was growing up and has been very actively involved with the local social services in our community.
I do feel bad for people that dont have that support...
Unfortunately my mom lives 5 hours away - so those times when you really need a hug - I can't get that....
I do feel bad for people that dont have that support...
Unfortunately my mom lives 5 hours away - so those times when you really need a hug - I can't get that....
aproudfit
Cathlete
Yeah - it really sucks on that hard days. I would have loved to have been closer to her when I got separated/divorced. I would have moved in with her for sure. But at least she was there for me for every crying phone call and was such a source of support.
It it really hard for her to be so far away from all of her grandchildren too... We all moved away from our small hometown - but at least my brother and sister do both live here and they are my best friends.
It it really hard for her to be so far away from all of her grandchildren too... We all moved away from our small hometown - but at least my brother and sister do both live here and they are my best friends.
Miss Lee
Cathlete
It's funny because my mom drove me absolutely crazy out of my mind! She was a strong willed, stubborn, bull headed old woman--I'm very much like her . She passed away 2.5 years ago. I've been thinking about her alot lately and I've been able to see her through new eyes. I think she did the best she could.
I lost my dad in 1979 to alcoholism. He literally pickled his liver. What a waste! We've had several deaths in my family just since my mom passed. Then my friend committed suicide yesterday. Today a couple that I've known for years were killed in a car accident. I guess they ran a stop sign and collided with a truck. I'll tell ya what--it just never ends!
I guess I just needed to vent. I't so wonderful to have this forum, isn't it? There are alot of great people here and I'll take my blessings where ever I can get them
Michele
. She passed away 2.5 years ago. I've been thinking about her alot lately and I've been able to see her through new eyes. I think she did the best she could.I lost my dad in 1979 to alcoholism. He literally pickled his liver. What a waste! We've had several deaths in my family just since my mom passed. Then my friend committed suicide yesterday. Today a couple that I've known for years were killed in a car accident. I guess they ran a stop sign and collided with a truck. I'll tell ya what--it just never ends!
I guess I just needed to vent. I't so wonderful to have this forum, isn't it? There are alot of great people here and I'll take my blessings where ever I can get them
Michele
YEEESSSSSS!!! The 6 months anniversary of my mother's death will be the 26th, which happens to be 2 days before my b-day. It may be a difficult b-day. Does our b-day mean as much to anyone as it does our mother? And my mom always did something for birthdays. I miss just chit chatting with her. This time of night is the most difficult because I called her just about everynight around this time to talk without kid interruptions. We talked at least twice a day. She could infuriate me in seconds but she was my mommy and is missed. I still find myself thinking "I have to call mom". Last week, Sydney learned to tie her shoes. My first thought was call mom because she had initiated teaching Sydney this skill. My dad has been gone 2 years and I miss him for our deep conversations. There are just never enough moments with those we love.
Miss Lee
Cathlete
It's really tough, Autumn. My mom and I argued alot but I called her every single day, too. We had to put her in a nursing home the last couple of years before she died because she was unstable on her feet and kept falling. She was sharp as a tac, though.
She ruled the roost, let me tell you. She kept a stash of wine and Italian liqueurs in her room and would have the nurses in after work for drinks and treats. It was pretty funny. She would call my sister at work (she's a 5th grade teacher). There was a phone in my sister's classroom and my mom would call her in the middle of the day and ask her to stop after work and pick up bagels and cream cheese because she was having her nurses in for a party. She was so outrageous!
She died 3 days before her 90th birthday and I think every staff person in the nursing home came to calling hours. They just sobbed.
Something happened one day that totally creeped me out. It had been several months since my mom died. I had an old cell phone--the type that didn't lock. I was carrying it in my purse when I heard a little voice coming from it. I realized that I accidentally pushed a button and called someone so I grabbed the phone to shut it down and when I looked at the screen, it had called my mom's number, which I had programmed into the phone and never bothered to delete it. The number had been reassigned and I got someones answering machine. It was so bizarre. It really freaked me out.
Michele
She ruled the roost, let me tell you. She kept a stash of wine and Italian liqueurs in her room and would have the nurses in after work for drinks and treats. It was pretty funny. She would call my sister at work (she's a 5th grade teacher). There was a phone in my sister's classroom and my mom would call her in the middle of the day and ask her to stop after work and pick up bagels and cream cheese because she was having her nurses in for a party. She was so outrageous!
She died 3 days before her 90th birthday and I think every staff person in the nursing home came to calling hours. They just sobbed.
Something happened one day that totally creeped me out. It had been several months since my mom died. I had an old cell phone--the type that didn't lock. I was carrying it in my purse when I heard a little voice coming from it. I realized that I accidentally pushed a button and called someone so I grabbed the phone to shut it down and when I looked at the screen, it had called my mom's number, which I had programmed into the phone and never bothered to delete it. The number had been reassigned and I got someones answering machine. It was so bizarre. It really freaked me out.
Michele
LOL!! Love the story about the party for the nurses! Your mom sounds like she was great!
My mom was only 60. She was diagnosed with scleroderma in '97. She never knew she was going to die because, thankfully, it was very fast. Considering scleroderma, I am truly thankful. She got sick on Sunday and passed away Tuesday. She refused to go to the hospital until Tuesday, but that was my mom. She told me in the ER that I didn't need to come to St. Louis... wait until tomorrow after the surgery. I was looking at her vitals (B/P's 50s/30s), she is in septic shock, her ears are purple, ok no more details... and thinking I can't wait. I am just as stubborn, so I can't hold it against her.
I hope I am like your mom Michele... a stash of wine and goodies at 90.
My mom was only 60. She was diagnosed with scleroderma in '97. She never knew she was going to die because, thankfully, it was very fast. Considering scleroderma, I am truly thankful. She got sick on Sunday and passed away Tuesday. She refused to go to the hospital until Tuesday, but that was my mom. She told me in the ER that I didn't need to come to St. Louis... wait until tomorrow after the surgery. I was looking at her vitals (B/P's 50s/30s), she is in septic shock, her ears are purple, ok no more details... and thinking I can't wait. I am just as stubborn, so I can't hold it against her.
I hope I am like your mom Michele... a stash of wine and goodies at 90.
Miss Lee
Cathlete
Wendy, Carole, Sara, Autumn, Ann, and anybody I may have missed,
Good night and thank you so much for your kind words of support. I hesitated before starting this thread but I'm awfully glad I did. You all have helped me immensely. We've never met, yet I feel a real sense of friendship with you all. Thanks again--you've touched my soul.
Michele
Good night and thank you so much for your kind words of support. I hesitated before starting this thread but I'm awfully glad I did. You all have helped me immensely. We've never met, yet I feel a real sense of friendship with you all. Thanks again--you've touched my soul.
Michele
So glad you are feeling better Michele. Yes this is an incredibly supportive group here.
I'm NOT the least bit close to my mother - seen her 5 times in 10 years. My Dad passed away the year I split from my ex (89) and my son was 1 and daughter 3. That was tough. However, I truley believe that someone's spirit lives on. He still guides me with the lessons he has taught me. I've even had uncanny things like a family friend of my Dad's called out of the blue last year when my son was having serious issues. Relatives came out of the wood work - just happening to be in the area. Not sure what it was but it really is like he still looks out for us. I know the lessons he taught me I have been able to share with my kids. Funny my son now wants to go to the college where he went. Fortunately we had a wonderful relationship when he was alive as well.
I find my greatest comfort from prayer and I've been through a lot. Faith, family friends. The wonderful thing is that unlike people it is always there.
Hugs and good thoughts coming your way.
I'm NOT the least bit close to my mother - seen her 5 times in 10 years. My Dad passed away the year I split from my ex (89) and my son was 1 and daughter 3. That was tough. However, I truley believe that someone's spirit lives on. He still guides me with the lessons he has taught me. I've even had uncanny things like a family friend of my Dad's called out of the blue last year when my son was having serious issues. Relatives came out of the wood work - just happening to be in the area. Not sure what it was but it really is like he still looks out for us. I know the lessons he taught me I have been able to share with my kids. Funny my son now wants to go to the college where he went. Fortunately we had a wonderful relationship when he was alive as well.
I find my greatest comfort from prayer and I've been through a lot. Faith, family friends. The wonderful thing is that unlike people it is always there.
Hugs and good thoughts coming your way.