I feel old!

[naughtoj]

Ok, no flame wars here!

I was just sitting here thinking how old I feel. Like all my good times are gone! I used to love to go out to the clubs and dance. Loved the feeling of getting dressed up to go get "looked at" by the opposite sex. I am married now but still have that feeling. I still wish I could go out, dance all night, drink a few beers.....but none of my friends want to do that...they are all too "old" for that. Is it bad that I miss that? Everyone acts like that once you get married your husband should be enough and you should never miss that, but I do...I liked being desirable to the opposite sex. Liked going out just to boogie and look good. Now I feel like it is all about bills and school and work.....and maybe kids......

I know I should have "girls night" outs, but no one wants to do what I want to do. I loved loved loved dancing in the clubs. I didn't go only to drink, I actually drank very little, but it all made me feel ALIVE. Do you guys really miss something from your past that it feels like just IS NOT OK to do anymore??? I now try to get that feeling from running on the treadmill. But sometimes I just want to go out, let loose. Doesn't mean I love my husband any less. I know there are other types of good times left in my life but I do feel like I have lost my youth. Can you relate???

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[fit_fairy]

I don't know, I really enjoy my life now. That said, I can not dance and I was never into the bar scene (maybe because of the can't dance thing) Hope you figure it out for yourself!!

Catherine

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[Fit_mommy]

Not a flame in sight my dear!

I understand where you are coming from, Janice. I always enjoyed the club/bar scene myself. Still do that on occasion. Sometimes it's a girl's night and sometimes DH is with me. We have no problems with eachother going out with out the other so there's no issue if I want to go to a club with my gf's and dance.

It's also nice to dress up and "get noticed". We are married, not dead, right!?

I love my DH and my DS to death and I love my current life but I also love going out and having a good time as if I were 21 again! I don't "cross the line"...just go and have a good time. Too bad your friends think they are too old for that...PHOOEY! Come to Jersey...I think I am headed to a club next weekend as a matter of fact...You can come party hardy with us!}(

 

[elaineee7]

I know exactly how you feel. I haven't been dancing in years!!! I tell my husband that I married him under false pretenses because when we were dating, we danced all the time. That all stopped the day after the wedding! I now wait for other weddings and hope someone will dance with me. I can also relate to wanting to be noticed by the opposite sex. Being "middle aged" you don't get noticed as often. It always makes me feel good when some of the guys (especially the younger ones)I work with make "little comments" about how good I'm looking lately. At first I thought they were saying things just to be nice and help the old lady feel good, but I have since learned that they are sincere. Makes it feel even better. BTW, please don't think that the "little comments" are in any way sexual or any type of harrassment. They really give me the incentive to keep working hard. After all...I'll never be this young again!

 

[allwildgirl]

Girl, I'm 42 years old and I STILL go dancing in clubs. I don't drink, never have, but don't take away my dancing.

Most of the people there are half my age, but I don't care. I have more energy than the majority of them anyway. A while back, some 21 year old guy said to me "why do you still listen to this music and come here?". I said "why should I stop listening to the music that I love and doing what I love just because of my age?". He didn't have an answer to that one.

Won't your DH go with you?

 

[naughtoj]

I know sometimes I miss going dancing, but funny thing is, usually once I am there I realize how much I don't recognize the music anymore and how young everyone else seems. Then I am like, "what am I doing here?". LOL. The mind numbing music tends to annoy me now after a couple hours. Plus, drinking even a few beers now seems to leave me hungover and miserable.}(


I guess this is just how our lives progress. We get older and our priorities change. No matter what though, I would never trade my life with my husband. As much as I love dancing, I love sitting in front of the tube watching a funny movie with my hubby!!


Thanks for the empathy!

 

[pixie9]

This may sound strange but DH and I have really gotten into ballroom dancing. We now go to a class once a week and make it a 'date' night. There are always men in the class who have obviously been dragged there by their wives and they commiserate with eachother about it, but nine times out of ten they end up loving it and coming back for a new session.
The cool thing about ballroom is that you learn tons of dances. Swing, fox trot(which has become my favorite even though it sounds sooo cheesy), waltz, latin. Latin dancing is soooo much fun!!! Plus, we can take our "skills" to dance clubs, and do on occasion. But having a once a week class is usually enough for me to get my dancing fix.

Carolyn

 

[red_mct]

I was going to suggest dance lessons, too. I LOVE dancing but I have never really been into the club scene, or I should say, I haven't been to a club in years and that is by preference.

Anyway, if you don't want to do ballroom, you could always take solo lessons in jazz or hip hop or something, don't you think? I think that would be a lot of fun!

Marie

PS: I also think it's normal to feel nostalgic for times and places in our lives that seem simpler.

 

[nancy324]

Janice,
I too am a dancing machine. I used to love to go out to the NYC clubs and dance the night away when I was younger. My DH is perfectly willing to go out dancing with me, but I just don't have the time or energy anymore. Why not just go out dancing with your DH?
-Nancy

 

[toastythemosty]

I can relate to what you are saying. I feel the same. I feel more alive now then I was in my twenties and sometimes I just don't feel like being responsible either and I want to be wild. I don't know what my problem is or if I have one, but it is just the way I feel. I love to dance too, but last time I went clubbin' with the girls, the guys would not leave me alone. Not trying to brag, but it is the truth. I felt uncomfortable with that cuz I am a married woman so my dh would have to come and he won't so I find other things to entertain myself.

Charlotte~~

 

[step_a_holic]

I didn't really feel old until I read this post and it reminded me of how much I loved to go clubbin' in my earlier days and how much I miss it!!!!

Even though this made me feel old, it was just for the moment. I still feel like I'm in my 20's (I'm 35) and I don't really remember what I used to do with my time prior to having our daughter until I am reminded about it one way or the other, like this post. I guess I'm just content with life.

Although a night of clubbin' here and there wouldn't be such a bad thing. Now my version of clubbing is turning the radio up and dancing in the living room with my daughter. She keeps me feeling young.

Have a great day everyone!

Melissa

 

[divagirl]

Maybe you can pick up a new friend who would like to do the dancing thing with you. I am 32 with friends my age up to 36 and a few of them love to dance like me. I don't think there's anything wrong with it. I want to do it until I can't so at 80 years old I hope I still sometimes go somewhere i can dance.

 

[Imafitnessfreak]

I love Carolyn's idea to do a dance class, it would be so much more fun than you think! DH and I did it years ago.

Still, why can't you go and make friends there? And why don't you belong there??? Age is attitude!

Think of it this way...how long do you think you will live? 85 years old? 95 years old? 105 years old? Do the math to get a rough idea how long you have left. Now, isn't that way to much life wasted thinking "I'm too old"? If you live for 70 years...you will be telling yourself your old for 70 years. By the time you are 70 years old, you will look back at this time and age and wish you had not wasted your years not doing things because you convinced yourself your already too old! Make sense??

Get out there and DANCE!!!

 

[LuckeeLaydee]

I'm 48, going to be 49 (eek!) on Friday and I still go out dancing occasionally. I love it, my DH doesn't. He will go with me sometimes, but I must say I have more fun with my (few) wonderful friends. One is 36 and one is 51 and they both love to boogie!
We might as well have fun as this is the only chance.

Paula

 

[naughtoj]

Well, DH won't go with me. Well, he would, but he wouldn't dance and then would probably have a fit if any guy even looked at me. So I can't imagine that would be fun. He has said he would take a dance lesson, but you can tell the enthusiasm isn't there and the last thing I want to do is hear him whine once we start the classes.

A friend had said she would take Latin dance with me, but our lives are so busy right now that it just didn't happen. This semester of school is the hardest yet. If I was doing all the studying I should be I would have no free time whatsoever so I guess I can't justify taking classes right now. Right now I am prioritizing working out and that alone is making me feel guilty!! I gotta work too. Maybe after the academic portion of this semester ends....8 weeks.....

Charlotte...I feel the same way. It is not just about dancing, it is about feeling young and wild! Maybe that is what I miss, the lack of responsibilities. Hmmm. Oh well, back to reality and studying.