Hi Lori,
I think that if you are trying to get leaner, I believe I've read also that it is a good idea to limit your fruit to 2 to 3 pieces per day due to that fact that fruit is mainly simple carbs (abeit healthy ones). Also, I think it's good to eat some kind of protein along with the fruit to slow the absorption of the carbs. I've been reading Feed the Muscle, Burn the Fat (as so many on this forum rave about), and I think you would really gain a lot by this book as well if you haven't read it already. It is all about how to eat and train to get leaner, which is what we're looking for.
I do know what you mean though about doing what works for you. I keep my calories around 1200 as well. I have to as well. I have added more protein and cut my carbs and that has helped. Hope that helps. But, by all means enjoy that fruit..haha.