Help! Need your input....on communication skills.

[dmd]

Alright. I need your help. This takes allot of courage from me, but I thought that I would try this:

Lately, I have had difficulty communicating with people in my life. I honestly don't know what I could be doing wrong...I have thought allot about it and wonder if during my time here on the forum anyone here would have some constructive critisism for me. Some of you have seem my posts and responsises come and go...so, what am I doing wrong? Please, give it to me straight. How am I coming off? What do you sense.

Thanks, dmd~deb dailey

 

[Connie1]

Please be more specific. No, I don't mean that your problem is that you're too broad :+

What do you mean "Lately I have had trouble communicating with people in my life." In what way? What are they saying? I did a search on your posts and the ones I read look normal to me.

 

[claridge]

I made a "search" first as well!

Im with Connie because I think your just as "normal" as the rest of us, (which of course on this forum means your 'INSANE' in a "good and positive way"

We all have days where where the people around us, are just not "hearing" us or just not "getting it"............and sometimes its due to "how" we are communicating to them, or "how" the message we are making, is being received!

Is this what you mean? No one is listening or responding to you?

Hmmmmmmm, Im not sure if Ive made any sence here, but Ill send it anyway.

P.S. You sound alittle like you also need a hug, so a cyber hug coming your way

Marion

 

[cathykazbar]

Hi dmd-
I looked at some of you posts as well and they seemed to come acros as very positive and friendly. Did you have a certain experience that left you feeling this way? I know I have days where I feel this way too. I second the "cyber-hug" I am new to this forum and have to say again how wonderfully supportive and kind the people are! Please let us know how you are doing!
Cathy

 

[DebbieH]

Hey Deb! You know I know you WELL and have always thought you come off as a very warm, caring person. I am not sure exactly what you are asking if you want to clarify a bit? You are such a giving and talented person. I still listen to your music! Don't be down on yourself at all because I know you care deeply for people.
Your-Friend-In-Fitness, DebbieH http://www.handykult.de/plaudersmilies.de/wavey.gif[/img] If You Get The Choice To Sit It Out Or Dance...I Hope You DANCE!!!

 

[dss62467]

Hi Deb - the trick of communicating with people is to adapt it to each person. I communicate differently with each type of person I have in my life. I'm very free in the way I communicate with my friends. More reserved with my coworkers. I try to choose my words carefully with my husband because he's extremely sensitive and defensive and stay away from certain topics with my dad - he likes to debate. I do not.

Communication is very tricky and can sometimes be exhausting. So sometimes I just don't say anything and keep inside my own head. Little opportunity for misunderstandings that way.

I prefer emailing and Instant Messages as opposed to phone calls. You're able to see your words before the other person and pull something back before it does damage.

If there's something that I need to discuss with someone, I try to figure out what I will say before the conversation so it can get off on the right foot. As I said about my husband, that's very important because he will frequently take things as an attack, and he is not one to "get over it". Sometimes I just get lazy and spit things out. That always backfires.

As the other ladies have said, this is a difficult question for us to answer because it's pretty vague. It's also hard to get a lock on someone's personality through just knowing them from an internet forum.