I mentioned a while back that a very good friend of mine has started training w/me. Well, while it was fun at first, it's starting to wear really thin. She claims she's "on a mission." Her words. But I'm not sure what kind of a mission other than to make me nutty.
We've been working out together for about 2 months now. I told her when we first started to bring a notebook so she could write down the exercises & weights. It took 2 weeks of me reminding her until she finally brought it. Last night I found out she's written down maybe 25% of the whole routine.
She also doesn't seem to pay attention when I describe stuff to her. It's kind of like she's just relying on me to always be there to show her what to do. I've given her a few not-so-subtle hints, like "you have to write this stuff down so you can do the routine without me." Problem is, I work an awful lot of hours & my lifting routine has gone from one hour to two hours when she's w/me b/c I have to explain everything to her every time we lift.
I gave her a few Cathe & Tracey DVDs to take home a couple of weeks ago. I finally asked for them back, & as it turned out she never watched any of them. See, it's not like my routine is complicated. There are no compound movements, no balance stuff, no fancy footwork. It's very basic, traditional lifting, what I call my "Arnold" routine.
I just cannot understand why, after 2 months, she still doesn't know how to do a bicep curl.
Part of this is def. my problem--I've been doing this long enough that it's like second nature to me. That said, when I first started working out I read everything I could get my hands on & went out of my way to educate myself. She doesn't seem to make any effort when she's not w/me. It's not like she's busy--she's 38, works less than 40 hours a week, is single, no kids & lives w/her mom. I am kinda busy--I struggle to fit in my routine each week b/c I work a lot of nights--& what used to be a 5-6 pm w/o has turned into a 5-7 pm w/o, leaving me almost no time to food shop, hit the dry cleaners, etc. etc.
Now I'm starting to get irritated to the point that non-exercise stuff she does is bugging me. Like, she intentionally buys w/o clothes a size to small b/c she says it "holds everything in." OMG! It is not a pretty picture..........she weighs about 20 lbs more than me & I told her last week I was gonna Goodwill the pants I was wearing b/c I felt like they were too small & she said "give them to me!"
She actually has a pretty nice body too--I'd call her voluptuous--& I think if she wore clothes that fit she'd look really fabulous.
I also think she's lying to me about her diet & cardio. Not much I can do about that, but she's hardly on a "mission" if she's cheating on that stuff.
So, what would you guys do? Should I sit her down, have a talk w/her & tell her she needs to get serious or she can't train w/me anymore? Or should I just tell her I think she has the basics she needs & she can do it without me from now on? She's one of my best friends--I'm afraid I'll ruin our friendship if I bail on her, but I'm also afraid I'll ruin our friendship if I keep working out w/her. Please help!
