For ahwile now I've been going to my grandma's every Thursday on my lunch hour to visit and to get away from work. I realized I needed to spend more time with her. I like going and really enjoy the conversations we have (I never realized how alike we are).
MANY years ago (at least 10) my grandpa died. This was my grandma's first husband (my mom's dad) and she remarried. There was alot of stuff that happened between my mom and her sisters and brother and since then none of them get along. My grandma likes to stir the pot a little (I think) and tends to compare my mom to my aunt all the time and my mom hates it. Mom doesn't like to be around grandma much unless she has to. I admit that grandma doesn't always think before she thinks but I am getting tired of my mom always saying things negative. Example: My grandma's carpt is loose and needs to be restretched. I mentioned it to mom and she said "Well I'm suprised Paula hasn't taken care of it, she was in charge of ordering that carpet." (Paula is the aunt). I just wish they would all just get over it. My mom tried to talk to Paula and resolve some issues but it never really helped.
Should I just not talk about my lunches with grandma with my mom? I almost want to say to her "can you stop being so negative?" But I don't think that's the right way to handle it.
Sorry this is so long. Thanks for listening.
Kimbra
MANY years ago (at least 10) my grandpa died. This was my grandma's first husband (my mom's dad) and she remarried. There was alot of stuff that happened between my mom and her sisters and brother and since then none of them get along. My grandma likes to stir the pot a little (I think) and tends to compare my mom to my aunt all the time and my mom hates it. Mom doesn't like to be around grandma much unless she has to. I admit that grandma doesn't always think before she thinks but I am getting tired of my mom always saying things negative. Example: My grandma's carpt is loose and needs to be restretched. I mentioned it to mom and she said "Well I'm suprised Paula hasn't taken care of it, she was in charge of ordering that carpet." (Paula is the aunt). I just wish they would all just get over it. My mom tried to talk to Paula and resolve some issues but it never really helped.
Should I just not talk about my lunches with grandma with my mom? I almost want to say to her "can you stop being so negative?" But I don't think that's the right way to handle it.
Sorry this is so long. Thanks for listening.
Kimbra