Hi---
This is always a difficult question to approach because there are so many other factors - like stress, sleep, your age, etc. But I can help in one respect: you do not have to give up bread completely. You do not have to work out for 2 hours per day. You do not have to kill yourself if all you want to do is shed some fat and build/support muscle.
My recommendation (I am NOT an expert, just a person who has experimented on herself and read a lot) is to focus on your diet. You may want to consult a nutritionist who specializes in athletic nutrition. Members of this forum drew my attention to Burn the Fat, Feed the Muscle and Tosca's book, which I found somewhat helpful. The trick is applying what you learn and getting the results you want.
I decided to really take my nutrition seriously recently, and I think it's making a difference. I have more consistent energy throughout the day, don't "bonk out" in the middle of workouts, and I am shedding fat (slowly but surely).
Here's a sample daily menu from my nutritionist (please note the presence of Ezekiel bread with almond butter, which, when toasted, is delicious!):
2 scoops mixed with 6-8 oz of cold water
1 TBS of Flaxseed oil
1 cup of frozen berries of choice
B Vitamin 1/2 tsp in water
WATER
Ezekiel Bread 1 slice
Raw Almond Butter approx 2-3 tbs
WATER
1 serving Mary's Gone Crackers
4-6 oz of turkey, fish, or chicken
2 cups dark green leafy salad w/ any veggie topping
Small amount of avocado or handful of walnuts
2 tbs of dressing (preferrably vinegarette)
2 Hard Boiled Egg Whites
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WATER
1/3 cup cooked Quinoa
1 and 1/2 Turkey Burgers (trader joes)
2 cups of veggies. Ex. Asparagus, Cauliflower
Broccoli, Spinach. Grilled or Steamed
If still hungry may have 1/2 cup Fage Yogurt (make sure there is less
than 7 grams of sugar per serving)
1Mix with 1/2 cup of Organic Unsweetened
Apple Sauce or other fruit
I'm not ever so hungry that I'm deranged. I still have ridiculous sweet cravings, but I can resist because I'm eating frequently and I'm getting enough carbs, fat, protein in my diet. HTH!
Lisa