GAYLE...
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banslug
Cathlete
Oh, Lorie. THANK YOU! Seeing my name 'in lights' like this really surprised me! LOL Thanks for asking about us!
In a nutshell, we're doing very well. I'm very proud of my decision, to be quite honest. I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders, and I didn't even know that weight was there!
I waited a week or so before saying anything to my boys. I worried how they would react. Mike had been in the picture from before DH passed away because we were friends and worked together, so the transition of male role models for the kids was pretty easy. So I worried that they'd feel like they were losing somebody else. But get this! I told them Friday, while we were making ourselves sandwiches for lunch (what I told them, exactly, was that we were no longer engaged becasue we were not getting married....younger DS asked why and I explained the part about neither of us wanting to move, which they both agreed with) and older DS said "ok" and younger DS asked, "Can I have my sandwich now?" lol They haven't said a thing about it since. Go figure! lol You worry like crazy about the kids and they're the ones who handle it better!
I chatted with him the other night again, and there have been no tears on my part. I'm not sad, which surprises me. I'm not worried about anything either, like I thought I would be. I think this just shows me that this was exactly the right thing to do for US!
Thanks, Lorie, for asking! It means a lot!!!
Gayle
p.s. Oh, and we've been broken up for what? 2 weeks? And somebody (my DS's friend's dad) heard about it (you know how news travels in this world) and he asked me out! lol Going to a movie later this week. But I'm taking baby steps and being completely honest and up front with him about not wanting to jump right back into another relationship!
In a nutshell, we're doing very well. I'm very proud of my decision, to be quite honest. I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders, and I didn't even know that weight was there!
I waited a week or so before saying anything to my boys. I worried how they would react. Mike had been in the picture from before DH passed away because we were friends and worked together, so the transition of male role models for the kids was pretty easy. So I worried that they'd feel like they were losing somebody else. But get this! I told them Friday, while we were making ourselves sandwiches for lunch (what I told them, exactly, was that we were no longer engaged becasue we were not getting married....younger DS asked why and I explained the part about neither of us wanting to move, which they both agreed with) and older DS said "ok" and younger DS asked, "Can I have my sandwich now?" lol They haven't said a thing about it since. Go figure! lol You worry like crazy about the kids and they're the ones who handle it better!
I chatted with him the other night again, and there have been no tears on my part. I'm not sad, which surprises me. I'm not worried about anything either, like I thought I would be. I think this just shows me that this was exactly the right thing to do for US!
Thanks, Lorie, for asking! It means a lot!!!
Gayle
p.s. Oh, and we've been broken up for what? 2 weeks? And somebody (my DS's friend's dad) heard about it (you know how news travels in this world) and he asked me out! lol Going to a movie later this week. But I'm taking baby steps and being completely honest and up front with him about not wanting to jump right back into another relationship!
Kim
buffettgirl
Cathlete
Good for you Gayle. I'm glad it's all working out so well.