for those with children already....

[sunnydelite]

do you feel like your child(ren) are showing odd behavior now that you are pregnant?
my 4 year old son who i thought was totally cool with the idea of having a new baby bro (he's been asking for one) is starting to act differently. all of a sudden he doesn't want to go to his pre-school anymore. he literally cried when we left him there this morning. he's been there for quite awhile now and didn't even cry on his first day. he ususally always wants me to drop him off at school now all of a sudden he wants daddy to take him inside. we've tried talking to him to see if there is anything going on we need to know about. he says kids there are hitting him, we've spoken to the teachers and office administrator. i am just wondering if it could be something else or if this behavior is because of the new baby....

 

[wendymin72]

I don't have any children yet but I would think that he is probably looking for more attention out of the fear of losing it once the baby is born. It's got to be hard for the older siblings at first...especially when it's the first born cause they are used to ALL of the attention ALL of the time.....just a thought...

~Wendy~

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[FiddleFit]

Oh dear! Sunnydelite my 4 (almost 5) year old daughter has yet to show any negative behaviour as a result of the pregnancy, but perhaps that will change in the near future, or when the baby actually arrives and reality hits. Today is her very last day of daycare, however, and then she is home with me full time until September, when she starts kindergarten. Every day this past week she has been reluctant to go to daycare, wanting to stay home starting right now!

I'm sorry your son is suddenly balking about going to his preschool. It breaks your heart to send them when they seem so miserable about going. I sincerely hope he's not being bullied by some of the other kids. I think you did the right thing by talking to the adminstrators and teachers. Perhaps they can keep a closer eye on him for a few days, and make sure he's not getting hit?

It's hard to say if he's reacting to the pregnancy. The mind of a 4 year old can be a confusing thing to figure out.

Sandra

 

[sunnydelite]

sandra,
that's exactly what i am thinking. i don't want to just assume it's just because of the pregnancy because he's been so happy and is always kissing my belly. i make sure i give him extra attention and don't mention the baby too much. my dh went to check on him at lunch time (unbeknownst to ds) and he said he looked like he was having a good time. I just want to make sure that it's not something that i am overlooking or something he is not able to tell me. I am having the teachers keep a close eye on him to make sure he isn't being bullied as he does mention one particular boy that he says constantly hits him. ARghhh, why don't kids come with "how to" labels...

 

[JulieL]

No not yet. But he is only beginning to get the idea. I ask him, Anthony where is your baby? Sometimes he points to my belly, sometimes he points to his LOL. I try to call the baby, his baby, or our baby, so he feels included and important to the baby. I also plan on making a scrapbook in maybe the last trimester for the baby w/DS. I want to talk about the baby, what we hope to do with it, what DS can teach it and so forth. I figure 1. I get a scrapbook out of it 2. DS can get some fun and special time including the baby. Anyway, don't worry to much there will be good days and bad days w/adjusting to the new baby, we just have to take it as it goes.

 

[lindzebird]

That would worry me too, but I don't know if it could be linked to the pregnancy or if it's something at his pre-school. I hope nothing bad is happening there, that's a mother's worst nightmare. I hope you can get to the bottom of what is bothering him.

Lindzebird