For all you moms with younger kids

L Sass

L Sass

Cathlete
I have a question. My children are 7, 4 and 2. I'm a SAHM, part-time lawyer, and serve on various boards and agencies, etc. I love staying home with my children, and yes, they totally wear me out - as they're supposed to do.

Here's my question. In the evening, when I get the kids down, and some semblence of quietude emerges over my home, sometimes ALL I WANT is a cup of coffee with a little bit of Baileys, and maybe some non-kids-bop music. And I mean that's ALL - no romp in the hay or roll on the bed. Just a little coffee and quiet. I love my DH dearly, but he doesn't really understand that. Do you all know what I'm talking about?

Lorrie
 
My kids are older now, but I remember how wiped out I was when they were real little. At that age, they're practically attached to you at the hip, so craving some quiet ALONE time is perfectly natural... and expected. Try explaining to your DH that you just need a breather. Lots of luck.:)
 
I completely understand what you are saying. I always wanted to have some time alone after all day with my children and at night, I just wanted to sleep...don't even touch me attitude. Now things are different. My children are older and I have too much time to myself. I would like to have more romantic moments with DH, but now DH is too tired during the week and just wants to sleep. Paybacks are hell. LOL!

Charlotte~~
 
I soooooo understand. I'm SAHM, 4 DSs, 3 @ home ages 8, 8 & 11 and I homeschool them and 2 have special needs. When they finally, and sometimes it takes a while, go to sleep, I want to sit and hear SILENCE and feel only the AIR around me. My DH has finally come to recognize the "look" that demonstrates this mood, but it had to first be explained to him.

Recently I discovered yoga and it is a retreat for me:)

Let your DH know how you're feeling. Men don't just pick up on these things - men and women really are wired differently.

Ssssshhhhhhh...Lorrie needs peace and quiet.....
 
I too stay home, work part time, and have a 9 and 6 year old. At the end of the day I tend to doze off in "my " chair after I put them to bed. Some nights I am to bed as soon as I have them in bed. However I do take one or two nights a week for hubby and me time. We stay up and talk and catch up on "other stuff" :) My hubby understands and appreciates whatever time we can spend together. I am hoping eventually I won't be so tired! :) Susan
 
I have 4 kids - ages 3-15 and am exhausted by nighttime.

Here's what works for us - DH and I flirt a lot during the day, so it kind of builds up an excitement for being alone together at night. Anticipating our time alone together is fun for both of us. Also, I try to keep in mind that I never regret giving up some sleep to have that special time with DH.

Some nights it's just not there, though, and I just want to crawl into bed and sleep! Then we just say, tomorrow is another day...:)

Erica
 
Lorrie my dear :) ... my first and only at this point is a mere 10 months old and I certainly get it!!! I am a SAHM as well. My DH must "get it" b/c he leaves me be and lets me "unwind" the way I want to....He gets HIS time ;), but after I put my babe down for the night I need MY time and he seems to be fine with that!:)
 
Absolutely understand. Been there...still there!

For me it is sitting down to a totally quiet house with a pot of tea and a magazine. Many men just don't seem to 'get' the quiet/alone time thing. My H can go out to his shop to get away from the kids but yet he doesn't 'get' that the only peace and quiet I have is when everyone...including him...is in bed and LEAVING ME ALONE!

I swear, I cannot go to the bathroom without someone in the house yelling..."Where's Mom?"

Oh, surprise...there's a munchkin right now yappin at my elbow, now times two. It is the bane of motherhood...never having a moments peace or the time for a single thought.

And this is the one topic that always is discussed when I get together with friends. It is the tie that binds all busy moms.
 
>>I swear, I cannot go to the bathroom without someone in the house >>yelling..."Where's Mom?"

Didn't you get the memo? There's an alarm that sounds all through a house AND into the yard when a mom's butt hits the toilet seat. At least, I'm certain there MUST be.
:7
 
LOL! For crying-out-loud Melody...I can believe it because it happens every single time.

And...it's not JUST the kids. During the day when I'm here running an office, every freakin single time I go to the bathroom...phone rings and it's DH. And I mean every freakin time.

There has to be something in this house that tips everyone off to my toilet routine.
 
>>And...it's not JUST the kids. During the day when I'm here running >>an office, every freakin single time I go to the bathroom...phone >>rings and it's DH. And I mean every freakin time.




OMG! You're right! That buzzer sounds at all DHs' places of employment. And they always ask, "Hi Honey, what'cha doin'?"
 
My DH doesn't call me often as he works in the field but when he does he usually manages to do it at a "BAD" time and then takes forever to say what he wants!!!!!x( :p :7
 
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