Feeling guilty......

MRSchultz

MRSchultz

Cathlete
Hi all - I'm trying to get over my guilt about working out after work before I go home. Here's the deal.....I work in a school and once that bell rings my DS comes running in all excited that his school day is done and he's ready to go home. Well, I send him to the after school child care that's right in the same building until I'm off of work (1/2 hour later). I usually try to get a run in before I pick him up, but the whole time I'm so anxious to get back to pick him up because I know he just wants to go home and play outside, etc. BUT, I need my time, right? I can't run when I get home, so this is usually the only time that works out, but the guilt can be so overpowering........HELP........x(

Someone tell me it's OK to do something for myself, I think I just need to be reassured or something????? I feel like a bad mom when I don't pick him up right away.

Thanks, Marcia!
 
OK, knock it off! Take your "me" time and enjoy it! You're not only doing yourself a favor, but also everyone in your house because you'll feel better. Your son will survive for the extra 30 minutes you're delaying his time outside. He gets his time, you get yours. Fair enough?

"It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt." Mark Twain ;-)
 
<<Your son will survive for the extra 30 minutes you're delaying his time outside.>>

TRUE! What's the big deal? He can wait 30 minutes.

Hey, there's no escaping parental guilt. If it wasn't this, it would be something else! Don't take your guilt too seriously.

You NEED your workouts. Period. :)
 
As a mother of four...you most certainly have my permission to take the time for yourself and workout. :D

I know the guilt, been there, but as parents we will always be faced with dilemma's like this. Last night I had a track meet to attend for my oldest DD, my youngest DD was in the middle of a crying jag when I left because she didn't want me to go. She stayed home with her brother who babysat her. It's hard to leave when you know they are upset but at the same time...I had another child depending on me to be there to watch her run. Sometimes it's just a no win situation and the kids just have to learn to cope. I could have taken my youngest with me but we had 40 mph winds and rain forecast so she had no business being out in that all night...and it was cold! Today I have pink eye to boot!

It's important that we stay healthy so we can raise our families. You take that time after work and exercise. I'm sure once he gets into the after-school program he is having fun with the other kids. You are very lucky to have that available.
 
What about taking a little longer run 3 days a week and let him get home to play 2 days a week, you know, taking turns?

BTW....I am the opposite, sometimes I have to remember that I have to cater to my son once in awhile. But after having 4 kids (3 have grown) I realize that I am just as important as they are and they will be fine. Beleive me...they won't be sitting home worrying about spending time with you when they're 16!!!


Paula
 
Hi Marcia,

I have no parental advice for you since I'm not a parent. But if you are feeling bad, can you possibly run early in the morning before you go to work? For me (and I know you already know this!), if I don't get it done in the morning it doesn't get done.

Just a thought. And quit beating yourself up!!! My mom raised my sister and me and she worked full time and I'm just fine. :)

Susan

"Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened." - Anatole France

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Stop feeling guilty. If you don't get your time in too, what type of parent would you be, grumpy, stressed etc? Plus he is probably playing with other kids and having fun while at the after school program. Sometimes we catered to our kids too much and if we continue to do that all the time, what type of people will they grow up to be? Of course look out for his well being, but take care of yourself at the same time.

Jean
 
Stop feeling guilty. If you don't get your time in too, what type of parent would you be, grumpy, stressed etc? Plus he is probably playing with other kids and having fun while at the after school program. Sometimes we catered to our kids too much and if we continue to do that all the time, what type of people will they grow up to be? Of course look out for his well being, but take care of yourself at the same time.

Jean
 
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