Feeling down....

[kristina]

My guy just got a great job in Los Angeles (I live in Las Vegas) and he left today...So I am very , very, sad (We've been living together for 2 years)...
My whole immediate family is in So. Cal. and I plan on moving back by the end of the year, if the whole job thing works out for me (it has to be as good as I have here) ...
Anywho, I was at "body beautiful central" (LVAC) gym today feeling totally pathetic ( I am 20 lbs overweight, my boobs are too small, etc etc etc) and this SEVERLY handicapped man stopped by the water cooler next to me and said, "are you ok, sweet thing?" I felt like the biggest jerk for feeling sorry for me. I tell you, this guy was so incredibally physically challenged, and here I am being a boob. Wow, reality check. I am still having a rough time and feeling sad, which will pass, but I guess my messenger made me realize mine WILL pass, some people have challenges that are equivocally FOREVER.
Anyone out there ever had a reality check like this? I feel like God is saying SNAP OUT OF IT! But I still feel pretty darned sad..and guilty for not being grateful for my blessings!

 

[honeybunch]

Thank you for that great true story!!!

[font size="1" color="#FF0000"]LAST EDITED ON Feb-05-01 AT 05:52AM (Est)[/font][p]Aren't we all guilty about whining about really insignificant things? I know I am! I was lamenting about ugly legs, but those legs work and get me where I want to go. They bend and do all the necessary leg functions that I take for granted.

Sweet Thing, all will be well, and you will be in S. CA before you know it!

 

[nik13]

RE: Thank you for that great true story!!!

It reminds me of that saying:

I knew a man who complained of no shoes, until he met the man with no feet.

I love that saying it puts things in perspective.

It's okay to feel sad that the love of your life has left, its natural. I have been married for only 5 years and I miss him everytime he leaves. I do find that distance makes the heart grow fonder.

Good luck with the moving and all the other stuff.

Nikki

P.s. I will remember you in prayer tonight.

 

[DebbieH]

Hey Kristina!

Golly, it is normal for you to be sad when your best friend leaves!! :-( I'm sure you are VERY grateful for your blessings. Change is hard. I'll be thinking of you as you make some major decisions this year. Isn't it amazing when you see someone who is handicapped & they are doing the best with their situation? I'm assuming he was there to workout? Wow, what an inspiration. I guess we can all take a lesson from them!! Hang in there!! Your-Friend-In-Fitness, DebbieH

 

[amynicole]

Sorry your feeling blue. I agree that sometimes we are given signs to put us in a serious reality check. After the birth of my second child I was all depressed due to my weight. Then we found out that my sister-in-law had stage 4 breast cancer and a slim chance of a five year survival. To top it off, she found this out during an appointment to get clearance to get pregnant again. She was also told that after the treatments that she would be infertile and if she was not her body could not take a pregnancy because the hormones could kill her. Just months earlier she told me she always wanted a daugther (she has a son) Whoh, talk about a reality check. I felt so guilty that here I was with my son and daughter and healthy body bemoaning a few (well actualy 50) lbs. I know my sister-in law would rather be overweight and be healthy and have a daugther than be in her situation. It really changed how I looked at things. It changed my priorities. I really appreciate those around me more because I realize how fragile life is. She is still with us 2 years later, but fighting that awful disease.

 

[Andrea]

Hi Kristina!

We are practically neighbors (100 mi.). We should throw a pity party. My son is now 2 weeks old and the first week was cruddy. I still get down on and off, but have to keep reminding myself that we are all healthy and things could be so much worse. For instance I am taking him to town (LV) Wed. for a circ and sometimes get myself so worked up over it cause I'll be alone, and what if I get too tired, and I'm not a public nurser so what if he has to eat at the docs...etc. How insignificant huh?! I'm glad you are able to have some positive thoughts. Just focus on those!

Andrea

 

[murph]

That was a sign...

for sure!! I am a believer in fate. this move has been made to bring you both to critical decisions--about yourselves, your jobs, and your relationship to all of the above! Take your time to LIVE and think about these things...also, notice each day and each activity: how do I feel?

 

[LynnW]

RE: Thanks for giving us a reality check..

I agree with Murph. God has a plan for everyone and we really don't know or understand it sometimes. But He will never give us something we can not handle. So keep your chin up.

Lynn W

 

[Colia]

Hi Kristina!

You've gotten great advice from lots of folks. One other thought for you - we can't control our emotions, they have to work their way out, but you can control what you focus on. God doesn't guarentee our lives to be easy, but He does promise to give us strength to get through whatever we are presented with, so we can honestly be sad and thankful at the same time. As time goes on and as you focus your thoughts on what you know is right, the sadness will pass. And you will all the stronger and more content for it. I think this is one of the benefits of hard times. So don't necessarily feel guilty or fight your feelings, just continue to think the healthy thoughts. Just a humble opinion.

I can really relate with your loss, as I'm still trying to deal with the fact that I'll never do high impact stuff (i.e. Cathe) again, but despite the sadness, I know it'll be challenging to rework my whole approach to exercise.

Hang in there and keep us posted....

Cheers!
Colia

 

[kristina]

Andrea..

First of all, thanks to ALL for the kind words. I needed them!

Andrea, I would love to get together. However, it sounds like maybe you have your hands full!
I was going to try to get some girls together for a weekend thing at the spa at Mesquite this spring. I will let you know if I do.
Send my your direct e-mail and I will keep in touch with any plans.
If you are ever coming into town, let me know and we will try to bump into eachother.

 

[Amy Steppe]

That was a beautiful story!

So many people would not even have the insight into themselves to think through things as you have done.

I have suffered from clinical depression for years and one thing that has always helped me is to look around myself and thank God for my health, my ability to walk, to see, to hear, etc.

I feel you will be richly blessed in the future! You sound like a very neat person!

Amy