i started exercising about a year and a half ago. i started with cindy crawford to denise austin. then i found the firm bootcamp which i did for about 6 mos until i got cathe. right before i started cathe i was 137lbs. which i was happy for cause my goal weight was 132. but now i'm 147lbs and completely discouraged. my eating hasn't changed. and the firm didn't give me the pain that cathe does so i don't know what i'm doing wrong. now after finding my husband on three different adult websites my self esteem has bottomed out and i just feel like a fat ugly pig. i haven't done any tapes in over a week which i feel guilty for but i just can't bring myself to do it. any advice?
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goldenrun358
Cathlete
Perhaps you are gaining muscle? Or, if you are lifting heavier, you could be holding extra water in the muscles. How long have you been working out with Cathe? Any other changes in diet/exercise? Sorry, about your hubby, I don't have any advice on that one, but I feel for you.
intensityjunkie
Cathlete
I second that its probably muscle. I think the weight work is harder and longer with Cathe (I've done the firm for years). I too gained some weight but I'm sure it has to be muscle.
tneah
Cathlete
So how are your clothes fitting now? Inches lost? Use that as a gauge as far as your progress goes. Personally, I tossed my scales out today, I got so fed up with feeling like crap one day when it read high, and elated the very next day when it said I lost a pound, its a horrid thing for me that darn scale.
I am also sorry to hear about hubby, maybe he is curious, in which case, talk to him pronto! Find out what the heck is going on, ask him questions about your sex life, if there are things he would like to try, etc....but if its serious, like he is responding to this online hookups and stuff, then you have a real problem...personally I would then and only then kick his arse--hard, and then think about moving on.((hugs))
I am also sorry to hear about hubby, maybe he is curious, in which case, talk to him pronto! Find out what the heck is going on, ask him questions about your sex life, if there are things he would like to try, etc....but if its serious, like he is responding to this online hookups and stuff, then you have a real problem...personally I would then and only then kick his arse--hard, and then think about moving on.((hugs))
SirenSongWoman
Cathlete
It's muscle, which you want. Throw out that scale, GORGEOUS - and all the negative stuff YOU'RE feeding YOURSELF. You are what you believe you are. Being serious about working out goes a long way towards banishing all the bad thoughts.
You know, I'm tempted to say there are lots of things you can throw out with that scale but that would be so wrong... ;-)
You know, I'm tempted to say there are lots of things you can throw out with that scale but that would be so wrong... ;-)
Fit_mommy
Cathlete
You've gotten great advice as far as your body and the scale is concerned.
As far as your hubby? Well, let's face it, some guys just like that stuff and it has NOTHING to do with thier current partners or s*x lives. I obviously don't know your hubby from a hole in the wall but maybe there is no reason at all to get nervous and upset...JMHO.
As far as your hubby? Well, let's face it, some guys just like that stuff and it has NOTHING to do with thier current partners or s*x lives. I obviously don't know your hubby from a hole in the wall but maybe there is no reason at all to get nervous and upset...JMHO.
Nadja Z
Cathlete
I second the suggestion to check your clothes. They're the best gauge as to how your fitness is improving. Goal weights are silly, if you can be slimmer, firmer, and stronger at a higher weight, then why wouldn't you try for that? Although a goal range is probably a good idea. Whatever the scale says today, it absolutely doesn't matter. What matters is what you're going to do today to improve your health, mind, and body. We all know what it's like to get in a slump and then as soon as you get that first workout back in, you feel totally awesome. Although I'm concerned about the pain you mention. What type of pain? From what kind of workouts? Pushing yourself through 'bad pain' can definitely be discouraging, not to mention dangerous.
About the hubby, maybe it's serious, maybe it's not, my only advice would be to talk to him pronto. It's not fair to you to silently torture yourself by wondering and dreaming up crazy scenarios. Whatever happens, all the best to you.
About the hubby, maybe it's serious, maybe it's not, my only advice would be to talk to him pronto. It's not fair to you to silently torture yourself by wondering and dreaming up crazy scenarios. Whatever happens, all the best to you.