:: CHEETAHS :: Happy Friday

okay, a friend just sent me this advice and i thought i would share because i really liked it:

"You’re the best. Don’t let anyone else define who you are. Circumstances are events in life. That is all they are. They do not define us, but can make us better and stronger. Today is over tonight, and tomorrow is a brand new day. Make it what you want with the proper thoughts and attitude."

i need to print that out and put it somewhere.
 
Happy F R I D A Y!! YAY!!

Hello Cheetah friends….

I woke this morning to a very queezy stomach and etc. so needless to say, I phoned in sick at work today. Not a big deal since we didn’t have any student appointments today. Anyhoo, I just woke from a 4 hour (all morning) nap and feel spectacular. Since my upper body DOMS are wearing off, I think it is time freshen that DOM feeling back up with a little Low Impact Circuit upper body sculpt premix and then finish off with a Podfitness treadmill run – 40 minutes.

Today is the day I get my hair cut off! I’m asskeered but I know it will be much more “current” and manageable in the hectic mornings. My hair is currently to the middle of my back long and I’m going for an A-line bob that will actually be about mid-neck in back and then taper down in front. When I sit down and do a pic trail, I’ll include some hair photos …..

Lorie –I am so sorry for your frustration. Maybe a break from each other over Christmas may be what is supposed to happen. I know Christmas time is meant for families but maybe this will be what you both need at the current time to do some soul searching and thinking about the commitment of your relationship. What has worked for me in the past over similar situations with DH and MIL has been to just let go, change my attitude to less defensive/hurt and pray for the guidance I need to resolve and move on. It will happen. My MIL has been a Jekyll Hide to me over the years no matter how hard I have tried to please her. I finally began to accept that I couldn’t change her personality. I think sometimes men can feel stuck in the middle if there is any disparity between the wife/girlfriend and the mother. Especially if a mother can be manipulative and controlling (like my MIL) it makes it more difficult for a man to live his life. Some mothers can be a bit jealous too I think. I don’t know all of your details as I was not on the boards when the incident you are referring to occurred, but I do know what it is like to have a MIL that can be sweet as pie one day and as snappy as all get out the next and will blame me for whatever my DH decides on his own wants to do regarding holidays etc. I just have to accept that I will not always be able to please her and I will never change her mind, so for my own happiness and harmony with DH I just have to make sure I am on the same level with him and that is what matters most to me. In your situation though, I would feel hurt if my DH told me not to come with him for Christmas as it may upset his mother; that is not acceptable. How would your DF feel if you said well, honey, I don’t think it is a good idea for you to spend Christmas with me since it may upset my family….not very welcoming or fair …. Whatever is supposed to happen will happen but just take care of yourself in the meantime. Hey, you are more than welcome to come spend Christmas with our wacky family (heaven forbid, but we stay home for Christmas nowadays..lol) and bring LINUS!!! Yeah, bring LINUS!! – I love that lil guy!! LOL

hello and happy Friday to all my other cheetah friends as now I have to get busy and get this workout going before I must leave to get my hair cut off…YIKES!!

Thomasina
 
Just popping in quickly to say YAY WENDY!!! THAT'S FANTABULOUS NEWS!!! I'm so happy for you and Joey. What a relief for you!

Lorie - hmmm, I'd have a tough time with this one. I'd really expect DF, if he wants to be my DF to choose to spend the holidays with me. If Mommy would feel uncomfortable, then I would expect him to stay with me. I know not everyone will agree, but is he going to run home to mommy whenever you two have a fight? I agree with Thomasina that you have a right to be hurt (I would be devastated). Is he willing to maybe go to counseling with you over this? Sounds like you need a neutral party to help mediate - and mom is not it. {{{HUGS}}} Sweetie.

I did do Body Max 2 Scrambled Eggs and my achilles feels great. I'm very excited. I'm going to start adding 1 mile runs to my rotation. I'll increase mileage SLOWLY!
 
Hello again, cheetahs…

Just finished back & biceps…not enough time to get in my cardio session and still make a 6:30 dinner reservation…So, I suppose I’ll just double up on the cardio tomorrow...? Don't think it's too realistic to think I'll do it AFTER dinner. :)

Sunny :: sounds like an interesting workout…whenever I read about the new things you’re trying, it makes me miss belonging to a gym.

Judy :: It’s funny, I rarely notice anyone else’s typos (OK, I’ll admit - glaring patterns of errors are a different story) but my own drive me nuts! :) Yeah, 62 is too cold for me! Better than when the room was in the 50s, though. Lucky for us, it must have been fixed because the vents were blowing *warm* air today. (This is b/c I wore my Under Armour gear. Murphy’s law, natch.) :) Bonefish Grill is a good spot…have had both of those preparations – delicious! Did you order the bang-bang shrimp?

Wendi :: WTG on your PERFECT game!!!! http://s228.photobucket.com/albums/ee296/runninteach/happycelebrations/th_congratulationss.gif Really? I didn’t think my measly one-minute wall squats stood up to the fierce cheetah standards!!! That makes me feel good…Uh, I do have major booty DOMS.

Christine :: Glad the achille’s in check. I plan to hunker down tomorrow and plow through the grading and planning. Be nice if I could veg on Sunday. So you usually ski Tahoe?

Carole :: well done by DH…so did he redeem himself for bein’ a knucklehead recently? :p :) So glad to hear you ran pain-free…yeah, I love, love, love that EXT!!!

Gayle :: IA w/ Shelly that given your training and fitness level, you would be fine with a 3-month plan…I have seen a lot of debate among distance runners about how to work legs…I recommend visiting the RW site on that one…In terms of the X, I usually subbed runs for whatever cardio Tony had…And oh yeah, you know you don’t need to ask, girl! We love to have ya back whenever’s convenient for ya.

Shelly :: just a busy week, so I’m happy to see the weekend…you know how it is after a long stretch! :)

Wendy :: http://s228.photobucket.com/albums/ee296/runninteach/happycelebrations/th_hapydancsmil.gif *joins the happy dance* SO happy to hear the good news about Joey!!!!!…Ooh, I bet those mason twists on the BOSU were AWESOME!!!

Susan :: ooh! ouch! Sorry to hear about the hip…did the chiro help any?

Lorie :: So sorry about the funk…I can’t say I blame you…To give you my frank opinion: I am not one to advocate cutting ties quickly and I do try to give benefit of the doubt…and on top of that, I acknowledge I am outsider here…but I think if this were me, this latest development would be it for me...It was one thing for him to initially be upset that his mother found out…that he then blamed you, postponed the wedding and never came around to rational thinking was, IMO, a major red flag. He should have just dealt with it—either by taking a stand and telling her not to come or by sucking up some extra company. He should not have lost sight of the most important thing here—that you two were ready to commit to a life together. Instead he’s been punishing you. And I just wonder, how long will it go on? Now he doesn’t want you to be there for the holidays because of the awkwardness?! He should want to smooth things over between the two of you, not allow a rift to come between you. Bottom line: you deserve better…I hope I haven’t overstepped my bounds, but this is what I would tell any of my girlfriends, JMHO straight-up style. (((HUGS))) to you. And the Colorado offer still stands. :)

Thomasina :: so glad you woke up from your nap feeling great!!…enjoy your new ‘do! Do share some pics with us!

Did I get everyone? Hope so!

Have a great night, everyone!
 
cathy-you put into excellent words exactly what i am thinking, feeling, and know i should do. this really does feel to me like the last straw. i knew the cancellation of vegas was a major, major red flag but i wanted to believe things would get better. i totally agree with you that he should be doing everything he can to smooth things over and not worry about it being uncomfortable as we are all adults (although i don't think he or his mother are acting like it) and we can handle a little awkwardness if that even was the case. it just seems as if he doesn't want to deal with it, doesn't want to "complicate" his holiday, and just DOESN'T CARE! it's funny that you said "punishment" because i have been telling people that i feel like since "the incident" he has been punishing me all along. i am not a child and i do not need to be punished. i have made the decision to have no contact with him right now. i won't answer his calls or emails. i need to get stronger and get a little more resolve to do what i need to do.

i just hate the thought of having to go through all "the engagement is off" crap that will follow when people notice i am no longer wearing my ring or ask about him (especially when they ask how my holidays were).

i totally appreaciate everyone's advice. i don't know what i would do with out all of your support right now. once this is over, i promise i won't be such a needy cheetah!

cathy, will you email me the details about that trip???

ETA: i forgot to tellyou guys that today after work i came home and did another workout-4DS LIS and HIS. i am determined to learn them. i think i have everything for LIS down except for that stupid cross step htne basic at the begining of the first combo. as for HIS, i have a lot to learn. not so much the steps (i actually got the hitch kick stuff) but i can't keep up with the pace. maybe when i learn the moves better. even the blasts on HIS are complicated. i always count on the balsts to be where i can go all out and not think. oh well, at least i am starting to learn them!
 

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