I have never tried the patch. I have to tell you that I have just started using Nuvaring, it's a vaginal ring you wear internally for three weeks each month and I am amazed. I cannot feel it, it never falls out, it's dead easy to use and I do not have any symptoms or side effects at all, and I think I am on day 16 of use, so it's looking good. I am taking it in order to help with my mood disorders. My gynecologist recommended it to me because it has the lowest dose of hormones available in any birth control method, and also because, unlike all other hormonal birth control methods, it releases a steady dose/level of the estrogen and progestin throughout the month, so you avoid the ups and downs of mood that other pills and maybe the patch also brings.
I think it I wonderful. I have tried several bc pills and they all had me bloated up within 4-5 days vomitting or screaming blue murder! So, if this patch thingy turns out not to be the method for you: ask your PCP/gyne about Nuvaring.
Me, I have a very low tolerance for drugs that leave me feeling "just not me". It is the best way of determining whether it is for you or not: you should feel like you. If it gets worse, continues, no improvement, or additional symptoms come along by day 10, I'm ready to pull the plug. I won't put up with a drug that makes me feel like I have PMS for 4 weeks of the month. For me, if it is not an improvement upon the mood disturbances of the PMS weeks, then it's a huge no-no. What's your threshold?
And by the way: you are not hammering the topic. It is important and it will crop up again, and again, and again.......on a board dominated by like-minded women, what can you expect? Are we not here to help eachother and share experiences?
Hope this helps,
Clare