I don't know why this makes me so angry but tell me if I'm overreacting. We just moved 1200 miles from our families. My 4 year old, who is having a birthday next week, is lonely and doesn't have any friends yet.(We can't afford preschool at the moment). So my MIL was going to fly up for his birthday to celebrate with us but said the flights are a little too high. That was fine, but then I just found out that she and my FIL have been going to my nephew's soccer tournaments all over their state and staying at hotels and next week they are getting a beach house to stay in so they don't have to deal with hotels any more. This nephew, who is great, is well known in the family to be the favorite. I don't know what to think. It kind of hurt my feelings. My DH doesn't want to talk about it, I think he is a little mad too. What do you think? Oh and she just flew up to her daughter's last week for a b-day party, last minute ticket!
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This stuff constantly fills up Ann Landers mailbox. It's the pits when grandparents do this. It went on a while with my family, I have the oldest grandkids in the family. My son is autistic and family members actually shunned us because they didn't know how to deal with it.
The table eventually turns, people would wonder why we didn't maintain communications and we'd tell them the truth. Then we'd get told that it wasn't intentional. Oh well their loss.
With the distance however your kids don't need to know about the favoritism unless you tell them.
The table eventually turns, people would wonder why we didn't maintain communications and we'd tell them the truth. Then we'd get told that it wasn't intentional. Oh well their loss.
With the distance however your kids don't need to know about the favoritism unless you tell them.
Lynn M.
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Hi -
I know what you are going through..I've got the same thing going on in my family. My In Laws are wayyy more into the other grandkids than my son, and my own parents do way more for my sister's daughter than mine.
My feelings have always been pretty hurt by it. In fact I did have a discussion w/ my own mom about it. She said that while she does love both grandkids equally, the other grandchild needs more attention than my son as that my sister's parenting skills aren't as adequate.
While it is REALLY hard to take when you see all of the doting and interest on the other child, and you feel like your child is getting ignored, it does bring comfort in knowing that at least they think you are doing a good job in rearing your kids.
Do you think that this could apply to your situation?
Lynn M.
I know what you are going through..I've got the same thing going on in my family. My In Laws are wayyy more into the other grandkids than my son, and my own parents do way more for my sister's daughter than mine.
My feelings have always been pretty hurt by it. In fact I did have a discussion w/ my own mom about it. She said that while she does love both grandkids equally, the other grandchild needs more attention than my son as that my sister's parenting skills aren't as adequate.
While it is REALLY hard to take when you see all of the doting and interest on the other child, and you feel like your child is getting ignored, it does bring comfort in knowing that at least they think you are doing a good job in rearing your kids.
Do you think that this could apply to your situation?
Lynn M.
I guess I'm the flip side of the coin. My sister lives a 10 hour drive away from us, and her son really gets "neglected" by our parents. She is very aware of how much time my mom spends with my boys, and due to the distance factor, the scales will never be "even". It does really make me feel bad, and I offer plane fare for my mom's birthday, and mother's day to try and help get them together. My Mom has never spent a Christmas with my nephew, or any Holiday for that matter. We get together for everything. It's sad.
Sally
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