advice for the unfit

asianj

Active Member
people always ask me advice on loosing weight since i got in shape and this is what i give them

-give yourself at least a year to loose the weight

-start out really, really slow in the beginning walk 3 times a week for 3/4 weeks and then add more excercise

-throw away the scale, measure your progress in inches(i havent weighted myself in 2 years)

-eating right and excercising is the only way to loose weight

-give yourself at least 4 months to see any results and dont give up

-find a support group, family, friends, or a forum

what advice do you give people since you know how difficult it is to loose weight, how diffidult it is to sometimes stay motivated

(i'm also posting this at ya yas and VF)
 
Hi there :)

As a member of the "unfit but trying to change" crowd...I can tell you that your post about waiting 4 months is certainly true for me. Here's some history...

Last Father's Day 2003 my 18 yr old daugther invited me to come to the track with her to walk around while she ran....I am embarassed to say that 1/2 way around the quarter mile track my hip bones were on fire...not the muscles or tendons but the bones actually were hot and in pain....my lifestyle had become so sedentary that they were not used to the motion of walking any further than livingroom to kitchen...bathroom, etc. I'm 5'2" with between 65-75lbs of excess weight. Menapause depleted me of any traces of energy or optimism...rather than wanting to kill others (hehe as some have done) I basically wallowed in my own misery and wondered 'what is left?' 'why am I here?'....I seldom left my home as I was so ashamed of my appearance. After that humbling experience at the track...I got out my tune belt and dusted it off and popped in my Kathy Smith walking tapes 5-6 days per week and went from 23 minute miles to 17 minutes miles...during those first weeks I had horrible pains in my hips and shins of all places. I guess I am telling you all this as I was surprised at how difficult sustained walking had become for me. I walked through the pain....but I didn't lose any weight. My diet did not change during this time...I didn't keep track of what or when I ate. I expected the walking to make some changes and hoped it would give me the incentive to change my eating habits.

Last fall my friend Rhonda invited me to walk with her in the evenings. We both needed to lose approximately 65-75lbs to be within a healthy weight range for height. As I had dropped to walking alone 2-3 times per week, we both felt it would be fun to have each other for motivation. It was sporadic for awhile, however after Christmas we made a commitment to walk 6 days(nights) per week. We started out at 2 miles and it took us 40-45 minutes (sometimes because of high winds and blowing drifting snow hehehe) but are now up to 3 miles minimum (4 on sat/sun) and walking 15-16 minute miles. We glow with pride lol.

I learned about FitDay here and began logging my food intake. I was shocked...even foods that I assumed were healthy were not so great if eaten in momentous proportions (lol). I now try to eat 4-6 times per day to keep my metabolism moving~it's amazing but I gained all this weight eating once 'maybe' twice per day. However I could pack in as much as my husband at a sitting. I never felt hungry throughout the entire day....maybe around 3 I would begin to think of getting something to eat. I had to force myself to eat a packet of oatmeal within an hour of waking up....then maybe some yogurt a couple hours later, etc. Finally at 45, I'm learning how to listen to my body and feed it when it's hungry. That food is fuel not fun. (although a few weeks ago I had McDonald's Sausage Biscuit & Egg with Hashbrowns and now know what a food orgasm is...)

Anyway, in conlusion (sorry so long!)....I have only lost 16lbs. I didn't measure myself until March 1st and the statistics were so humbling I wanted to curl up with a New York Cheescake and never walk again. On April 1st I measured again and lost 6 1/2 inches overall. I still have 59lbs to go and I just realized that this will probably take me a year or more. This post reminded me of my initial dream. Seven and a half months at 2 1/2lbs per week would be 75lbs right? NOT...I need to focus on the changes taking place under the layers of fat. Six months ago walking from the parking lot to the back of Walmart to get my Cinammon Hazelnut Creamer (which I refuse to give up and you can't make me!) I was sweating and out of breath, heart pumping loudly in my ears. Now I can cruise to the back and up to the check out without a THUMP THUMP THUMP or a drop of sweat! I can do 25-30 minutes on my Nordic Track as compared to 5 minutes of agony....and I think I might be the most excited woman in anticipation of Cathe's beginner/intermediate workouts!

I am saving my penny's to purchase Cathe's strength workouts. I know it's the next step for me! I have my Troy Lite and I'm ready to rock!

~kandy~
 
Way to go! Isn't it amazing how much better you feel once you start getting in shape and you've allowed yourself the time to get there?!
Your post made me smile because it was so happy. And I was so happy for you.
You go with your bad self!!

Kathy
 
I love you advice to wait four months to see results.

That's so unusual. I've never heard that.

I've always crashed and burned at around 10 weeks.

Fascinating.

I'm going to give it a try. Four months for me and no complaining.

That means we can talk again on August 13th about progress. Until then- nothing but enjoying my workouts and trying to do my best.

Cool!

Danna
 
You can talk to me smurfette!

Hugsssss,

~kandy
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I think that the main key is deciding that you have had enough and are willing to make the right changes. The process of losing weight is simple: eat right, increase exercise, do cardio and strength training, drink plenty of water. It's actually doing those things that is the hard part. I really think that most people know what they need to do in order to be in better shape. They just dont choose to do what it takes.

I've had many people ask me what I did to lose weight. I really think that they are hoping that I'm going to say, "I walk for 10 minutes a day, take a pill and eat whatever I want." When I start telling them my exercise routine and eating habits, their eyes glaze over. Then they start making excuses about why that wont work for them (too old, no time, no will power, ect).
 
When people ask me what I do to stay in shape I say, "I inject the blood of virgin reindeer directly into my pituitary through my eyeball every morning. Then I eat whatever I want and never work out."

I get bored with the glazed over look and am sick of hearing the excuses.
 
These last two posts make me feel like I don't belong here. I can now imagine what "fit" people think of me when they see me cruising for my creamer....

Luckily, I am beyond caring what other people think (comes with age and lots of it hehe) and I am doing this for me me me!

I'm sorry that you both receive so many 'glazed' expressions, but please try to remember that once in awhile the questions may be coming from someone who truly admires you and is looking for the right 'mix' of activities and it may have taken courage to ask you for your advice,

Sincerely,

~kandy
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I appreciate your concern, sincerely, but I am very happy to offer advice where it's really wanted. Most people are making small talk and have no real interest in changing their lifestyle in any way. It pleases me a lot to be able to actually help people to become more fit. I wasn't referring to that sort of conversation. Happy to clarify.
 
Please dont feel that I'm talking about you Kandy. I really admire what you have done. I almost wrote a post telling you that your "only 16 pounds" is really a great accomplishment and you shouldn't downplay it.

When people ask me questions, I keep answering until I realize that they dont want me to talk anymore. I love to help people get healthier. The problem is that most people want easy answers and quick fixes, not the hard work and sacrifices.

I understand what it feels like to be out of shape and battle all of the obstacles to living healthy. I've gone for long periods of time without exercise between times of being fit. I'm currently fighting hard against all the temptations from the girlscout cookies in the house (and losing quite frequentlyx( ). I'm not saying that it's hopeless for people to get into shape, just that the person has to make that mental connection themselves first.
 
Kandy, that's one of the best posts I've read in a long time! I'm really happy for you and think you have one of the healthiest attitudes and outlooks I've heard--you're an inspiration! And I hope you don't mind, I plan on using the term "food orgasm" the next chance I get--that cracked me up!:7

-Marie:)
 
Hi Marie!

Thanks for your kind words :)

As for my food orgasm...I bet it cracked you up because you knew exactly what I was talking about you just didn't know what to call it! :)

Hugs,

~kandy
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