twosquared
Cathlete
I agree with both of you!!!
Adult only weddings
- Thread starter Imafitnessfreak
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I had kids at mine. But, I can see where maybe a couple wouldn't want kids to attend. Like one of the others said, cost for one, usually you pay full price even it's a child and the food doesn't even get touched. Second maybe you would like your friends and family to come and be able to unwind and relax. I've certainly thrown myself a b-day party and asked that no children came so everyone can relax and have fun. Heck, I even have a kid and found a babysitter just for that reason at my b-day party. Sometimes it's really nice to not have a child around to have to chase after. Or you have to leave a very nice ceremony because they have to go to the bathroom, or are being loud or crying.
But I do feel that there is a respectful way of putting that there will be no children allowed versus being very rude about it. I don't remember what one invite said that one of my friends had, but it was put in a way that would offend anyone with children.
Kathy
But I do feel that there is a respectful way of putting that there will be no children allowed versus being very rude about it. I don't remember what one invite said that one of my friends had, but it was put in a way that would offend anyone with children.
Kathy
My friend Rachel is in the process of planning a wedding, and another friend just recently got married. Both weddings: adults only. Rachel actually dislikes children, but her biggest reason for keeping the kids away is that her fiance's family has a number of small children, all of the kind who run around screaming and wreaking havoc in public while their oblivious, "we-just-really-want-to-smoother-our-kids-with-love-
and-feel-that-discipline-will-stunt-their-individuality" parents sit there and ignore them.
I've been married for 5 years now, and we had several children at our wedding. In my family, however, that kind of nonsense doesn't fly. If you want to make a scene, the parents will give you something to make a scene about.
cristina
and-feel-that-discipline-will-stunt-their-individuality" parents sit there and ignore them.
I've been married for 5 years now, and we had several children at our wedding. In my family, however, that kind of nonsense doesn't fly. If you want to make a scene, the parents will give you something to make a scene about.
cristina
Imafitnessfreak
Cathlete
Oh no, this request wasn't rude at all. At least i didn't think it was. It said on the reception card something like "Please join us for an adult reception located at 'X longitude and Y Latitude' @ whatever time".
I don't think that's rude. I don't know how else you could word it.
Well, I guess I just don't want to smoother-my-kids-with-love-
because-discipline-will-stunt-their-individuality...I have been seen carrying one screaming child under my arm like a log and the other screaming child over my shoulder "fireman style" as we left Target (and all of our prospective purchases) because the kids were not "behaving to my liking".
I don't think that's rude. I don't know how else you could word it.
Well, I guess I just don't want to smoother-my-kids-with-love-
because-discipline-will-stunt-their-individuality...I have been seen carrying one screaming child under my arm like a log and the other screaming child over my shoulder "fireman style" as we left Target (and all of our prospective purchases) because the kids were not "behaving to my liking".
melodygirl
Cathlete
>I have been seen carrying one screaming child under my arm like a log and the other screaming child over my shoulder
>"fireman style" as we left Target (and all of our prospective purchases) because the kids were not "behaving to my liking".
>Sarah
Hey Sarah, we should shop Target together...we could help one another haul our kids out.:7 :+
>"fireman style" as we left Target (and all of our prospective purchases) because the kids were not "behaving to my liking".
>Sarah
Hey Sarah, we should shop Target together...we could help one another haul our kids out.:7 :+
It's been along while since my wedding, but we had a kids only reception. Primarily we did this so that the parents could relax and enjoy themselves without worrying about their kids melting down. My DH is the youngest of four. His siblings all had kids five and under. While they were all good parents, not letting the kids run wild, etc, we (and they) wanted to enjoy the wedding without worrying about the kids. We had my nephew and niece as ring bearer and flower girl and they stayed until the meal was over. Then they got to go stay with their other grandparents for the night. The kids had reached the point where they were happy to go home; the parents were happy to relax and we all had a great time.
Sarah - I can picture you with the two screaming kids. I applaud you! I did it with my own DD when she pulled tantrums in public. Heck, while she's too big to carry over my shoulder now (she's 14), I still pull the "you're not getting it with that attitude" all the time - actually more often now that she's a teen....
Claude
"Age is a question of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter." Satchel Paige
Sarah - I can picture you with the two screaming kids. I applaud you! I did it with my own DD when she pulled tantrums in public. Heck, while she's too big to carry over my shoulder now (she's 14), I still pull the "you're not getting it with that attitude" all the time - actually more often now that she's a teen....
Claude
"Age is a question of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter." Satchel Paige
Imafitnessfreak
Cathlete
Well, the fit started when I told them that since they are not listening, we cannot purchase the items they picked out of the $1 bins as soon as you walk in the store. Then the fit started! That's fine, I can take it! Grabbed the 4 year old and tucked him under my arm. Grabbed the 5 year old and tossed her over my shoulder and still had the coordination to toss their items back in the bins as be breezed by on our way out the door! Thanks to Cathe, this 5 foot chicky has the strength to do such a thing without messing a hair out of place!;-)
Needless to say, my kids now know when I say it, I mean it!}(
Also needless to say that this would not have looked very nice in the middle of a formal wedding reception!:7
Needless to say, my kids now know when I say it, I mean it!}(
Also needless to say that this would not have looked very nice in the middle of a formal wedding reception!:7
melodygirl
Cathlete
Sarah,
Didn't you just know that one day all of that weight lifting would be beneficial?:7
Didn't you just know that one day all of that weight lifting would be beneficial?:7
Agree with Melody sad so many people think kids are all brats. Mine also were very well behaved and in my brother's 2nd wedding.
My cousin's all have many kids and the last wedding was at the Greenwich CT yatch club (very nice) and loads of very well behaved.
The kids were all in the procession and it was wonderful. in fact all of the 5 daughers were married at yatch clubs and all the weddings had kids. The only one I didn't go to was black tie in Manhattan.
Guess its all what is important - to me family is most important.
My cousin's all have many kids and the last wedding was at the Greenwich CT yatch club (very nice) and loads of very well behaved.
The kids were all in the procession and it was wonderful. in fact all of the 5 daughers were married at yatch clubs and all the weddings had kids. The only one I didn't go to was black tie in Manhattan.
Guess its all what is important - to me family is most important.
My husband comes from a very large family, and he had 2 sisters with kids when we got married so the children so the children came down for part of the reception (we were all staying at a big hotel so they just came down for part of the reception--to dance and stuff), but if I recall they didn't eat dinner at the reception (pretty pathetic of me, but it was 11 years ago and I can't remember exactly!) BUT, WHAT I DO REMEMBER is that we asked the oldest neice to be the flower girl (all the other neices and nephews WERE INVITED to the church, but not as flower girls) and the mother flipped out on us b/c we didn't ask both of her daughters to be flower girls. She even called us and told us that she took her daughter to a psychiatrist because she was worried that we had permanently scarred her!!! The neice we asked to be a flower girl was 7, and then there were two other neices, the sister who was 5, and another neice who was 4, and I just thoguth 4 and 5 were too young (esp. since I knew the 5 year old was a VERY UNRULY child and her mother does not watch her).
Aren't weddings fun!!!!!
Dukechick
Aren't weddings fun!!!!!
Dukechick
megadoo
Cathlete
Sorry to laugh Dukechick, but she took her to a Psychiatrist???? That just made me laugh!
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kathryn
Cathlete
>Agree with Melody sad so many people think kids are all
>brats.
But how are they to know? And could one send out invitations saying "well-behaved children only" or "no brats"}( ?
Unfortunately, a few bad apples seem to spoil the whole bunch, and the bad behavior of some out-of-control kids sours some people's opinion of kids in general.
>brats.
But how are they to know? And could one send out invitations saying "well-behaved children only" or "no brats"}( ?
Unfortunately, a few bad apples seem to spoil the whole bunch, and the bad behavior of some out-of-control kids sours some people's opinion of kids in general.
kathryn
Cathlete
> She even called us and told us that she took her daughter to
>a psychiatrist because she was worried that we had permanently
>scarred her!!!
I think the mom is the one who needs to see a psychiatrist. And her making a big deal out of it probably would cause more 'scarring' than her daughter not being in the wedding party.
>a psychiatrist because she was worried that we had permanently
>scarred her!!!
I think the mom is the one who needs to see a psychiatrist. And her making a big deal out of it probably would cause more 'scarring' than her daughter not being in the wedding party.
Sarah,
My dh's best friend just got married. My in-laws were invited and anybody else who I trust to babysit was either in the wedding or going to the wedding. I had no choice but to take my kids. Plus, dh said if the kids cannot go, then he will not be in the wedding. We were kind of stuck. The wedding was "kid friendly", but the bride did say something to me about not having kids there.
Now, at the wedding, my in-laws, kids, and I sat in the very back row incase we had to make a quick exit. We were like 10 rows from the rest of the guests! As soon as the doors open for "here comes the bride", the organ scared the crap out of my little girl and she started screaming. My mil took her to a little room until she calmed down. We should have stayed home. I had to squint to see the bride and groom anyhow....
Sara
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My dh's best friend just got married. My in-laws were invited and anybody else who I trust to babysit was either in the wedding or going to the wedding. I had no choice but to take my kids. Plus, dh said if the kids cannot go, then he will not be in the wedding. We were kind of stuck. The wedding was "kid friendly", but the bride did say something to me about not having kids there.
Now, at the wedding, my in-laws, kids, and I sat in the very back row incase we had to make a quick exit. We were like 10 rows from the rest of the guests! As soon as the doors open for "here comes the bride", the organ scared the crap out of my little girl and she started screaming
. My mil took her to a little room until she calmed down. We should have stayed home. I had to squint to see the bride and groom anyhow....Sara
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