Re: Input please...

[gidget1978]

This goes out to the ladies who responded to my last post regarding my daughter visiting her father and weather or not I should ask for gas money.

So, lets just clarify...this was a standby ticket. The flight looked good so DH took DD into the city....3.5 hours away, last night and he stayed with her alnight and took her to the airport early this a.m. She was texting me early today b/c I think she was excited about going, she checks in, checks her bags, gets through security, only to find out that the flight is full and she can't get out today. I was sooo mad and felt so bad for her! If he really wanted to see her, he should have booked a ticket and not be going on a wim!
Now I have DH in the city with her, picking up the peices, taking her shopping and out to lunch before they head home again.
I know, I probably need to stand up more for myself and her, b/c I never should have went along with this stupid standby ticket. Im sure he feels bad about it, but im not worried about his feelings. He wanted me to check out a full fare ticket today and he was going to buy it but he had already ticked her off enough and she didn't want to go anyway.
So we paid for the standby ticket $125 couldn't get reimbursed (they were suppose to deposit the money in my bacnk act) and now I am asking for the gas money. This was a total waste of time and money, she didn't go anywhere and got her heart broke (again) in the meantime!

Lori

 

[LasVegasFitGirl]

OHHHHH!

Now that's a whole different story. For one, I would never buy a stand by ticket for a minor child travelling alone and, for another, knowing you have to drive so far to the airport. You and your husband are left picking up the emotional pieces since I'm sure she was SO excited. I'm glad your husband is taking her shopping and giving her a girl day.

 

[martijean1]

Now that's a whole different story. For one, I would never buy a stand by ticket for a minor child travelling alone and, for another, knowing you have to drive so far to the airport. You and your husband are left picking up the emotional pieces since I'm sure she was SO excited. I'm glad your husband is taking her shopping and giving her a girl day.

I think my answer would have been changed to "if she was unable to get on the flight, then milage will be reimbursed". I feel like I gave the wrong advice, but didn't realize it was a standby ticket. I'm sorry!

Having an ex myself, I will say the word "dad" is just that...A word. What your husband is doing today is what daddy's do. They hold their children's hearts together when they're hurt, and wipe they're tears when they cry. They don't give a child false hope, they don't make promises they can't keep. She knows who her "dad" is, but I suspect she's with her "daddy" today...

MJ

 

[RunninTeach]

Lori,

I’ve never flown standby, but I would think you would get your money back if you never did get a seat. Did you call the airline?

Under the circumstances, I don’t blame you for expecting reimbursement from him—for the gas at the very LEAST. And I would never again agree to a visitation unless he himself purchased a standard ticket AND arranged for airport shuttle service to a closer airport.

Sorry for your daughter’s disappointment and for your aggravation.

 

[ldy_solana]

poor thing but as already mentioned she knows who "daddy" is. sorry your ex gets to miss out on that. i don't think you were ever unreasonable for some reimbursement for expenses on your part. but that is JMO.

kassia

 

[gidget1978]

I just received a facebook message from his wife apologizing that she couldn't get on the flight but at the same time saying " I guess she wasn't ready to come, MAYBE next time we will book her a confirmed seat". I use to work with this airline so I know how stand by works anyway. I partly blame myself cause I should have never went along with it. What about if there had been a mechanical and they had to make an emergency landing? Then what? She would have been alone b/c stand by pax getting nothing.
When she got home she said " I've been disappointed by him enough times now" He came home once and didn't see her, sent her christmas gift 2 monthes late, not wrapped and not what he promised her and she as had b-days come and go with no phone calls. I probably should protect her more from that moron. Im sure he feels like a peice of crap today as well. My DH as raised her since she was 2 so she really doesn't know any different.

Lori

 

[ellesan]

I am SO sorry to hear this, so sorry for your daughter.

I've learned the hard way too, that talk is cheap and when people
SHOW you who they are, believe them.