lisaannjam
Cathlete
Hi Ladies,
Since I have received such a genuine outpouring of love and support from so many with regard to my last post (needed help with regard to my DH), I thought I would share some good news.
I've been seeing a therapist weekly by myself and once a week with DH!! I just cannot believe the changes that I have seen in him. He finally recognized how much "pain" I was in and has truly made an effort to change his ways. He said he was just going along and really did not think about how his behavior (and lousy moods), high expectations, etc. really affected me.
DH's Mom helped to give him the wake-up call that he really better pay attention because he was going to lose me for the same reasons he lost his ex wife.
Anyhow, we are doing better. And I definitely needed the therapy for myself. I am just too damn accomodating for my own good. But I'm learning everyday.
Thank you to everyone who reached out to me and continue to show me their support. It has meant so much to me, and I hope you all know I would do the same for you in a heartbeat!!
Edited to say...this quote from someone very special here and really helped change my perspective even before I started therapy....
"I don't want to build my life around you but want to include you in the building of my life."
THANK YOU!!!!!
I say that to myself each and every day now.
Since I have received such a genuine outpouring of love and support from so many with regard to my last post (needed help with regard to my DH), I thought I would share some good news.
I've been seeing a therapist weekly by myself and once a week with DH!! I just cannot believe the changes that I have seen in him. He finally recognized how much "pain" I was in and has truly made an effort to change his ways. He said he was just going along and really did not think about how his behavior (and lousy moods), high expectations, etc. really affected me.
DH's Mom helped to give him the wake-up call that he really better pay attention because he was going to lose me for the same reasons he lost his ex wife.
Anyhow, we are doing better. And I definitely needed the therapy for myself. I am just too damn accomodating for my own good. But I'm learning everyday.
Thank you to everyone who reached out to me and continue to show me their support. It has meant so much to me, and I hope you all know I would do the same for you in a heartbeat!!
Edited to say...this quote from someone very special here and really helped change my perspective even before I started therapy....
"I don't want to build my life around you but want to include you in the building of my life."
THANK YOU!!!!!
I say that to myself each and every day now.