LuckeeLaydee
Cathlete
I went into FAQ and could find how to "unsubscribe".
thanks
thanks
Would someone PLEASE share with me how to delete my profile/disconnect completely from this board?
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Miss Lee
Cathlete
Paula, please don't rob yourself and the rest of us by leaving the forums. I didn't post in your other thread but I did read it and honestly, I only saw one post that I thought was nasty. Maybe if you just sleep on it you'll be able to view it in a new light.
I'm NOT going to tell you how to unsubscribe--so there!
I'm NOT going to tell you how to unsubscribe--so there!
And I wanted to chime in with a word of support - I'm really sorry that you're feeling the need to leave...and sorry if my post contributed to this. It sounds like you're under a lot of pressure and needed more support than you felt you were getting. If I could send you a warm cup of tea and a shoulder, I would!
There is so much more to this community and we all benefit from each other's presence. It would be a shame to have something like this happen over one post on a bad day...
Peace -
KC
There is so much more to this community and we all benefit from each other's presence. It would be a shame to have something like this happen over one post on a bad day...
Peace -
KC
I have been upset before and wanted everything deleted also. I just stayed away for a few days and got over it! A few people sent me private emails with words of encouragement, which I truly appreciated.
With all due respect, I stayed away from your original post because I sensed it would get ugly. I am a mother of 3 young children. They are messy, I always have fingerprints, and as soon as my floor gets mopped, somebody spills milk. I used to be a complete clean "freak", but thankfully, my children cured me of that
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I will just tell you that I would be hurt if my mother reacted this way. I would feel unwelcome also. I do understand your views, but sometimes a few fingerprints, messes, etc can be more rewarding than "work". These tiny little messes remind me that I have the most wonderful children in the world!!! They are only young once and someday I won't have the fingerprints....then I will be sad!
If I were you, I would talk to your daughter and explain everything again in a very welcoming way. Also, I would think your dh would understand...I mean he knew you had children and grandchildren when you married him, right? Therefore, he should be very understanding.
I hope this helps. Just give yourself time to cool off. That way, you won't have to resort to namecalling, which will be regretted later. Good Luck!!!
Sara
With all due respect, I stayed away from your original post because I sensed it would get ugly. I am a mother of 3 young children. They are messy, I always have fingerprints, and as soon as my floor gets mopped, somebody spills milk. I used to be a complete clean "freak", but thankfully, my children cured me of that
. I will just tell you that I would be hurt if my mother reacted this way. I would feel unwelcome also. I do understand your views, but sometimes a few fingerprints, messes, etc can be more rewarding than "work". These tiny little messes remind me that I have the most wonderful children in the world!!! They are only young once and someday I won't have the fingerprints....then I will be sad!
If I were you, I would talk to your daughter and explain everything again in a very welcoming way. Also, I would think your dh would understand...I mean he knew you had children and grandchildren when you married him, right? Therefore, he should be very understanding.
I hope this helps. Just give yourself time to cool off. That way, you won't have to resort to namecalling, which will be regretted later. Good Luck!!!
Sara
>And I wanted to chime in with a word of support - I'm really
>sorry that you're feeling the need to leave...and sorry if my
>post contributed to this. It sounds like you're under a lot
>of pressure and needed more support than you felt you were
>getting. If I could send you a warm cup of tea and a
>shoulder, I would!
>
>There is so much more to this community and we all benefit
>from each other's presence. It would be a shame to have
>something like this happen over one post on a bad day...
>
>Peace -
>
>KC
>
Very classy gracenote~!
>sorry that you're feeling the need to leave...and sorry if my
>post contributed to this. It sounds like you're under a lot
>of pressure and needed more support than you felt you were
>getting. If I could send you a warm cup of tea and a
>shoulder, I would!
>
>There is so much more to this community and we all benefit
>from each other's presence. It would be a shame to have
>something like this happen over one post on a bad day...
>
>Peace -
>
>KC
>
Very classy gracenote~!
I also have to add that my stepfather is not used to young children. He married my mother when I was 8. But, when we visit them (and stay a few days), he never wants us to leave!!! My children bring soooooo much joy to him; it is unbelievable!!!
You and your dh might be pleasantly surprised by the joy your grandson will bring to your home! Plus, what is 6 weeks??? 6 weeks ago, my family and I were going to apple orchards and pumpkin patches. It seems like yesterday!
Sara
You and your dh might be pleasantly surprised by the joy your grandson will bring to your home! Plus, what is 6 weeks??? 6 weeks ago, my family and I were going to apple orchards and pumpkin patches. It seems like yesterday!
Sara
Paula, I've been thinking about this, and I think it's also important to keep your perspective and remember that when people respond to any post, they are responding from their *own* emotional landscape. Which means their response is about them and not you. I think particularly when anyone writes about parent/child relationships, we are all just kinda waiting for an opportunity to come out swinging. I can only speak for me, but I didn't have a good relationship with my mom growing up, so when anyone posts about a situation where I can see my mother giving me (and especially my children) grief, that causes a strong emotional reaction for me. It's like always having the "Mommy Dearest" button lit up. Heh.
Anyway, I think posts where people call names and get personal are really inappropriate, so they're best ignored. Everything else needs to be filtered through your own lens.
Hang in there,
Marie
I can only speak for me, but I didn't have a good relationship with my mom growing up, so when anyone posts about a situation where I can see my mother giving me (and especially my children) grief, that causes a strong emotional reaction for me. It's like always having the "Mommy Dearest" button lit up. Heh.Anyway, I think posts where people call names and get personal are really inappropriate, so they're best ignored. Everything else needs to be filtered through your own lens.
Hang in there,
Marie
janiejoey
Cathlete
Paula,
Don't leave us. We need you.
Janie
The idea is to die young as late as possible.
www.picturetrail.com/janiejoey
Don't leave us. We need you.
Janie
The idea is to die young as late as possible.
www.picturetrail.com/janiejoey
whaaaa?
Look, if you ask an honest question, you need to be prepared for some honest answers. I really did not see anyone being nasty to you. It's a public forum, so you do have to be prepared for all types. My suggestion is if you don't want input like that, don't ask those kind of questions.
You can just stop posting. I don't think anyone is going to hunt you down.
Debbie
Peter: Oh my god, Brian, there's a message in my Alphabits. It says, 'Oooooo.'
Brian: Peter, those are Cheerios.
--Family Guy
Look, if you ask an honest question, you need to be prepared for some honest answers. I really did not see anyone being nasty to you. It's a public forum, so you do have to be prepared for all types. My suggestion is if you don't want input like that, don't ask those kind of questions.
You can just stop posting. I don't think anyone is going to hunt you down.
Debbie
Peter: Oh my god, Brian, there's a message in my Alphabits. It says, 'Oooooo.'
Brian: Peter, those are Cheerios.
--Family Guy
clothesminded
Cathlete
Weren't YOU the one who called someone a dunce for giving you her honest opinion, which you requested?