Nights out

[Timber99]

I wondered your opinions on this…I should note that I am not asking b/c of any issue or problem. As some of you know, my last relationship was a little screwy and sometimes, I like to just make sure my thinking on some things is going in the right direction. I was discussing this with a friend the other day and it seemed as though we were *very* far apart in our thinking so I wondered what others thought!

I am 32 and live with my bf (35). We have our nights out (and in!) together. We also have our nights out (w/out the other) with friends. I personally feel that couples need to spend nights apart and have their "away" time and that this can be equally as important as together time. The question is, while realizing that every couple is different, yadda, yadda, yadda...how many nights per week do you think is “normal” to hang out without each other?

 

[FitNurseRN]

i live with my bf so the answer to that would be almost every night. Usually we are both home in the evening and we make dinner together, watch some tube and then go to bed. Does this stop either of us from going out?? i would say no. If he wants to go do something and we dont have prior plans than he will go. vise versa. I also believe that time apart is just as important as time spent together and you definatly need that


melissa

 

[Gayle]

Hi Christine,

I think what "normal" is will be very individual. The "apart time" that DH and I have is usually very activity based. For example, I like to go to movies and concerts, but DH doesn't, so those are the things I do with friends (who happen to be mutual friends). DH likes to fish for bullhead until the wee hours of the morning, so he does that with his friends.

For me, nights out aren't usually more than a couple of times a month. Mostly because DH and I both work long hours and prefer to spend most of our downtime at home.

HTH

 

[materialsgirl]

DH and my sitation is pretty much like Gayle and her DH. We are together most nights, because after a long day of work, we just prefer to hang out at home. But we have our apart time, and it's largely activity based - like I will go to all-night scrapbooking crops (which DH understandably would not want to go to in a million years ), or he'll go to see "manly" movies with his friends from work. It's important to us to have some time apart, lest we strangle each other.