Need to rant...

[luvmylbb]

I first want to start off by saying that this might sound like a pitty party but I just need to get it off my mind. My parents are in town right now visiting me and the kids. Well, first of all I am a people pleaser always have been, so this time I was determined not to get upset about anything....
Well, I am trying to recover from an ED that i have had for about 15 years and yes they know everything about it. My dad starts out the trip by giving me a food scale so I can measure all my food out. I guess he means well, but would you give n alcoholic a case of beer to look at? Than last night he told me "You have a good reason for being overweight, you are still nursing a baby." Well, he may have meant that comment nicely but I took it so hard! Anyways, I didn't mean to burden anyone and Iam not looking for sympathy I just wanted to get it off my mind. THank you for listeneing!!!!
Oh, and then after this he tells me I am too restrictive andobsessed with my food. All this while he is telling my 6 year old girl who weighs 30 pounds that she is going to get big from eating al of her food. What gives? I just hope that i don't end up saying stupid things to my kids when they are older.

 

[dhcsim]

My husband used to verbally make fun of my weight AND say the comments whether my kids were there or not. My 9 year old daughter weighs 50#'s and she will be 10 on November 30th. She wears a size 6-6x. She verbally fights w/ me on eating, but of course, being her mom, I win and she eats. Bottom line, I think she started that because of what she heard him say. People w/ or recovering from ED's need someone there to support them. Do you have someone to do your Cathe's w/ or just hang out w/? I think people make a lot more progress when they have someone to support them.

 

[Granny Sue]

People just don't understand EDs, especially men. They always say the wrong thing. This site is a wonderful place to get support & vent, and I agree with Heather - you need a friend that understands & can support you when all around are saying/doing the wrong things.
The early years, especially for girls are SO formative. They need positive messages about themselves, their body, and food/nutrition. I know there are books out there that help with teaching our girls, can't recall any titles off hand, but I would encourage you to develop your defense system now & teach your girls to develop theirs - otherwise you may have a very sad & difficult road ahead - voice of experience.