I need advice . I grew up with a girl that has always kind of been selfish. I had been friends with her all my life. I had always been the one to call her most times and go out of my way to meet up with her. several times when we where suppose to meet she changed plans on me and it seemed like she would call more if she was upset by her boyfriend and then when things where good between them I was the one that mostly intiated contact. anyway i usually go up towards cleveland every aug and had told her a couple weeks in advance about this and she never called me back once I got there so I called her and she of course apologized and had reasons so I go thats ok,she had told me she planned on doing stuff with her daughter and I could join them, I said I didnt really want to go and she said maybe we can hook up later, I said ok. well I didnt hear from her that night but later the next day after I decided to head back home and she had left me a message saying her daughter wanted to go to target and color her hair. my b-day had also passed and she never sent me a card,said happy birthday , nothing . I never called her back and she didnt call me. 2 months had gone by and we usually contacted each other by cell phone. well after the 2 months I got rid of my cell phone because of my bill. anyway, gota new phone dont know if I should contact her or not since she never tried to contact me. what do you allt hink
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janiejoey
Cathlete
Don't lose contact with her. You know what her nature is. All that is important is if you still want her in your life. Being a life long friend, I would think you would continue with the friendship as is. She's not going to change, and like you have been doing, except her for what she is.
My vote is to stay friends,
Janie
My vote is to stay friends,
Janie
i just get tired of always being the one to give in and cal. I feel that if I mattered to her she would make attempts. Her family lives near me and she could always call information to get my home number but she hasnt . I know she doesnt know my new cell number but why not call my home number? I saw her sister at halloween and she smiled but didnt talk to me so I know my friend had talked to her sister about the situation. I just would like to know that our friendship means something to her and not just me.
janiejoey
Cathlete
Then, you need to talk to her and tell her how you feel. Also let her speak as well. If nothing can be solved then, perhaps you should let go. Give her the benefit of the doubt first though. If she pulls you down in the dumps more than 50% of the time, it really is time to let go. I hope you can make piece with her, cause friends are hard to come by. I'm not saying she is your best friend, but still, you are friends.
There are certain friends for working out with, friends just to talk to over the phone, friends to reminisce with, sports with...you get the idea. Perhaps she is a friend just to do one certain thing with and that's all.
Let us know how things go, if you decide to do talk with her.
Janie
There are certain friends for working out with, friends just to talk to over the phone, friends to reminisce with, sports with...you get the idea. Perhaps she is a friend just to do one certain thing with and that's all.
Let us know how things go, if you decide to do talk with her.
Janie