Mom's, help with Potty trainin boys

acatalina

acatalina

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Ok, we are having a hardtime with steven.
He says i am poopin and it is usually peeing. When he poops, he will take the diaper off and dump the poopie in the tiolet , but wants no part of the toilet....He is tough.Then he says I poopie in the potty. My daughter was so easy...
I know he knows what the potty is . I as him all night Sat and Sun when i have him. Go to the potty?Do you have to pee?
He says no. Then 5 minutes later he says i poopin nana.
Is this a boy thing? Is he just being stubborn?
God we even got him a yernal for training. He likes to flush it.
I want to get him into some kid activities, but they won't take him until he is trained.I know you can't force them.
HELP!!!!

How do you do this? It has been too many years.
Anne

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I know the frustration. My two girls were so easy. My son who is 4 now, forget it. We just got him trained and not even completely. We still use pull-ups at night. I think it is laziness:) He gets to doing something or into his show and forget about stopping to use the bathroom. We tried everything to rewards, peeing on fruit loops in the toilet to his favorite character underpants. They definitely need a schedule. My son does so much better at school because they have set bathroom schedules to avoid accidents. I know this was of no help, just wanted to let you know I feel your pain:-( Try the fruit loops though. You know how guys like to shoot things with their things:)
 
The only trick I know of is putting food coloring in the toilet...preferably blue. When they pee it turns green. My nephew was fascinated by this.

Good Luck!

Melissa
 
He's not that old, is he? I think you just need to be patient. My daughter took forever. I think it was mostly because she had some disruptive events in her life during the crucial potty training time. Of course, she could just have followed in my footsteps. My Mom used to say that she thought she was going to have to send me to school in diapers.... ummmmmmmmm.. okay, that was probably TMI:p
 
I had the same issues with Chase. He was almost potty trained and hten when to the dentist, and forget it! The next 3 weeks he wouldn't even go in the bathroom. Then he sort of just got it. THe poopin took longer, but just be patient, not too pushy, but continue to ask, and do the rewards and when he does go make a HUGE deal out of it to show him it is a good thing. But like Shelly said, be patient, that is the best thing to do.
Good luck, I know it is hard. Connor is now 2, and showing that he wants to go pee like CHase, so he stands in front of the toilet (doesn't pee though). SO I will have to do it all over again soon!


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Boys seem to be "ready" to train later than girls. I've read that most boys are ready around their third birthday but I've heard from many moms whose boys aren't fully trained until their 4th. My son just trained shortly after his third birthday but I did try it when he was 2&1/2. What a difference in 6 months. At 2&1/2, we tried for 4 days and not 1 drop in the potty. He would give me a blank look when I said to pee in the potty. Let potty training go right away. Then I tried 2 weeks after his third bday because I was low on diapers & thought why not try again. Also he had signs that he was capable such as going in the corner away from people when he had to poop. By the end of the week he got the hang of it. I also just had him sitting on the potty for peeing . The first few days he needed to sit on the seat awhile before he pee'd, so in the beginning he was able to do poops as well because he was used to sitting there. Also a potty shedule was a MUST. Every 2 hours even if he pee'd only a little. They don't have big bladders and I found he needed to go before 3 hours. He usually had a bm once a day & usually went after lunch so I would have him sit a little longer then to see if he needed to have a poop. If not, I'd have him sit a little longer later in the evening if he didn't poop earlier in the day. When they have the hang of it then ask them if they need to potty on regular intervals for those who get caught up in their activities.
But what definitely worked for my daughter did not work for my son. Every child is diff as to what methods they respond to. Ex. small rewards, potty charts, more rigid potty schedules etc... But I think the key is if the child is showing signs of "readiness".

Good luck
Cathy
 
I think boys are just harder to train. My 3 yr just trained. You are right, you cannot push it too much. I finally just put my son in underwear and trained him that way. We only had 2 accidents. I guess it felt worse - you can also put plastic under pants over the underwear. I also made it a big deal about picking out his new underwear, ya know, race cars, spider man.
I would ask him every 20 min. and sometimes insist he try to go when I do. Pooping was a little harder - because they get used to being in the position they go in the diaper. I tried to explain to him to figure out how it was comfortable for him. He would ask me to put a diaper on him so he could go poop -I would just refuse and eventually he would go on the toilet. Eventually he started going by himeself and we made a big deal about it EVERY time! And then finally we rewarded him with a trip to Chucky Cheese.
When they are being difficult it is time consuming and NOT FUN!
I know all kids are different when it comes to this - so I wish you tons of LUCK in finding "the key" to traning your sweet boy.

Lisa
 
I agree that boys are harder to train. My oldest son who is now five took forever to train. I kept trying and trying with no luck, until one day he decided that he was going to go on his own. Even then it was hit and miss. But I am happy to say that he is now potty trained and has been for a while. We still have some bumps in the road every once in a while, but nothing to get upset about.

Just hang in there. Be patient, it will happen, I promise!!!

Lea
 
I potty trained my son last summer(2.5) and what worked for me was not putting any underwear or diaper on for a few days till he got the hang of going in the toliet. I also put him on backwards. He liked to see what was going on. Once he got the hang of going sitting down we trained him to stand up. He never has had much of a problem going poop in the toliet, which is lucky. The cheerios worked on those times like before bed when he felt like he didn't need to go or before going out somewhere. We also pretended it was a light saber (he likes starwars). Just make sure you expect accidents once in a while. Sometimes he would accidently wet the bed and it would send him back down the accident road. So we'd do the no underwear thing again for a few days till he got the hang of it again.

Good luck!
Lindsay
 
Ohhhh yeah!! My son will be 2.5 in October and we are seeing this in our near future ;) Readiness includes the beginnings of better physical control and being able to communicate with you about needing to go and recognizing the feeling. I know we are not there yet but I am bracing with my catcher's toilet, mask, and knee pads. Boooyah!


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I know your frustration well :( I had a really hard time potty training my son. It took till he was 4 yrs and I believe to this day that the only reason I got him potty trained was because he wanted to go to preschool so bad and I told him that to go to school he had to be potty trained. I made a deal with him that he go on the potty and I would sign him up for school. Amazingly enough he was potty trained within 2.5 months. One other thing also helped, I made a big potty chart out of poster board and bought lots of stickers and small toys such as hotwheels etc. and every time Wyatt went on the potty he got a sticker and after 5 stickers he got a car. This helped alot since my son is a motorhead ;-)
 
I hear ya too Anne! My DS (now 4) wasn't potty trained until he was 3 1/2. The daycare even started his class on potty training when he was a few months shy of turning 2. Each child is ready at different times. I hope my DD will be easier to potty train. At night we still have DS wear a pull-up because no matter how many times we get him up to use the potty he still wets the bed. DH & I were both bedwetters as children so it must be genetics at work. From everyone I have spoken to boys have been harder to potty train than girls. Good Luck!
 
There is a book you can probably still get at the library called "potty training in less than a day". I won't go into specifics here as I will get slammed for sure, but just read it and make your own judgement.
After 4 kids I was ready for the last one to be potty trained once and for all!!! It worked for us. Maybe notin one day, but he was potty trained say, 90% by the end of 3-4 days. Totally potty trained shortly there after.
Good luck
 
I have two boys, and the longer you wait the better. He is showing signs of being aware of his body functions, which is the first step, but you cannot, I repeat, cannot rush this any further. He will let you know when he is ready for the next step. I waited until the 3 year mark came around, and both of my boys trained very well.
You cannot rush this, if you do everyone will suffer.
 
I have been through this twice with boys. They are hard to train. My first one started training around age 3 and took 6 months. He would not poop in the potty.....only pee. Then he started holding his poop. He held it one time for 7 days. I had to give him laxatives. He still holds his poop and he is almost 6.

My 2nd son started around age 3 and was trained in less than a week.

I used cheerios in the toilet for the boys to have a target to aim at. I would take cheerios everywhere.....

Sara
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