I'm having a moment

[divagirl]

So I just moved into my new place by myself and totally loved it for the first 2 days even though at night I did feel a little strange by myself. Yesterday I got my dog and brought him over to stay now and he's very high strung and of course upset with his new surroundings. I had a hard time sleeping last night as my stomach was in knots with uneasiness and anxiety. This morning I woke up and just felt "alone and uneasy". On top of that I am writing this outside the apartment so I can give my dog 10 minutes without me because tomorrow I have work and it will be the first time he is alone.

Honestly, I feel somewhat upset because I've also taken my dog away from the family as well and he's almost always had someone in the house with him for years now. I feel really bad about that even though he's closest with me. I guess I need some words of encouragement because I've spent a lot of time crying today.

 

[DEEDEE]

I felt the same way the first time I lived on my own. Believe me in about a week or two you will have your own routine down and life will be great because of the freedom of living by your own rules.

As far as your dog goes, here is one trick I learned from GDU; give your dog one of his favorite can't resist treats, walk out the door, then come right back in and take it from him. Do this about 3 times and the last time you leave, he will be so relieved that you didn't come back and interrupt his goodie that he will probably settle down to enjoy his treat and not stress about you being gone for a while. You might also think about doggie day care if that service is available and affordable in your area.

Take care and enjoy your new place!

DeeDee

 

[JenL13]

Moving out on your own is an adjustment that takes time, especially if you are used to have people around 24/7. If you start feeling lonely either invite someone over or take the dog for a walk or go to the park, shopping, etc... Trust me, you will get used to it & if you are anything like me LOVE living by yourself... well, me & the two kids(cats)! Give it a while & if you really still hate living alone maybe consider a roommate?

As for the dog being lonely have you considered adopting another dog so he has a buddy? If that is an option I think that would be great for him and for you so you don't feel "guilty" about him being alone. It would also give another homeless pet a loving home- everyone wins!

Not sure I helped but wanted to try!

 

[divagirl]

Thanks ladies. I keep trying to remind myself of all this. I like the treat suggestion but I wonder if that will really work because I tried to give him a treat as I was leaving this morning and he was so upset that he just spit it out to come after me.

 

[amybajamy]

I was also going to suggest adopting another dog if possible. I'm sure he would love the company while you're at work.