How do you handle someone like this?

[laura35]

Hello,
I started running two years ago and I have a sister in law who also runs. She is so competative with everyone around her including her own sister. Her sister has gotten to the point to where she doesnt run with her anymore and has been avoiding speding as much time with her period. Anyway, a friend of mine took a class with my sister inlaw yesterday and my sister inlaw was quizing her on how much I have been running and how far. We are suppose to do a 1/2marathon in may and I told her my long runs will be on saturdays since I already run with a friend on that day. She also has had my brother ask be questions about how far I ran and where I ran. I am like whats up with that? she must be worried that If I am running too much that I could beat her in a race. My friend beat her in a 5k once and after I finished the first thing she said to me was mckensie beat me. Nobody else cared who placed before who but she does. She is always acting like she has to come first because if she doesnt then she is pissed. has any of you delt with someone like that?and if so ,what did you do?I was like her sister, I eventually change my workouts to be on opposite days because she was making me dread my workouts. since doing this I am enjoying running again.I dont care who is faster than who but when someone acts like that all the time it makes you not want to be around them. anyway thanks and any advice would be appreciated.

 

[ldy_solana]

just don't workout with her if its making you dread workouts. i wouldn't tiptoe about it either. some might say that isn't the way to do it but i will be brutally honest. she is acting like she knows it all and thinks if somebody doesn't do it the way she thinks is right then she feels the right to critcize. everybody works at their own pace and that is how it should be. to do what you feel when you feel its right for you. there is one thing about friendly competition but this sounds more like an ego thing and you really don't need all that around you. just focus on your goals and your way of getting there and leave the rest behind. if she gets mad TFB(guess what those letters mean LOL). its not about her its about YOU.

kassia



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[Imafitnessfreak]

I can ceratinly see why you would be frustrated but try to put it into perspective...who's problem is this? It's her demond, don't let someone elses demond ruin your day, workout or race.

I'm the type who would have fun with it! You can coach your DH to give honest answers about your workouts or you could coach him to give not so honest answers about your workouts "Laura ran for 3 hours Saturday!":7 After a race she says "So and so beat me"...I'd respond with "Look on the bright side...you beat me". What's the harm since you ran for the fun of it anyway.

Don't allow something that torments one persons life torment your own. I feel sorry for her. How can she enjoy such a beautiful sport when her goal is to beat someone else all the time. What hell.

 

[laura35]

thanks, you guys are so right. If I was like that I would think it would eat away at me. It is her problem. I love running too much to let anyone ruin my enjoyment that I get from it!!!!