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You guys are sweet, thanks. 
BAM, I don't really attract lousy people so much as I have no idea what folks are saying in a large group, which leads to some very interesting internal dialogue, as you can imagine. But thanks for the offer. I've already done my time in therapy!
Marie
BAM, I don't really attract lousy people so much as I have no idea what folks are saying in a large group, which leads to some very interesting internal dialogue, as you can imagine. But thanks for the offer. I've already done my time in therapy!
Marie
Momentary highjack of this thread!
Marie, I think we talked about this before? About my DH having limited hearing? Of course I don't share the experience but I do understand what you are talking about because I see it with DH, at parties or in large groups. Dinner parties can be tough because he just won't hear anyone seated on his left side, especially, and if more than one person is talking at once, forget it. It's very isolating. I try to sit next to him so I can let him know if he's missed something but these hostesses with their seating arrangements keep putting me next to other people. Grrrrrr....
Anyway, no real point to my post except to say you're not alone!
Sparrow
Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming ‘Wow - what a ride!’ — Peter Sage
Marie, I think we talked about this before? About my DH having limited hearing? Of course I don't share the experience but I do understand what you are talking about because I see it with DH, at parties or in large groups. Dinner parties can be tough because he just won't hear anyone seated on his left side, especially, and if more than one person is talking at once, forget it. It's very isolating. I try to sit next to him so I can let him know if he's missed something but these hostesses with their seating arrangements keep putting me next to other people. Grrrrrr....
Anyway, no real point to my post except to say you're not alone!
Sparrow
Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming ‘Wow - what a ride!’ — Peter Sage
Marie, ahhhh, the lovely internal dialogue. I just wish there was a switch to turn this off. I keep trying to replace all the thoughts I don't want with more pleasant and positive ones. I'll tell ya, it's not easy and sometimes it works better than others but I do keep trying. At least I'll answer myself back which is more than I can say for actually talking to some people, lol.
Bam
Bam
nancy324
Cathlete
WOW Sparrow! That is surprising to me. I have no women friends myself, but I assume that's because I don't leave the house or the office much, so I don't meet many people. But I know that most of my clients like me, so that keeps me from getting too paranoid. As for you, I can only guess that most women are intimidated by how smart and expressive and articulate you are. I don't know what you look like, but if you're attractive also, that could be a double whammy. What do you think?
And by the way, I REALLY like you, as you probably know by now.
-Nancy
And by the way, I REALLY like you, as you probably know by now.
-Nancy
melodygirl
Cathlete
>Melody, thanks for describing yourself to us, }( , but
>obviously Michelle & Robin know a few other things about you
>so don't try and pass yourself off as all innocent here. I
>guess we'll all be finding out what they already know!
>
>Bam
Bam, what could you mean? Michele & Robin, I'm sending sunshine and lollipops your way...see I'm not the meany.;( :+
>obviously Michelle & Robin know a few other things about you
>so don't try and pass yourself off as all innocent here. I
>guess we'll all be finding out what they already know!
>
>Bam
Bam, what could you mean? Michele & Robin, I'm sending sunshine and lollipops your way...see I'm not the meany.;( :+
YasBeFit
Cathlete
Thanks for posting this,Sparrow! I totally agree that we carry stuff over from our non-cyber life. For ex., when I come to this board I sometimes feel like I am crashing a party where everybody knows each other. So, because of this I don't post to certain threads (i.e. the <--- thread) because I just don't get all the inside jokes or feel like I am not part of "the group". I exclude myself from a lot of things in "real life" because I decide that I just don't belong (or like you said other women don't like me)! I do this to myself ALL THE TIME!! How can people not like me when they don't even know me? Duh!
I am one of those "quiet" observers in real life where I rather listen than speak in groups and that's why I prefer to lurk rather than post. In fact, it seems like when I post the thread just dies (yup, that's a perception thing, too!)
Anyways, thanks for sharing this because a little light bulb went off in my head! We often say self-defeating things to ourselves over and over and wonder why things don't change.
I do this to myself ALL THE TIME!! How can people not like me when they don't even know me? Duh!I am one of those "quiet" observers in real life where I rather listen than speak in groups and that's why I prefer to lurk rather than post. In fact, it seems like when I post the thread just dies (yup, that's a perception thing, too!)
Anyways, thanks for sharing this because a little light bulb went off in my head!
We often say self-defeating things to ourselves over and over and wonder why things don't change.
kathryn
Cathlete
>For ex., when I come
>to this board I sometimes feel like I am crashing a party
>where everybody knows each other. So, because of this I don't
>post to certain threads (i.e. the <--- thread) because I just
>don't get all the inside jokes or feel like I am not part of
>"the group".
That's always the way I feel on a new board. It takes a while to really feel like you are part of the group.
I joined a new forum a few months ago, and even though it is a very welcoming and inclusive bunch, I felt like an intruder for a while. Now, I'm one of the regulars, and I "know" quite a few of the posters there.
>to this board I sometimes feel like I am crashing a party
>where everybody knows each other. So, because of this I don't
>post to certain threads (i.e. the <--- thread) because I just
>don't get all the inside jokes or feel like I am not part of
>"the group".
That's always the way I feel on a new board. It takes a while to really feel like you are part of the group.
I joined a new forum a few months ago, and even though it is a very welcoming and inclusive bunch, I felt like an intruder for a while. Now, I'm one of the regulars, and I "know" quite a few of the posters there.
>WOW Sparrow! That is surprising to me. I have no women
>friends myself, but I assume that's because I don't leave the
>house or the office much, so I don't meet many people. But I
>know that most of my clients like me, so that keeps me from
>getting too paranoid. As for you, I can only guess that most
>women are intimidated by how smart and expressive and
>articulate you are. I don't know what you look like, but if
>you're attractive also, that could be a double whammy. What
>do you think?
>
>And by the way, I REALLY like you, as you probably know by
>now.
>
>-Nancy
Nancy, you are always so sweet in your posts to me! I don't know that I deserve it...I'm such a bumbler in my everyday life. I really don't know about women not really liking me. Luckily I have my couple of girlfriends, my sister and DH As for my appeareance, well I spent most of my adult life overweight with a bad hairstyle and the WRONG makeup. Now I've slimmed down, get my hair done professionally and consult experts on makeup, and don't mind saying that at 37, I'm damned cute.:+
Also, I want to say that I admire your posts and what I know of you as a human being. You are always forthright without being insulting or ignorant. I think of you as a strong woman in possession of grace and elegance.
Sparrow
Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming ‘Wow - what a ride!’ — Peter Sage
>friends myself, but I assume that's because I don't leave the
>house or the office much, so I don't meet many people. But I
>know that most of my clients like me, so that keeps me from
>getting too paranoid. As for you, I can only guess that most
>women are intimidated by how smart and expressive and
>articulate you are. I don't know what you look like, but if
>you're attractive also, that could be a double whammy. What
>do you think?
>
>And by the way, I REALLY like you, as you probably know by
>now.
>
>-Nancy
Nancy, you are always so sweet in your posts to me! I don't know that I deserve it...I'm such a bumbler in my everyday life. I really don't know about women not really liking me. Luckily I have my couple of girlfriends, my sister and DH
As for my appeareance, well I spent most of my adult life overweight with a bad hairstyle and the WRONG makeup. Now I've slimmed down, get my hair done professionally and consult experts on makeup, and don't mind saying that at 37, I'm damned cute.:+ Also, I want to say that I admire your posts and what I know of you as a human being. You are always forthright without being insulting or ignorant. I think of you as a strong woman in possession of grace and elegance.
Sparrow
Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming ‘Wow - what a ride!’ — Peter Sage
>Thanks for posting this,Sparrow! I totally agree that we
>carry stuff over from our non-cyber life. For ex., when I come
>to this board I sometimes feel like I am crashing a party
>where everybody knows each other. So, because of this I don't
>post to certain threads (i.e. the <--- thread) because I just
>don't get all the inside jokes or feel like I am not part of
>"the group". I exclude myself from a lot of things in "real
>life" because I decide that I just don't belong (or like you
>said other women don't like me)! I do this to myself ALL
>THE TIME!! How can people not like me when they don't even
>know me? Duh!
>
>I am one of those "quiet" observers in real life where I
>rather listen than speak in groups and that's why I prefer to
>lurk rather than post. In fact, it seems like when I post the
>thread just dies (yup, that's a perception thing, too!)
>
>Anyways, thanks for sharing this because a little light bulb
>went off in my head! We often say self-defeating things to
>ourselves over and over and wonder why things don't change.
Yas,
I've had the same experience and feelings. Isn't it funny that it seems like we all have the same thoughts, that we are interlopers or somehow don't belong? Nice that we have this board AND this thread and can share and realize we aren't alone.
Sparrow
Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming ‘Wow - what a ride!’ — Peter Sage
>carry stuff over from our non-cyber life. For ex., when I come
>to this board I sometimes feel like I am crashing a party
>where everybody knows each other. So, because of this I don't
>post to certain threads (i.e. the <--- thread) because I just
>don't get all the inside jokes or feel like I am not part of
>"the group". I exclude myself from a lot of things in "real
>life" because I decide that I just don't belong (or like you
>said other women don't like me)!
I do this to myself ALL>THE TIME!! How can people not like me when they don't even
>know me? Duh!
>
>I am one of those "quiet" observers in real life where I
>rather listen than speak in groups and that's why I prefer to
>lurk rather than post. In fact, it seems like when I post the
>thread just dies (yup, that's a perception thing, too!)
>
>Anyways, thanks for sharing this because a little light bulb
>went off in my head!
We often say self-defeating things to>ourselves over and over and wonder why things don't change.
Yas,
I've had the same experience and feelings. Isn't it funny that it seems like we all have the same thoughts, that we are interlopers or somehow don't belong? Nice that we have this board AND this thread and can share and realize we aren't alone.
Sparrow
Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming ‘Wow - what a ride!’ — Peter Sage
lisaannjam
Cathlete
First...HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY SUSAN!!
I get very busy with work and sometimes cannot check the forums everyday. But, when I can I go back a few pages and try to catch up. I think posts sometimes just get missed. So absolutely BUMP your post if you feel it's been missed or ignored. We do care.
I get very busy with work and sometimes cannot check the forums everyday. But, when I can I go back a few pages and try to catch up. I think posts sometimes just get missed. So absolutely BUMP your post if you feel it's been missed or ignored. We do care.
crabbyella
Cathlete
Sometimes people have time to answer you and sometimes they don't. You just can't take stuff like personally. I mean there are so many people on this board it is not like we could form a conspiracy to actively ignore someone. So, just assume your post was buried, people didn't have anything to say or you just caught everyone at a particulary busy moment.
KIM
KIM