I have an opportunity to move out of my parent's house but am having anxiety over doing it. Our lives are very intertwined especially over several years of caring for a sick family member who still requires care. One part of me feels I don't want to lose this opportunity and the other part feels so afraid of the unknown and how this will affect everyone. I'm too old to live with them forever and circumstances have had me stay longer than planned. Any advice on dealing with these fears?
anyone ever have fear of cutting family ties?
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dss62467
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Of course. It's not even family ties, it's just a fear of change. You're comfortable and happy where you are and you don't know if the change will work out well for you. But if you don't ever take risks, nothing will ever happen.
The beauty of it being your family that you'd be leaving is that they love you and will always be there for you if things don't work out and you need to come back. You'll probably find that if things don't work out like you want, you don't necessarily want to go back to your family and you will find another path.
My way of dealing with fears has always been to meet them head-on. I control them, they don't control me. If I'm afraid to do something, that's when I'm most likely to do it, just so I can prove to myself that I'm not afraid. But be smart about it too. I'm afraid to sing naked in front of a crowd of people in downtown Buffalo...I won't be meeting that fear head-on.
The beauty of it being your family that you'd be leaving is that they love you and will always be there for you if things don't work out and you need to come back. You'll probably find that if things don't work out like you want, you don't necessarily want to go back to your family and you will find another path.
My way of dealing with fears has always been to meet them head-on. I control them, they don't control me. If I'm afraid to do something, that's when I'm most likely to do it, just so I can prove to myself that I'm not afraid. But be smart about it too. I'm afraid to sing naked in front of a crowd of people in downtown Buffalo...I won't be meeting that fear head-on.
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It's hard to leave. TRUST ME, I know. I lived with my mom until I got married at 31 years old! I was petrified of going out on my own and failing. My fear was predominantly financial. I WANTED my own space in the worst way but couldn't see how I would afford it w/o cutting out soooo much that I enjoy that it wouldn't be worth it so I held tight and stayed put. Once married, my DH and I were able to purchase a very modest home which we have been living in for 4 years now. It's a scarey thing but soooo worth it if you can do it. If my DH and I ever split for any reason I would try my hardest to make it on my own. I love my mom but would not want to move back home after living on my own unless I absolutely had to!
Good luck with your decision!
Good luck with your decision!
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I was once in your shoes....living at home with Mom and Dad who I love to death. BUT they were driving me crazy! They were so high-strung, and I just could not live every day life with knots in my stomach. I moved out at 27 years old.
I love my family and I put them first always. My husband and I live close enough to our families and I am so thankful for this!
I think you should follow your heart and your dreams. You can always go and try it on your own, and if you choose to come back to your family, then so let it be.
Good luck with your tough decision!
"Life is too short - Be the best you can be every single day!"
I love my family and I put them first always. My husband and I live close enough to our families and I am so thankful for this!
I think you should follow your heart and your dreams. You can always go and try it on your own, and if you choose to come back to your family, then so let it be.
Good luck with your tough decision!
"Life is too short - Be the best you can be every single day!"