I never saw this thread before but have plenty of thoughts. I have felt pretty invisible my whole life to everyone, although I don't hide. And I'm very much ignored by men. Now that I am 51 I realize I wish I could've told my young self never even try to look attractive because no one will ever even consider me as such. Just a few weeks ago I had a man at work say to my face that I am funny looking. I am very much seen as worthless because I don't have a husband and/or kids. It is like a single woman my age doesn't amount to anything. I feel it from people at work and from my family. You know the song that says you're nobody until somebody loves you? Apparently in my case that is true.
One way I am not invisible is that I shave my head and it attracts a lot of nasty comments. As if a no woman in her right mind would ever shave her head because her hair is what makes her beautiful and a woman has to be perceived as beautiful. I literally have been told, to my face, that I am ugly. Even stranger is that people feel comfortable telling me what is wrong with me, like they are somehow perfect. But I also get a jealous vibe from women because I'm taller, fitter, and thinner than they are and somehow I have it made?! I find it very difficult to hear women constantly complain about whatever body image hang up they have but they've had significant others in their lives and I've never been on a date!
Well, there is a dose of honesty if anyone is interested. Definitely a different perspective at least . . .